Do u feel as if TTC is a burden? a barrier?

I mean.. do u always feel u wana do something but then say.. "wait! I am TTC!"

Sometimes I say.. I am gona do a diet.. then it is.. No I cant coz I am TTC...
I wana eat this.. Oh no! I am TTC..
I wana do that.. Oh no.. I am TTC!..

This gotta stop!! I feel ttc is not letting me do some normal stuff.. I am giving up on everything.. for TTC? This is stopping.

Since today I am normal again... TTC? I dont care about you..anymore! I am doing everything I used to.. so back off!!!!!!!!!!

Anyone feels this way?

i think we all do at some point through TTC. I know i don't touch alcohol. I never really was a drinker, but occasionally i will socially if we're visiting a friends place, but now i just grab a soda or water.

here's something funny my DH started just last week. I told him about possible hot water baths etc may cause some sperm to die lol and now he refuses to shower before we BD lol and wants to shower after!!! he comes home from long day of work and i am like "GO SHOWER!" and he's like "not until after! i don't want them to die!" he's too cute lol so i guess this sort of thing can happen to men too during TTC

Well i think eating healthier because of TTC is a positive thing...what could be bad with eating more greens and dropping some fatty things like fast food? But i've seen some take it to extremes and maybe canceling recreational and fun things because they 'don't want to ruin something'. I say go out and have fun, take a vacation, go on a trip, you'll be fine...maybe it'll even increase your TTC chances.

i just carry on as normal, still having a drink at a w'end, going to aerobics, eating the same.. . my aerobics instructor took the class till she was 6mths pg and ran everyday. I'm not letting it take over my life as in stopping me from doing anythihng, as i think that will just make me miserable, even more so. I truly think that the egg will attach if it wants to, having a drink or jumping around is not going to stop this happenin. Obviously this will all change when i am pg but you can't restrict your life completely now or ttc will feel like a complete burden and affect your relationship

I agree with loopeylew i try as best to carry on as normal eg drinking, being pretty good with diet in the week but relaxing it at weekends, the only thing i have come across lately was deciding whether to book a holiday as i don't know if / when i will fall pg and wouldn't want to fly in my 1st trimester. It's so easy to let ttc take over

It is true. I know I have it at the back of my mind when doing certain things. I have given up smoking wasn't a heavy smoker in the first place. Now I have given up alcohol no more glasses of wine with my dinner for me. When I go out I think let me order an orange juice but u know what it is up to you. I feel you should do things that make you happy coz feeling stressed out is not helping at all. Some people decide to still have the odd bit of this and the odd but of that even if they know it's not good. I believe it will happen when it happens and the odd naughty thing can't have that much of an affect.

i do everything the same,i try and not let it control my life,but i guess it does more mentally.
xx

I try to do everything the same also, I have friends who have gotten pregnant when they drink more than anything and smoke like a chimney... not that I would do that! I don't drink too much anyway or smoke, and I don't want to make ttc any harder than it is.

The only thing that I am concerned about is that my friends want us to go to Bulgaria with them in July... and they are coming around this weekend to book the flights, but I don't want to go if I am pregnant, but I don't want to put it off then by July I am not pregnant and I have no holiday so I am stuck.

I do understand completely, mentally, it does take over my life... and that is enough to drive me .

Good luck and treat yourself a little.

I agree with the girls, dont let it take over your life. Try and carry on as normal. I have just got a book out in the library in hope that I can also divert my attention (worth a try!).

I am similar to most of the girls on here, going on with life as much as normal as possible. Although I am now temping and charting which is not normal!!! I've cut down my alcohol, and I'm now not really missing those glasses of wine with my steak (well, not too much). But your life can't stop because you are TTC. Hubby & I will be on a 10hr plane journey in early march - we decided that we can't put off going places because I 'might' be pregnant. I just hope its the right decision.....

too many what ifs.....
alcohol.... 200 calories in 1 beer, not sure how many in wine but stopping will slim you down.
i have seen to many FAS babies to even consider taking 1 drink pre conceive and during pregnancy.
Smoking is a no brainer ..I read somewhere there are 2,500 chemicals in tobacco
Eating extra veggies and dairy is actually good for your health and weight.
No sushi and shellfish kind of suck but thats ok.

As an older "wanna be mom" I can cut back what I need to , to have a healthy full term baby.
Sorry if this sounds like a bit of a rant...but I MC in Nov and I did everything wrong as I didn't know I was preggers until 8 weeks.

anyway........healthy babies to all.