MissMonty

I've been having some issues at work and have been told today that I am being re-located to another team because I am the only person who was in the frame for being re-located who has not got any children. I've been TTC for 6 months now and feeling very sensitive about the issue. Anyway I told my boss that I think this is unfair and then he asked me straight out 'so are you and your husband TTC or planning to soon?' then he said 'your not going to tell me your pregnant now are you?' this has really upset me! Can't believe he said that - surely he can not ask these types of questions - now I'm wondering if he wants to get me out of his team because he thinks I'm going to get pregnant - if only it was that easy!

Just wanted to share this as tried talking with my DH earlier but he did not understand why I was upset and as we’ve not told anyone we’re TTC I thought some others here may understand or have some advice.

Thanks – I haven’t posted on here for a while – just been lurking

Vickie

That was very insensitive of your boss to say. It really is none of his business to ask you that question, and you are under no obligation to tell him if you are TTC or even pregnant early on.

Tishimouse

Do you have a boss who is above this man? If so, you should go to them and tell them exactly what has been said to you and that it upsets you.

He has absolutely NO right whatsover to say this to you and you would have grounds to take him to court should you be moved now against your will. Of course there would be the issue of proving what he has said. This is a very delicate issue and you will have to be careful how you deal with it. This type of person, once backed into a corner will no doubt be prepared to lie to cover up their mistake and avoid prosecution.

Trust me, he has no right and is in breach of your human rights. It might be worth your while seeking advice from a citizens advice bureau first.

I think it is terrible that in this day and age a boss has spoken to you this way. He is treading on very thin ice indeed. Actually, it is not just him who would get into trouble, but the whole company ... so speaking to a bigger boss would be ideal. The sooner the better as you should nip this one in the bud.

Best of luck and for the way they have made you feel.

wishes

i agree with the others... completely out of order. Go speak to someone above him.

Carolina

what a %&(*&()&$! is it a big company you work for? Its female racism if you ask me! Maybe if your moved though it would be good because you wouldnt have to work for him!! A lot of companies have an anonomous (sp) phone no. you can phone to complain about things like this! I used to get grief from a boss who i used to wrok for coz he wanted me to wear a dress or skirt all the time...i left the job but i wish id complained!

StirCrazy

Stupid guy shot himself in the foot - you could take things further if you wanted to. Definitely a form of discrimination.

leeanne

That certainly was a wrong thing to say! The nerve of him and, yes, definitely none of his business.

faith_may

I totally agree

loopylew

it is discrimination hun, even if he was thinking it as a boss he should never had actually said it to you, i think its disgusting if he is allowed to get away with that, i would definately raise it with his manager (if he has one)

keerthy

I agree with others... this man has NO right to question abt ur personal life.......
talk to someone above..... don't leave him like that!!!!