telling people

jodie4805 · Sep 16th, 2009, 07:24 AM

I was just wondering how many people you have all told that you are TTC & how you went about it?

I told some close friends at the weekend, but haven't yet plucked up the courage to tell my parents & I'm on cycle 7. I've been waiting to get pregnant before telling them, but as that hasn't happened I'm starting to think I should just tell them. I guess I'm worriend, as I'm not married or in a conventional relationship & not sure how they would take it.

Nel.B · Sep 16th, 2009, 07:43 AM

I have only told my mother in law, my best friend and the girls at work. DH doesn't want us to tell other family or friends until I fall and I'm at least 12 weeks. I think other people have guessed though.

schlaus · Sep 16th, 2009, 08:51 AM

We are not supposed to be telling people, but I have told my mom and hubby has been telling his suppliers

.hubbies parents guessed from my status on facebook (just said hubbie had made me very happy) and my auntie guessed when mom told her that I had given up smoking...which I suppose is a massive clue.

NGRidley · Sep 16th, 2009, 08:54 AM

We are not telling anyone!

DH family have been wanting us to have a baby for years, even before we were ready or married.

I know that if I tell people, everytime I talk to them or see them all I will hear is "So you pregnant yet????"

If it takes me a long time to get pregnant, I know I will be upset and frustrated being asked all the time about it.

So we will tell people after it happens....and I am thinking not till 1st tri is almost over

umm · Sep 16th, 2009, 11:21 AM

I have told most people we are trying as it has been so long now and i add that in by saying we are trying but nothing is happening, this way people dont ask me as they know I have been trying for a while and I find its good to be able to say oh my period has come as they can understand how much it must hurt and its nice to talk about it, :thumbup

Mrs_N · Sep 16th, 2009, 11:53 AM

we are on cycle 7, been trying since January. We have not told anyone and not planning to either - I can't be doing with people asking all the time are you pregnant yet??

katzone · Sep 16th, 2009, 11:58 AM

We haven't told anyone, not planning to either. Mainly for reasons like those above about people asking if you are "pregnant yet?"
Also because hubbys brother and SIL took years to conceive their first and not long ago she suffered a MC

so I don't want to upset them by saying we are TTC in case it happens quickly for us when I know they have problems.

congo · Sep 16th, 2009, 12:03 PM

we're not telling anyone. i wud go mad if people continually asked well any news?

grrrr even thinkin about it makes me mad lol af temper today, not gd lol

purple01 · Sep 16th, 2009, 12:27 PM

We're not telling anyone either, for same reasons as mentioned by others.

Although I already get the 'any babies yet?'/'any baby plans?' questions when I visit other offices for work. At certain offices most people already have kids, and as we just bought a house they obviously assume it's the next step. Well they are right but my response to them is 'no, no plans for a while yet' feel like such a liar lol But I know it would be so much worse if they knew we were actually trying!

We are only on cycle 2 and are hoping it won't take too long, but if it does then I might consider telling my mum. We are close and I know she wouldn't tell anyone.

But hopefully it'll happen within a few months and we can surprise everyone with our news

fx'd!

Pretty Sakura · Sep 16th, 2009, 12:37 PM

I wasn't going to tell anyone until i was past my first tri. Then I broke down and told my sister. My mom asked me about it and to avoid any further questions I told her I started charting to make sure my cycles are ok and such. Which lets her know a little about what I'm doing but vague enough not to ask unless I say something first. Other than that not telling anyone else. I have a bunch of ppl who would constantly ask me questions and I don't want to deal with that! Just don't think it's anyone else' s business yet. But that's just me.

Sep 16th, 2009, 07:24 AM	#1
jodie4805 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 319	telling people I was just wondering how many people you have all told that you are TTC & how you went about it? I told some close friends at the weekend, but haven't yet plucked up the courage to tell my parents & I'm on cycle 7. I've been waiting to get pregnant before telling them, but as that hasn't happened I'm starting to think I should just tell them. I guess I'm worriend, as I'm not married or in a conventional relationship & not sure how they would take it.

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Sep 16th, 2009, 07:43 AM	#2
Nel.B Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: NSW, Australia Posts: 460	I have only told my mother in law, my best friend and the girls at work. DH doesn't want us to tell other family or friends until I fall and I'm at least 12 weeks. I think other people have guessed though.

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Sep 16th, 2009, 08:51 AM	#3
schlaus Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 16	We are not supposed to be telling people, but I have told my mom and hubby has been telling his suppliers.hubbies parents guessed from my status on facebook (just said hubbie had made me very happy) and my auntie guessed when mom told her that I had given up smoking...which I suppose is a massive clue.

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Sep 16th, 2009, 08:54 AM	#4
NGRidley Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 2,372	We are not telling anyone! DH family have been wanting us to have a baby for years, even before we were ready or married. I know that if I tell people, everytime I talk to them or see them all I will hear is "So you pregnant yet????" If it takes me a long time to get pregnant, I know I will be upset and frustrated being asked all the time about it. So we will tell people after it happens....and I am thinking not till 1st tri is almost over

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Sep 16th, 2009, 11:21 AM	#5
umm Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: hampshire Posts: 800	I have told most people we are trying as it has been so long now and i add that in by saying we are trying but nothing is happening, this way people dont ask me as they know I have been trying for a while and I find its good to be able to say oh my period has come as they can understand how much it must hurt and its nice to talk about it, :thumbup

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Sep 16th, 2009, 11:53 AM	#6
Mrs_N Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Posts: 5,078	we are on cycle 7, been trying since January. We have not told anyone and not planning to either - I can't be doing with people asking all the time are you pregnant yet??

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Sep 16th, 2009, 11:58 AM	#7
katzone Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 1,187	We haven't told anyone, not planning to either. Mainly for reasons like those above about people asking if you are "pregnant yet?" Also because hubbys brother and SIL took years to conceive their first and not long ago she suffered a MC so I don't want to upset them by saying we are TTC in case it happens quickly for us when I know they have problems.

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Sep 16th, 2009, 12:03 PM	#8
congo Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: N Ireland Posts: 577	we're not telling anyone. i wud go mad if people continually asked well any news? grrrr even thinkin about it makes me mad lol af temper today, not gd lol

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Sep 16th, 2009, 12:27 PM	#9
purple01 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,421	We're not telling anyone either, for same reasons as mentioned by others. Although I already get the 'any babies yet?'/'any baby plans?' questions when I visit other offices for work. At certain offices most people already have kids, and as we just bought a house they obviously assume it's the next step. Well they are right but my response to them is 'no, no plans for a while yet' feel like such a liar lol But I know it would be so much worse if they knew we were actually trying! We are only on cycle 2 and are hoping it won't take too long, but if it does then I might consider telling my mum. We are close and I know she wouldn't tell anyone. But hopefully it'll happen within a few months and we can surprise everyone with our news fx'd!

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Sep 16th, 2009, 12:37 PM	#10
Pretty Sakura Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 10,787	I wasn't going to tell anyone until i was past my first tri. Then I broke down and told my sister. My mom asked me about it and to avoid any further questions I told her I started charting to make sure my cycles are ok and such. Which lets her know a little about what I'm doing but vague enough not to ask unless I say something first. Other than that not telling anyone else. I have a bunch of ppl who would constantly ask me questions and I don't want to deal with that! Just don't think it's anyone else' s business yet. But that's just me.

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