CapitalChick

First off, I wanted to give you all an update 'cause I've been almost completely absent from B&B for a few weeks.

DH and I got back from our incredible trip yesterday. I'm still on cloud nine just thinking about the whole trip. It was one of the best of my life. And the best part about it is that, while i had such a great time, I'm not sorry to be home at all. I love my home and my life. It's nice to come home and not dread the thought of getting back to real life.

Anyway, the bigger update that I wanted to give is that DH and I have decided to start observing religious 'family planning' rules again, which we committed to observing at our wedding. For those of you who don't know anything about Jewish family planning rules, they are as follows:

For those who observe them, they apply all the time...not just when TTC. The basics are as follows:
-Husband and wife stop having sex as soon as menstruation begins. Menstruation is counted for a minimum of 5 full days. Once menstruation has officially stopped (as determined by an internal examination (with a white cloth), then the woman counts a full 7 days of no bleeding, before immersing herself in a ritual bath. On the night of immersion in the ritual bath, the husband and wife resume having sex.

Now...for the VAST majority of women, this makes them VERY fertile because, if you count, ritual immersion takes place on CD 12, 13 or 14....depending on the length of her cycle, which means she's always SUPER fertile when DH and her resume having sex.

There are many many reasons why couples choose to observe these rules, although primarily because we're supposed to (religiously), and because abstaining from sex for 12-14 days a month helps to keep things....'interesting'...if you know what I mean.

Anyway, we got very lax in our observance of these rules, even though we always agreed to observe them. Instead of counting 7 days before immersing in the bath, we'd usually just count 4 or so. Now, though, we're back to keeping them strictly for the first time this cycle. I'll be immersing in the ritual bath within the next few days (I'd rather keep the exact date kinda private), but according to Fertility Friend, I'll immerse 3 days prior to ovulation...which is perfect!

Vickie

Good luck! I must say I had no idea about Jewish religious rules but found it a really interesting read. I hope you get your soon!

CapitalChick

Yeah...we're hoping that this will help us get our BFP...if for no other reason than we won't make the same mistake as last month...where we BDed so much the week before O, that the day before O and the day of O, we kinda had trouble in that department...OOPS..

cupcake

Im a believer! lol you know my thoughts- dont forget what i said about those words..

Ellianna

Ohh you make me feel rubbish! lol I'm Jewish but I can't say I've ever followed those rules...! My OH is Christian though so we've kinda agreed to leave our religous views at the door when we're together since there are some things we obviosly don't agree on! lol
xx

Mervs Mum

Thats really interesting indeed. If you get your BFP I can imagine this being a very affiming experience, if that makes sense. Good Luck!

diva4180

very cool! good luck to you hun!

Wobbles

That was interesting to read I'd never heard of it

Best of luck x

genkigemini

That is really interesting. Good luck! I will be hoping for your BFP soon!

nikkybaby

Wow! That is interesting! Good luck!!!! I hope it all works out for you! Lots of your way