Mummys with 1 or more LOs already TTC

Linzi · Sep 11th, 2009, 02:17 AM

Is anyone else really really nervous about bringing another child into the house?

Im so nervous that its going to affect Seth badly. I dont want him to get less attention than he does now and I fell like Id have to split my love two ways...

Im also worried that I wouldnt love another baby as much as I love Seth. I dont see how I could?

and its not fair to a child to come 2nd to a sibling IMO...

I know that probably sounds really silly and makes me sound like a nasty person but Im so worried about it, its making me not want another one 'just in case'.

Is it just me?

x

Tudor Rose · Sep 11th, 2009, 03:13 AM

i already have 2 and they were born 16 months apart, i was never worried or anything. but now im trying for my 3rd im constantly worrying how the children will react etc. im even more nervous about the labour etc and im not even pg yet!!!
your not alone

dt1234565 · Sep 11th, 2009, 03:39 AM

Ohh this is hilarious! But so normal too!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are 18 months between DD and DS.

I thought i would not be able to love the second as much as the first and i loved her (still do!), so very very much and she was just so perfect!

We found out at 20 weeks it was boy, well then i thought, "i dont know if i can love a boy as much as a girl!".

As for the attention thing, DS got less than DD did as a baby, i knew DD was a toddler and needed more attention in a way. So long as DS was fed, clean content, asleep etc, i focused on DD. She never had a problem with DS getting more attention.

Is all crap! Course you love them both as much, they love each other dearly too and get on so so well together, BF's! They are an absolute delight, hence wanting more of them!

So dont worry!

I am sure when you were pg with number 1 you wondered all silly things about them too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

MrsLQ · Sep 11th, 2009, 03:44 AM

Hello

have LO already and am not worried about him not getting enough attention or the 2 of them not getting on. I am worried about practical things, like how will I cope. My house is a little messy already and I don't want it to get worse, I worry about meal and bath times, will I be able to get them both working well.

I think you have to make a decision and then stick you it. Some people have said I should wait till lo is in school....I feel this is not for me. I wasn't sure if I could cope with one an he is blossoming like you would not believe. Also I am very lucky in that I have a lot of support, my lo is already walking and feeding himself and sleeps in his own bed. After 9 months of pregnancy, my lo would be going to nursery pt within 6 months. We can do!!!

Good luck with whatever you chose to do, just imagine that 1st kick...do yu really think there is any chance you won't love that baby as much?

Linzi · Sep 11th, 2009, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsLQ

Hello

have LO already and am not worried about him not getting enough attention or the 2 of them not getting on. I am worried about practical things, like how will I cope. My house is a little messy already and I don't want it to get worse, I worry about meal and bath times, will I be able to get them both working well.

I think you have to make a decision and then stick you it. Some people have said I should wait till lo is in school....I feel this is not for me. I wasn't sure if I could cope with one an he is blossoming like you would not believe. Also I am very lucky in that I have a lot of support, my lo is already walking and feeding himself and sleeps in his own bed. After 9 months of pregnancy, my lo would be going to nursery pt within 6 months. We can do!!!

Good luck with whatever you chose to do, just imagine that 1st kick...do yu really think there is any chance you won't love that baby as much?

That made me fill up lol and you're perfectly right. Just thinking about it makes me fall in love with the baby I don't even have.

Thanks for the advice girlies, just what I needed to hear

x

ryder · Sep 11th, 2009, 08:02 AM

You will love your second child... and your third... etc just as much as the first one. It may affect seth a tiny bit in the beginning because its a life changing event, but it wont take long before seth loves his baby brother or sister and enjoys having a playmate!

Then when they are old enough... they will team up against you LOL

Annamumof2 · Sep 11th, 2009, 08:17 AM

i have 2 and there 17 months apart and they get on fine, infact skye teachs jay alot of things and shes the youngest

Linzi · Sep 12th, 2009, 06:30 AM

thanks for all the replies definately made me feel a bit better although I dont think the worries will go away 100% until new baby is here

Just cant imagine life being 4 of us... but I could never imagine there being 3 of us at one stage and he is the best thing thats ever happened to us

x

puffins'mom · Sep 12th, 2009, 13:52 PM

Hi Linzi, i have a DS who is nearly 20months and the light of our lives, i too worried about the attention thing, loving the next baby, what will my DS think of a sibling, will he be unhappy without mommys sole attention?
DH and I decided that a sibling would be a wonderful friend and addition to the family.
i have just fallen preg and already just in the few days i have known i am preg i feel sure it was the right decision and our DS will love playing with his sibling, and i will love this baby in equal amounts, i know it!

so your thoughts are not silly at all, but i am sure Seth will love a sibling.

goodluck in ttc

Linzi · Sep 12th, 2009, 14:00 PM

thank you, and congrats!! x

Sep 11th, 2009, 02:17 AM	#1
Linzi Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Leeds UK Posts: 15,769	Mummys with 1 or more LOs already TTC Is anyone else really really nervous about bringing another child into the house? Im so nervous that its going to affect Seth badly. I dont want him to get less attention than he does now and I fell like Id have to split my love two ways... Im also worried that I wouldnt love another baby as much as I love Seth. I dont see how I could? and its not fair to a child to come 2nd to a sibling IMO... I know that probably sounds really silly and makes me sound like a nasty person but Im so worried about it, its making me not want another one 'just in case'. Is it just me? x

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Sep 11th, 2009, 03:13 AM	#2
Tudor Rose Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Cheshire Posts: 3,486	i already have 2 and they were born 16 months apart, i was never worried or anything. but now im trying for my 3rd im constantly worrying how the children will react etc. im even more nervous about the labour etc and im not even pg yet!!! your not alone

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Sep 11th, 2009, 03:39 AM	#3
dt1234565 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Essex UK Posts: 4,119	Ohh this is hilarious! But so normal too!!!!!!!!!!!! There are 18 months between DD and DS. I thought i would not be able to love the second as much as the first and i loved her (still do!), so very very much and she was just so perfect! We found out at 20 weeks it was boy, well then i thought, "i dont know if i can love a boy as much as a girl!". As for the attention thing, DS got less than DD did as a baby, i knew DD was a toddler and needed more attention in a way. So long as DS was fed, clean content, asleep etc, i focused on DD. She never had a problem with DS getting more attention. Is all crap! Course you love them both as much, they love each other dearly too and get on so so well together, BF's! They are an absolute delight, hence wanting more of them! So dont worry! I am sure when you were pg with number 1 you wondered all silly things about them too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Sep 11th, 2009, 03:44 AM	#4
MrsLQ Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Newtown, Birmingham, UK Posts: 3,309	Hello have LO already and am not worried about him not getting enough attention or the 2 of them not getting on. I am worried about practical things, like how will I cope. My house is a little messy already and I don't want it to get worse, I worry about meal and bath times, will I be able to get them both working well. I think you have to make a decision and then stick you it. Some people have said I should wait till lo is in school....I feel this is not for me. I wasn't sure if I could cope with one an he is blossoming like you would not believe. Also I am very lucky in that I have a lot of support, my lo is already walking and feeding himself and sleeps in his own bed. After 9 months of pregnancy, my lo would be going to nursery pt within 6 months. We can do!!! Good luck with whatever you chose to do, just imagine that 1st kick...do yu really think there is any chance you won't love that baby as much?

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Sep 11th, 2009, 08:02 AM	#6
ryder Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Belleville, Ontario Posts: 25,719	You will love your second child... and your third... etc just as much as the first one. It may affect seth a tiny bit in the beginning because its a life changing event, but it wont take long before seth loves his baby brother or sister and enjoys having a playmate! Then when they are old enough... they will team up against you LOL

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Sep 11th, 2009, 08:17 AM	#7
Annamumof2 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Banbury, Oxfordshire Posts: 3,484	i have 2 and there 17 months apart and they get on fine, infact skye teachs jay alot of things and shes the youngest

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Sep 12th, 2009, 06:30 AM	#8
Linzi Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Leeds UK Posts: 15,769	thanks for all the replies definately made me feel a bit better although I dont think the worries will go away 100% until new baby is here Just cant imagine life being 4 of us... but I could never imagine there being 3 of us at one stage and he is the best thing thats ever happened to us x

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Sep 12th, 2009, 13:52 PM	#9
puffins'mom Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 161	Hi Linzi, i have a DS who is nearly 20months and the light of our lives, i too worried about the attention thing, loving the next baby, what will my DS think of a sibling, will he be unhappy without mommys sole attention? DH and I decided that a sibling would be a wonderful friend and addition to the family. i have just fallen preg and already just in the few days i have known i am preg i feel sure it was the right decision and our DS will love playing with his sibling, and i will love this baby in equal amounts, i know it! so your thoughts are not silly at all, but i am sure Seth will love a sibling. goodluck in ttc

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Sep 12th, 2009, 14:00 PM	#10
Linzi Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Leeds UK Posts: 15,769	thank you, and congrats!! x

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