Definitely! I really didn't mean for my post to hurt anyone's feelings, and completely understand that sometimes people need that money and its not their fault. Its just that my cousin is 18, has never done a day's work in her life and has therefore never made national insurance/income tax contributions, and has said that once the baby is born she has no intention of going back to college or starting work and when the baby is too old to claim anything she'll "just have another"!

It does upset me that she sees her little bean as something to be used for monetary gain when me and my partner are trying so hard, not only to get pregnant, but also to be able to provide for our little one.

Oh I hear Ya!! In the last 2 months my best friend, Sister in Law (who were not TTC) and other friend have all got pregnant and 2 ladies have just finished at work to go and have babies! Everyone has one but me! When will be my month!

Oh I know how you feel, girl I work with just found out she's 9 weeks pregnant with new boyfriend shes been seeing 3 months and shes deciding whether to keep it or not and when she told me all this I felf I'd been punched in the stomach, here's me desperate to conceive and shes wishing she was anything but pregnant. Still am over it now, just got to think positive that it will happen soon for usxxx

This frustrates me muchly. I have 2 sides that annoy me too.

1st side is I have told a few of my friends that we are trying and they are all either younger than me or just really not in the baby mind set so all they say is 'it's ok, it'll happen, just relax' What the hell do you know, your not going thru it!

2nd side the people that ARE going thru it are all my OH's friends who are older and starting familys and I can't even tell them we are TTC because my OH doesn't want all his friends knowing. It's so frustrating because all I wana do is go - OMG I have been trying for over a year and nothing happened, how the hell did you get pregnant!!

So i'm stuck in this middle bit... Pfft anyway end rant.

It does make me sad then i feel guilty for being jealous.

I think it's human nature - but it's not a nice feeling!

You're not on youe own on this one

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OMG i no the feeling.

My cousins the same age as me and just got pregnant with her 4th baby, shes never worked a day in her life and still live with her parents who take care of the babies when she wants to go out. Then the other day i asked her if this was her last and she had the cheek to laugh and say no. I felt like screaming at her. Sorry bit of a rant.

I only want one little bean . We'll all get there one day!!!

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I agree, definitely normal but not exactly nice!

My bro-in-law just got married and DH's mom had told me they would likely start ttc right away...I'm terrified they'll get preggers right away and before me. Totally unfair of me to feel that way, but I do! I'm horrible lol.

I had this too, for years ... started when OH's ex got pregnant by accident and was threatening to take an overdose and abort when all I wanted was a little one. i was soooo jealous ... since then almost every single one of my friends / family have had babies and I would cry every time I heard, then send them a congratulations card through gritten teeth and avoid them until I had psyched myself up enough to see them. I would also dread people getting married etc because I knew they would soon be pregnant (and they always were). OH used to go nuts with me, he wouldn't understand at all. now i am finally pregnant and I feel terribly guilty for all the bad feeling I had ... but it has helped me to understand how sensitive it is, and I am careful not to 'rub it in' to the friends that haven't been able to have a baby and have avoided me ... I have been sad about that but I totally understand why because I've felt it.
Try not to beat yourself up about it though ... it's natural for women to feel like this. Men don't get it and never could; neither can women who've never had to wait.

I have these feelings all the time. I work in hospitals so I'm always seeing people either going in for check ups or coming out with babies and it can make me so upset on the not so good days.

Two of my DH's cousins have got engaged this month and one of mine is getting married next year and I am terrified I won't be the first one pregnant - stupid i know but it's how I feel... I suppose we just have to keep positive and hope it will be our turns soon x x x