poppy

Don't worry Loopylew, you'll get your BFP soon. I know that you said that you were not going to talk to him about it, but maybe if you sat him down and explained how you felt, then he would realise how important this is for you. Try to make sex fun all the way through the month and then DH maybe won't feel so pressurised around ov time (I wouldn't even mention that it was ov time - hubbies don't usually have a clue anyway about cycles and such like).

I hope you feel better soon petal.
xxx

Carolina

totally understand! its a strain and we might take a break from it for a month but i dont really want to! We havnt talked about babies for days and i think thats helped things with us! OH has had colds and flus over the months which has meant less bd at fertile times. It annoys me but i guess Oh's arent baby machines! Try and have a talk with him

pinkmommy

I know how you feel, last cycle before I even Oed (it was one crazy month) he was mad b/c he said it felt like a pressured him to Bd when it should come natural. I told him about you are only fertile a certain times of the month and I do not wnat to get ot the point to be on fertility drugs but if that happens it will be hard to turn them down. First time we TTCed with DD I was not so crazy after him b/c I thought it would just happen and after 6 cycles it did. But this time around I am a litle more educated and know what is going on in there. Sofar he has changed his tune with me, but I am curious to see what happens when O comes around this month, but when AF arrived I told him how upset I was and that we need to BD more in ther fertile window. He did not answer me back.

Hang in there.

PS I take my temp when DH leaves for work or he goes to the bathroom depending when he wakes up, not hiding it but trying not to do it out in the open and freak him out, Women are just different then men.

Dee_H

Before we got pregnant last time both my husband and me felt that our baby making fun turned into a job. We had a big talk and started making sex fun again.This is probably too much info...but try role playing or having your fun somewhere else(go away for a weekend or to a hotel) We found this took some of the pressure off both of us and sex was much more enjoyable. Sorry for getting too personal but it worked.

avistar

Maybe try to not share when you think you are Oing with your DH. I think guys like the excitement and desire of having sex. I know mine likes spontaneous BDing. I don't really share with him when I think I might O (though he figures it out anyway) and it seems to help. He gets upset sometimes too, like sex is just a mission and it isn't wanting to be with him. I am sure you guys will work things out. TTC is really a quest!

Mervs Mum

My other top tip is....Primark!! They have a great range of cheap fancy underwear - I paid less than £10 per set of bra and knicks.....they did the trick for me!!
I also agree about keeping the technial stuff to yourself - its not being secretive at all, I think it just freaks them out/turns them off!

diva4180

i'm sorry you're having a tough time right now hun

loopylew

Thanks so much for all your advice, it has really made me feel like i'm not alone. Im gonna try not focus on it (with him) and try to take temp when he's not in the room. It doesn't help when my opk's come to the house addressed to him today as ebay account is in his name!!! anyway not mentioned it since he's been in from wk and gonna try go with the flow. We've got a weekend away booked in York around the 16th Feb which won't be a fertile time but might at least make BD fun and he'll forget when fertile time is

Vickie

Like the others have said men do tend to dislike the technical side of TTC. Try to BD in between your fertile times as well to make him feel like it's not all about baby making. Hope you get your BFP soon!

loopylew

we do BD in between fertile times more than anything, he seems to have the problem with fertile times