MissMonty

Except your OH !! Boy doesn't my OH just know it!!

We haven't told anyone - this is our 5 month of TTC - its so difficult we have lots of friends and relatives who have children and they are always like 'so when are you two going to have kids' - especially the older members of the family. We didn't want to tell anyone as we didn't want any pressure or disappointment from other people. I was thinking about telling a select few but after being on this forum I don't feel the need to at the moment. Is anyone else keeping it a secret?

candice123

hi there, just thought I'd reply, I'm new here also, and am not that sure how it works. We have been TTC for 2 months now and I havent told any of my family etc, but some of my workmates know due to the nature of the job I do. I dont think its selfish, just makes good sense. No pressure.

faith_may

I only told my mom, I don't want to let anyone else know until I know I'm pregnant...of course my DH knows

candice123

does anyone else find it hard to keep a secret? And how often do you think about it?

CherryBlossom

I'm bad at keeping secrets pretty much everyone knows but not all my fault i told my mum and now my whole family know lmao

candice123

its been quite hard for myself and my husband cos family circumstances have not been ideal. To cut a long story short, I dont speak to my mum or that side of the family, havent done so in a year.

Samo

Oh gosh i've pretty much told all of my friends lol. But they've been such good help and support! And they ask me how it's going all the time

However, no one from our family knows so it'll be a big surprise to them later on!

dakini

Well, let's see. Who knows?
- DH's family all knows (I talk a lot with one of my SILs about it, and both SILs have suffered multiple m/cs so should I ever go through that I have a support system)
- I've hinted to my family, but nothing concrete
- 3 very good friends on mine know, but that's again for the support system (2 better than the other 1), plus a few others that I used to work with and I am still in contact with them, again, great support
- some of DH's friends know...more so that they don't wonder why we aren't drinking as much when we are out, or why I am not
- a few people I've told at work because when I was interviewing I wasn't looking for a job and I didn't want them to upset that I may have come to them 3-4 months later and been 3 months pg (didn't happen, but it could have) and I won't have been upset if I didn't get the job because of that; though I think the women all know from lunch conversations
- pretty much everyone at DH's work...he works with a BIL and he let it slip....we found this out when we went out for a co-workers b'day (gave another friend a ride...she knows(see above)) and they were asking why I wasn't drinking......had some interesting conversations that night about ttc

so, basically, everyone around us knows. We only have a few people actually ask us though, so that's nice. His family for sure knows the pain of trying for a long time, and m/cs so the one SIL I am closest with will ask about once a month...and I really don't mind.

Vickie

I told one of my nieces and my mom figured it out on her own. Other than that we told no one, haven't even told all of our friends yet that I'm pregnant.

suzan

Humm, let's see:

1- My family
2- His family
3- After having 2 m/s definetly my co-workers/boss know
4- his friends
5- my friends
6- Summary: EVERYONE!!!!!

I wish I can make everyone forget.. If we wana take it all back, I would never have told anyone.. it's like everyone is waiting for an announcement.. you feel so pressured