The first step is acknowledging....

CapitalChick · Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:28 AM

Ok...I'm acknowledging. I'm jealous.
A friend of mine (not my best friend, just more like a really good friendly acquaintance) confided in me some months ago that she was TTC...I was so excited because we had just started trying too. We realized we had similar cycles and had been TTC for the same amount of time. She got pregnant really quickly and, of course, I didn't.

For reasons I won't go into, I see her almost every day (or at the very least, a couple times a week). Our schedules just work that way. She's into maternity clothes now, neauseated and....well....she's just pregnant.

I've informed my hubby that I'm going to have to change around my routine a bit to avoid her. I cannot handle it. Every few times I see her I end up having a bit of a meltdown afterwards, where I cry and feel awful all night.
There is no other way to put this. I'm jealous. I don't wish her badly at all. I just want so badly to be where she is right now.

I admit it. I'm jealous.

*babydust* · Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:39 AM

when you want something so badly that someone else has,its totally understandable to be jelous.in fact,im the same.my friend got pregnant in the first month! im with you on feeling awful and crying at night..

hope you get your BFP soon.

jo27 · Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:52 AM

It's prefectly understandable. People deal with things in different ways and if that's what you've gotta do to get through it then there's nothing wrong with that

**Arcanegirl** · Jan 3rd, 2008, 09:05 AM

Its a perfectly normal feeling to have, i would be the same even to strangers.
Where i work i see alot of pg women and babies and i cant help but stare a little wishing it were me.

**polo_princess** · Jan 3rd, 2008, 09:21 AM

Oh hunni im sorry your feeling like that, i guess its just a natural reaction, try not to avoid your friend though, no matter how hard it is, after all pregnant or not she's still your friend

Sinead · Jan 3rd, 2008, 09:28 AM

((((hugs))))) I know exactly how you feel. My Sister-in-law has just announced that she is pregnant. I spent the whole of Christmas Eve in tears. What made things worse was she hadn't had it confirmed, but when I was 2 weeks late, and dh told his mother she had such a go at us for thinking it and told me that I wasn't pregnant and was just imagining it. I had to bite my tongue over Christmas

faith_may · Jan 3rd, 2008, 12:34 PM

miel · Jan 3rd, 2008, 14:04 PM

don't feel bad ! i am jealous too

Iwantone!!! · Jan 3rd, 2008, 14:08 PM

aawww hunni it must be hard u will have ur bfp soon babesxxxxxxx

dakini · Jan 3rd, 2008, 15:13 PM

I think we all feel that way. I am jealous and there's no one I know right now that's pg...they've all just had their babies. It's hard, but we'll all get there soon.

Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:28 AM	#1
CapitalChick Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 843	The first step is acknowledging.... Ok...I'm acknowledging. I'm jealous. A friend of mine (not my best friend, just more like a really good friendly acquaintance) confided in me some months ago that she was TTC...I was so excited because we had just started trying too. We realized we had similar cycles and had been TTC for the same amount of time. She got pregnant really quickly and, of course, I didn't. For reasons I won't go into, I see her almost every day (or at the very least, a couple times a week). Our schedules just work that way. She's into maternity clothes now, neauseated and....well....she's just pregnant. I've informed my hubby that I'm going to have to change around my routine a bit to avoid her. I cannot handle it. Every few times I see her I end up having a bit of a meltdown afterwards, where I cry and feel awful all night. There is no other way to put this. I'm jealous. I don't wish her badly at all. I just want so badly to be where she is right now. I admit it. I'm jealous.

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:39 AM	#2
babydust Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: coventry,england Posts: 181	when you want something so badly that someone else has,its totally understandable to be jelous.in fact,im the same.my friend got pregnant in the first month! im with you on feeling awful and crying at night.. hope you get your BFP soon.

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 08:52 AM	#3
jo27 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Warrington Posts: 778	It's prefectly understandable. People deal with things in different ways and if that's what you've gotta do to get through it then there's nothing wrong with that

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Arcanegirl Pregnant (Expecting) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Glasgow Posts: 25,663	Its a perfectly normal feeling to have, i would be the same even to strangers. Where i work i see alot of pg women and babies and i cant help but stare a little wishing it were me.

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 09:21 AM	#5
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Oh hunni im sorry your feeling like that, i guess its just a natural reaction, try not to avoid your friend though, no matter how hard it is, after all pregnant or not she's still your friend

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 09:28 AM	#6
Sinead Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,698	((((hugs))))) I know exactly how you feel. My Sister-in-law has just announced that she is pregnant. I spent the whole of Christmas Eve in tears. What made things worse was she hadn't had it confirmed, but when I was 2 weeks late, and dh told his mother she had such a go at us for thinking it and told me that I wasn't pregnant and was just imagining it. I had to bite my tongue over Christmas

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 12:34 PM	#7
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Jan 3rd, 2008, 14:04 PM	#8
miel Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: San Francisco, CA USA Posts: 11,040	don't feel bad ! i am jealous too

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 14:08 PM	#9
Iwantone!!! Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Warrington Posts: 8,317	aawww hunni it must be hard u will have ur bfp soon babesxxxxxxx

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Jan 3rd, 2008, 15:13 PM	#10
dakini Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 667	I think we all feel that way. I am jealous and there's no one I know right now that's pg...they've all just had their babies. It's hard, but we'll all get there soon.

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