im giving up

wannabeamom · Jul 13th, 2009, 11:05 AM

hi guys i have finally got to the point where i am giving up ttc
i am on month 14 nearly 15 and am getting really fed up of the

every month, im still not going to use any form of contraception but going to stop looking for every little change in my body in case i may be "o" im just going to bd with my husband if and when we feel like it at concentrate on living life without getting down about all of this
im still gonna be popping in on the boards from time to time

baby1moretime · Jul 13th, 2009, 11:46 AM

Good luck hunni and hope it does happen for you in the near future xox

mummyzilla · Jul 13th, 2009, 11:50 AM

hey

Its easy to get wrapped up in ttc that you lose sight of everything else. I promised myself I would never become obsessed and I failed miserably!!!Its such an important thing that its hard not to.

If its any consolation 4 of my close friends all fell pregnant after trying to conceive for over 2 years and in one case over 6 years. They all fell when they STOPPED trying!!!!!It is so true that when you stop trying and relax it just happens naturally a lot of the time

I really hope this is what happens for you hun xx

puppymom32 · Jul 13th, 2009, 11:50 AM

wannabe
After month of fertility treatment that is how I got my last BFP I just stopped worrying and started having fun. It turned out to be a tubal but sometimes all the stress just makes things worse. Good Luck.

Lou78 · Jul 13th, 2009, 11:53 AM

It might be good to have a break, but don't give up. Have you tried the Clear blue Fertility Monitor? I have just bought one, so waiting for AF so I can start using it.

digs · Jul 13th, 2009, 12:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wannabeamom

hi guys i have finally got to the point where i am giving up ttc
i am on month 14 nearly 15 and am getting really fed up of the

every month, im still not going to use any form of contraception but going to stop looking for every little change in my body in case i may be "o" im just going to bd with my husband if and when we feel like it at concentrate on living life without getting down about all of this
im still gonna be popping in on the boards from time to time

Never give up, just give yourself a break. We had resgined ourselves to the fact that we needed more help and booked an appointment and 2 days before the appointmnet (after a month or so of not even thinking about it) we got our 4th

. We have made it this far 3 times before but something tells me this time will stick.

I really wish you all the luck in the world, give yourself and your relationship a break. Maybe a weekend away if you can and get the fun back in your

!

Good luck and pop in and chat to the girlies whenever you feel the need - we'll all be here until we get our

xx

neverknew50 · Jul 13th, 2009, 12:05 PM

hi hun,
i know exactly what you mean

. we have been ttc since jan & i feel im becoming obssessed

(its hard not to). so this month i have banished the opk, preseed etc. i know my cycles now & im like clockwork every month anyway. i just feel its time for me personally to take the relaxed route and let nature takes its course. i ll be keeping occupied in the mean time & ill be popping in to the forum every now & again. i wish everyone all the luck in the world in their journey ttc.

ineedaseed · Jul 13th, 2009, 15:01 PM

hugs honey. Its awful month after month with the disappointment, relax and enjoy yourself and i am sure when you are not thinking about it your bfp will be on your doorstep. good luck xx

susan_1981 · Jul 13th, 2009, 15:14 PM

Aw hun, I know how you feel, obviously not to the extent that you do but I'm feeling similar. I got pregnant on only my 3rd cycle last October, found out I miscarried in December and have been trying again ever since and am now on my 8th cycle. I should be the proud mummy to a new born baby right now and I could deal with that if I could get pregnant again.

I hope your new approach will give you the BFP you so want. I wish I could take that attitude on but I just get so obsessed. Like you, every month I keep thinking I could be pregnant, constantly checking my boobs to see if they hurt, constantly testing. My husband desperately wants me to give this website a break, have a break from any form of testing and just to go back to the way we were before we started TTC but I just don't feel ready to let go just yet.

Good luck hun. I really do hope that you get your BFP soon xxx

honeybee2 · Jul 13th, 2009, 17:49 PM

it will be a shame to say goodbye for the time being hun- but i bet you not actively TTC you will fall pregnant, stress is a huge factor against pregnancy! I hope you find your answers soon and best wishes for the future sweetie!

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wannabeamom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 644	im giving up hi guys i have finally got to the point where i am giving up ttc i am on month 14 nearly 15 and am getting really fed up of the every month, im still not going to use any form of contraception but going to stop looking for every little change in my body in case i may be "o" im just going to bd with my husband if and when we feel like it at concentrate on living life without getting down about all of this im still gonna be popping in on the boards from time to time

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baby1moretime Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,426	Good luck hunni and hope it does happen for you in the near future xox

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mummyzilla Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: babyzilla in oven Posts: 2,228	hey Its easy to get wrapped up in ttc that you lose sight of everything else. I promised myself I would never become obsessed and I failed miserably!!!Its such an important thing that its hard not to. If its any consolation 4 of my close friends all fell pregnant after trying to conceive for over 2 years and in one case over 6 years. They all fell when they STOPPED trying!!!!!It is so true that when you stop trying and relax it just happens naturally a lot of the time I really hope this is what happens for you hun xx

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puppymom32 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Ohio Posts: 6,762	wannabe After month of fertility treatment that is how I got my last BFP I just stopped worrying and started having fun. It turned out to be a tubal but sometimes all the stress just makes things worse. Good Luck.

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Lou78 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 90	It might be good to have a break, but don't give up. Have you tried the Clear blue Fertility Monitor? I have just bought one, so waiting for AF so I can start using it.

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neverknew50 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 254	hi hun, i know exactly what you mean . we have been ttc since jan & i feel im becoming obssessed (its hard not to). so this month i have banished the opk, preseed etc. i know my cycles now & im like clockwork every month anyway. i just feel its time for me personally to take the relaxed route and let nature takes its course. i ll be keeping occupied in the mean time & ill be popping in to the forum every now & again. i wish everyone all the luck in the world in their journey ttc.

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Jul 13th, 2009, 15:01 PM	#8
ineedaseed Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: middlesex, UK Posts: 18,119	hugs honey. Its awful month after month with the disappointment, relax and enjoy yourself and i am sure when you are not thinking about it your bfp will be on your doorstep. good luck xx

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susan_1981 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Kent Posts: 2,132	Aw hun, I know how you feel, obviously not to the extent that you do but I'm feeling similar. I got pregnant on only my 3rd cycle last October, found out I miscarried in December and have been trying again ever since and am now on my 8th cycle. I should be the proud mummy to a new born baby right now and I could deal with that if I could get pregnant again. I hope your new approach will give you the BFP you so want. I wish I could take that attitude on but I just get so obsessed. Like you, every month I keep thinking I could be pregnant, constantly checking my boobs to see if they hurt, constantly testing. My husband desperately wants me to give this website a break, have a break from any form of testing and just to go back to the way we were before we started TTC but I just don't feel ready to let go just yet. Good luck hun. I really do hope that you get your BFP soon xxx

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honeybee2 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK Posts: 9,760	it will be a shame to say goodbye for the time being hun- but i bet you not actively TTC you will fall pregnant, stress is a huge factor against pregnancy! I hope you find your answers soon and best wishes for the future sweetie!

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