it is not possible to forget about a dream so the ladies that say to not think about it whether they are trying to help or not obviously have never wanted something so much that there is always the thought in the back of ur mind. It just takes longer for some...but good things come to them that wait. But this will make us appreciate it even that much more!

Ive had workmates tell me this, even worse when one of them took a long time to concieve so youd think they understand!
It has got me thinking "what if" though. But weve taken months off, i had months where i didnt even know where i was in my cycle and still nothing!

I dont think were trying to hard, theres plenty we can do to try harder.

I don't know part of me does think that sometimes but i agree it's really frustrating when people come out with comments like that. My aunty was trying for 2 years about to go for IVF then conceived naturally she believes its because she didn't think it was possible for her to conceive naturally and because she had stopped stressing about it happened, who knows!!??

the one i always get is 'your young you have plenty of time'

grrrr !!!! makes me so angry

I hear ya girl! I'm 23 so people say this to me ALL THE TIME!

i believe stress can have a huge impact on the body so i would imagine it would affect ttc. however, i was thinking of baby all the time, is this the month?? Whats that twinge?? How will I feel if it isnt this month?? etc-- and i got a bfp.

...maybe it will happen when it's the right time....I kind of believe in fate - like the one sperm and the one egg that made my little bean were mean to be those ones, so I get the one particular child that was destined to be mine. If it had happend a month early it would have been an entirely different child...and i am meant to meet this one... but I am very possibly spouting a load of nonsense!!

... you've got to be trying a bit, to have the right ingredients for a baby!! So keep on trying I say, but just try being patient, even if that is hard.

Annoys me too - I am ready NOW, it will not come 'naturally' hence the use of the word 'trying' in the trying to conceive' bit. Grrrrr!

However, there is a lot to be said for the whole 'chill out and it'll come' approach. Mainly the fact that stress has been linked to infertility, and stress is caused by obsessing too much about the whole TTC thang. See:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6252608.stm
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/preconce...saffectexpert/

Best one i heard the other night that really got to me was the hospital wont help me because of my age.
Yea that really makes me feel better, thanks!

It is so nice to read this thread! I have been getting so annoyed with all those comments too! "You are trying too hard". "Just let it happen". "Stop thinking about it and it will happen". "Stop stressing about it". "Your time will come". "Just have sex all the time and it will happen". I've decided that I'm not going to talk about it anymore. I can't stand to hear the same response over and over. I do have a few fabulous friends/family who say just the right thing to make me feel good. For them I am grateful! Just to hear, "I hope this is the month for you", is really all I need to hear. I thank all of the supportive and fabulous women out there. xoxoxo