Mojo

don't worry a lot of people feel this way, i honestly think you will never feel completely ready, 'we should get a bigger house first, we should get another car, save more $$ first' there will always be more to do. i just decided to go for it as i know i will adjust once it happens.

it's strange though as a few times af has been a day late and i have that feeling that i could actually be pregnant, i'm get kind of scared like 'uh oh, what i have done!!' i think it something that you can't even comprehend until you become pg.

good luck you will be fine and a great parent :0

Moraine

Thanks Mojo.

diva4180

I agree with what everyone else is saying one way or another...you never feel completely ready. When I got pregnant the first time around with my 5 year old, I was only 21, a kid really, and at a really unsure point in my life, but I NEVER had any doubt in my mind that I wanted him, I loved him instantly. I was scared beyond belief and I remember upon bringing him home just watching him sleep in the car seat and thinking to myself "My God he's SO SMALL!" I was a nervous wreck, but it falls naturally into place I think. Having him inspired me to not only go back to college to finish my degree, but also to be a better person in general. Now at almost 28 years old, I worry too, about how he would react to a new baby in the house after being an only child so far, how he would accept it. I worry about affording it, and the list goes on and on. I like to think about it this way: It's like standing by a pool on a really hot day and the water's a little cold, but you know once you just go for it and jump in it will be really refreshing and worth it (although refreshing cold water and a baby can't really compare lol!). Anyway, hope what I said made sense and helps a little. And the fact that you question this is a good thing, and whenever you are blessed with a little one, you'll be a great parent, so good luck to you!

avistar

My DH's grandfather told us once, that if you wait until you are financially ready to have children, you will never have any....so true! I believe that all of us have these feelings...but I just ask myself, what does my heart say? You can follow your head for only so long. Our paths are made for us, we just need to decide when to turn left or right....

AquaDementia

umm, i am 22 weeks pregnant, 25 and not sure if i am ready.
too late for that now, eh?

TrixieLox

Strange cos I actually think you have to be sure to start trying. I thought I'd wanna start trying as soon as me and OH got hitched but I wasn't at all. 4 months later, things changed and I am 100% ready. So I have decided to start trying. If I'd started trying back in June, when I wasn't so sure, I'd feel like I wasn't being truthful to myself.

But it's down to the inividual. To be honest, if you can get through the sometimes difficult TTC stage (watching for symptoms, waiting for the positives etc etc) without giving up, you are ready.

If you're not sure though, what's the harm in waiting till you are?! x

Samantha675

Trixie, wait till you get a BFP, your 100% sinks like stone! I have never had such a happy and totally terrified moment in my life! It was awesome.

TrixieLox

That's exactly what my OH says! He reckons when I find out I'm PG, I'll be like 'O sh*t, this is happening waaaaay toooooo fast'! x