good luck in whatever you decide to do honey- and remember we are here for you at B&B no matter what! even if you decide to stop TTC xx

Hey hun, oh dear you must feel terrible!
It's awful when you discover something like this about your other half, it feels like such a betrayal!!!
Have you confronted him about it? How did you find out about the new account?

Some guys are well into their porn (for want of a better way to word it, sorry!), are you sure it wasn't just some seedy porn site he's been going on? If this is the case, I think most men have probably been guilty of doing that at some point or other and it may not be anything too serious to worry about.
Or, is he actually going on sites to chat to other women and exchange naked pics etc with specific people? If this is the case I would feel utterly shocked and betrayed if I were in your situation! Some men probably have issues with this type of thing, and I bet they never see it as anything 'serious' and would probably never do anything like meeting up with another woman, but they must get some sort of 'thrill' out of 'chatting' to people online. He probably wouldn't consider this sort of thing as 'cheating' and I don't know if you do, but I know I would feel as if I'd been cheated on if I found out my OH was doing that sort of thing.

How did he react last time you found out about it? What are his reasons for suddenly changing his email passwords etc? Were there any issues like this before you were married? Maybe he's having a bit of a crisis in life or something?

I would sit him down and have a long talk, you need to get to the bottom of why he feels the need to do this (and he needs to be totally honest with you about it) so you can work together to change things if you can, and hopefully he can prevent the same thing ever happening again.

I really wish you the best of luck, and I would echo what the other ladies have said really, put ttc on hold until you have mutual trust, otherwise the extra stress of having a child could bring you to breaking point

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Nothing is so straightforward. You have to think if your relationship is worth putting it right, and you have to talk to your husband and see if he is prepared to pay the price for putting it right. Some men/women, just love the thrill of dating and meeting people, doesn't mean he would go through with it, but obviously still horrid for you and a big lack of respect. If he really loves you, and wants to be with you, but still can't help himself and have self-discipline enough to stop, he probably doesn't only need to speak to you but to seek help. Its a tough one. (I don't get the teen thing, if he is not a teen himself sounds more of a problem that just ciberflirting ) xxxxxxx

I also wanted to add that you need to change all your passwords now or you could get into a lot of trouble down the line. Also, make sure that any 'secret questions' that are asked to give you your password in case you forget it are things that he doesn't know the answer to. I've known far too many people who's ex's have screwed up their lives by pretending to be them and hacked their accounts because they didn't protect themselves.

I would feel exactly the same - ANGRY. Like others ppl have said, talk to him, don't make a rash decision, however i understand why you would lose your trust in him. Whatever you decide, i hope the best for you and BnB girls will respect and support your decision. x

I have to give you 1: A BIG hug, and 2: a HUGE warning

I was with a guy for 2 1/2 years. Found the online chat transcripts, the ELEVEN dating sites he had logins for. I accepted appologies and "I'll never do it again". And then he gave me an STD he caught off of those "things he didn't do".

Now my fantastic DH and I are trying to conceive. The irony is we met on a dating site lol But the effects of that idiot I forgave are still there.

He may restrict it to "online viewing" now, but how long before it moves off of the computer? And on your BIRTHDAY??!?!?!?!

Scum. Lower than scum. Like, the bacteria that scum feeds on. NO! The byproduct of the bacteria that scum feed on

I am so sorry to hear about your troubles with your husband. That is really hard and your right to think about not ttc until you get things straightened out. A baby causes a lot of stress on a marriage and if it isnt in good order when you have a baby its just that much harder to straighten out once you have one. I hope that you are able to work things out with him and that you can start to build trust again. Good luck and I hope your doing ok, we are all here for you no matter what!

A singles site? I say, give him his wish. Let him be single. *shakes fist at stupid boy* And yeh, a teen site sets off major warning bells, how old is he?

well...im sorry to hear about your situation. my advice... would be to see a marriage counselor or if you attend a church...go talk with your pastor or priest. It sounds like trust is being compromised in your relationship and if it is not dealt with, it will just keep bothering you. I do believe there are other options besides divorce, but those are my beliefs.. My DH and I saw a counselor before we married and there is just something good about having a "mediator" there to reinforce the message to the other party. I hope things get better for you hun... seek counseling if that is something that you feel may benefit!! Take care!!

I would have to agree with tweetigirl.... "never give up"!!!!

i've been through something similar ...and now we are better than ever!! i know how angry , disappointed you are feeling right now ...you should let your hubby know how hurt you are...but never forget God is always with us ....talk to him like you've never talked to anyone else !!! just tell him i am not strong right now, dont waist my pain , i cant change my husband only you can,can you help him understand ..., i leave this up to you...

this will help you believe me ...your pain wont go away the next day but you will see a difference in your hubby .... he is human , he made a mistake have god close he is the only one who will give you peace in your heart mind and marriage...