coccyx

Need a rant, hope it won't offend. Just come back from an evening at a friends house, mentioned this website and said how supportive I found everyone. I am 16 weeks pregnant, but have understood how it feels to really want a baby. My friend knows my history of 9 miscarriages, but still said that ladies who have problems concieving should get over it and find something else in their lifes to concentrate on!!! I nearly hit her, she is fortunate to never have miscarried or to have been disappointed when af arrives. When people get things easily I don't think they always appreciate what they have. I foolishly thought another woman would understand how powerful that maternal urge is. May I wish you ladies much luck, hope santa leaves plenty of baby dust about and never give up hope

Mrs-N

arh bless you hunny. dont worry about the rant, i dont blame you.
hope you get the present you want as soon as possible.

wishing you all the best.

avistar

Thanks for the post. Some people are just not empathic sometimes and just talk to hear themselves. I am sorry about your miscarriages and wish you nothing but the best with your baby. Don't let people like her get to you! You have more important things to worry about I think this site it great!

skiwi

you have every wright to have a rant, surprised you did not deck her, i hope you get your wish, and every one else

coccyx

I've crossed her of my nice christmas card list, shes been demoted to the whatever is left in box list. I guess i was just surprised how thoughtless she was with regard to other womens problems. I guess my hubby is right , he says it takes a strong , determined lady to keep going when you have so many disappointments and setbacks.

april24343

I know a few people that! That is terrible too! They always hit a nerve in me and piss me off too! At the perfect time too! Im sorry she was so rude to you!!!!

April

FJL

You showed great self restraint not to deck her!

She obviously has NO idea what its like, unless you've been there you can never know, especially if you haven't even been surrounded by those that have had to deal with infertilitly.

And for her to even think it was ok to say those things to you when you have suffered 9 misscarriages is something I just cannot fathom. If it was me, i'd be slipping in some dog poo with her chrissy card, but i'm a bit of a revenge freak ROFL.

I also want to add that I wish you all the best with your pregnancy and look forward to the day when we can all goooo and gah over your bub

And her comments couldn't be further from the truth. I hardly touched this website the last 3 or so months, when I came back a few weeks ago I was a mess and NOW amist all our problems I feel on top of the world again. B&B and its members are the best

lorrilou

I think i would of punched her if that was one of my friends! Does this woman have kids of her own?

I come from a really fertile family, look at a man and your preggers, and i didnt have any probs first time, we werent actually trying or anything it just happened, so i thought i'd have no probs getting pregnant again, come off pill and it would just happen. Yeah rite!!! Luckily i didnt have as hard a time as you obviously have but it did take us about a year to conceive, and once you decide you want to try for a baby it is virtually impossible to think of anything else!

Who needs enemies when you've got friends like that!!!!

Good luck and i hope you get what you want soon.

shamrockgirl4

people deal with things in their own way and im sure this woman would feel very different if she had been through it herself hope u get what u want hun xxx

pixielou

That is so horrible to say something like that. Obviously as you say she just doesn't appreciate how it is when you want something and it doesn't happen when you want. I would just be polite, ignore it but then when she has a rant about something in the future it would be very tempting to do the same, but I suppose it's more adult like to just listen and nod knowingly! I would rather just keep my distance for a while and then maybe she might understand then!