I'm starting to feel discouraged...What do you know about cm and early pregnancy? I have read so many things saying it increases and also that it isnt a good indicator. I normally get an increase in cm a week or so before

shows up and also get bogged down by some intense cramping...well I am 9 dpo on a 29 day cycle and I have neither this month so far, hardly any cm and no cramps. I really hope i could take my lackings as a good sign but I'm not feeling very positive about it right now. Any experiences or thoughts??