Sorry if this is TMI but I'm looking for some advice. My partner suffers from delayed ejaculation which basically means he finds it difficult to ejaculate during sex. Most research says that this is completely psychological but he's had this his whole adult life. It's never been a problem before but now we're TTC it's become an issue. I try very hard not to put the pressure on him as I know this will only make matters worse but the ovulation window is so small..

Is there anyone out there with a similar problem? Any help or advice would be great.
I was so convinced I had symptoms this month but AF showed up so I'm a bit down in the dumps.

I dont have any ideas for you but wanted to give you I think everyone gets down in the dumps with ttc. Its such a roller coaster & sometimes harder than we realized to get pregnant. Good luck to you and lots of baby dust!

Its the other way round for me, wam bam thankyou mam 2 mins later hes sleeping lol.

Type it in google hun you will find loads on there that will help you. keep your chin you hunny it will happen for you xxxxxx

I think I've read just about every resource out there on the net. I guess I'm just looking for someone with this problem who also has a happy ending.

have you asked in the other forums? you might get some help from one of the TRI'S aswell, i hope you get the answers you want its not nice feeling down when your TTC, goodluck hunny sorry i couldnt help more xxxxx

TRI's? There are so many abbreviations on here I haven't learnt them all yet! Lol!

I am not sure what "TRI'S" are either - as I am also new to all the lingo, lol.

Anyway - my DH also has difficulty "finishing" as he puts it. I know for us we just keep trying and using a lot of foreplay/positions (sorry if TMI). I am crossing my fingers that I can pinpoint when I ovulate next month, or the month after that, and manage to get him to make a deposit on the day before, the day of, and the day after O . . . hopefully that will work.

Good luck to us both !!

tri's are first trimester, 2nd trimester, 3rd trimester

Good luck!

Well, when you say delayed ejaculation, what does bring him to ejaculation? Because I just think you'll need a lot of that!

Hello, my husband has this problem! Think there is only three of us on this site who have this problem. No happy ending for me yet but the other women is in 2nd tri so there is hope!

I'm over in the LLTTC bit and have a journal there with our story.

My husbands problem is psychological as well but in our case it only started about five years ago (and only with me, he is fine on his own). We went to the doctors about it and got referred for counselling. It did help a bit, we discovered the cause of it and he gave us loads of techniques and "homework" to do each week. I can give you more details of it if you want. It was a partial success. He can now ejeculate if pleasure him by hand or mouth but we can't seem to do it through intercourse (although he keeps insisting we are getting really close to it now - which we never were before).

I know how fustrating it is for you and how difficult it is to stay relaxed. Can't tell you how many times I have waited for DH to fall asleep after sex and sneaked off to the bathroom for a good cry.

Any questions at all just ask. There is fantastic support here and it is easier to be relaxed with my husband when I can come on here and rant and rave about it all to the girls in here instead of ranting to him!