Delayed Ejaculation - Page 5

tryhardmummy · Mar 15th, 2010, 06:29 AM

Heard very good reports about using vibrators.
I am going to get the courage to "suprise" my hubby.
Fingers crossed.

Thanks for your response RaceUk... But I would just like to say. Women naturally are very kind, compassionate and nurturing especially if your relation ticks all the other boxes.. So naturally we try to be understanding.

amym · Mar 15th, 2010, 11:13 AM

Hi again all

Well, we are definitely starting to have some success...DH told me this morning that it was easier today as he felt I was liking what he was doing so he didn't feel need to change a position that was working for him... before me he was a committed masturbator and had got so used to manual stimulation that vaginal stimulation wasn't really doing it for him...

This is not to say I deny my own pleasure but tbh I put his ejaculation first....we have sex plenty of times where I have fun and he doesn't come, so during ovulation week it's all about him!

Jem88 · Mar 15th, 2010, 11:48 AM

I don't mean to offend anyone but most posts in this topic mention that there OH's do there thing in a diffrent room, i can understand why and that they find it easier to do so, but would it not help to be in the same room? maybe both masterbate eachother?
that's what me & my OH do, he has no problem ejaculating thu sex but i don't come thu actual sex, we do foreplay beforehand, we both pleasure eachother and then have sex so he finish's inside me.. maybe that way it's more intimate instead of being in sep rooms?

amym · Mar 15th, 2010, 12:14 PM

I agree with Jem88 - I know whn you're oving you do whatever it takes, and quite right too! But I have discovered after 12 whole months of this, that actually it can be 'fixed' with lots of practice. Just a bit worried that if you separate out maybe he'll never get any closer to being able to come inside you, then back to square 1 when ttc the next one?? just wondering, please no one take offence but it has worked for us....

Waitng4Baby#1 · Mar 19th, 2010, 08:30 AM

So listening to all of your comments we tried last week spending lots of time doing other things, trying to take the pressure off and had agreed wouldnt

He got so carried away we did end up

and he managed to come inside me... hooray!!

Have been doing the ovulation tests which I did the next day and I got the big smiley face! Problem was I was about to catch a flight to go away with work and wouldnt be back for 3 days

What could I do - couldnt get back into bed and jump on him as he would have known today was the day and may have put him off.

So did nothing, which I think was the right thing. Resigned myself to waiting for AF on 27th and trying again next month.....

In the meantime have purchased a vibrator which arrived yesterday - kind of surprised him as never done anything like this before - but he seems up for it so hopefully we can practice

for next month!

Waitng4Baby#1 · Mar 19th, 2010, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Waitng4Baby#1

Hi - my first post ever... like many of you, so delighted I have found others in the same situation!!

I have been TTC since Oct 2009. First few months were fine, kind of expected it could take a couple of months. AF fairly regular. Decided to start with ovulation tests last month, partly curious if I was actually ovulating. So delighted when I was I made the HUGE mistake of telling OH. This is when the delayed ejaculation problems started. Never making that mistake again!!

Its been something off and on has happened over the last 10 years we've been together but to be honest has never been a problem until now when we're TTC. I am totally convinced, as is he, its all in his head and started worrying about TTC rather than enjoying what is going on - going mad as I am trying not to talk to him too much as dont want to make it worse.

Just knowing you are all here helps!

Kinda in the same boat, has been a minor issue before but mostly due to stress etc but now he knows we're ttc its stressed him even more so he's having more trouble with it! Bloody typical eh lol

From now on I'm not gonna tell him ov dates so he doesn't feel as pressured and hope its a good start from there!

I meant to also say - completely agree with not sharing the ov dates!!

amym · Mar 19th, 2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Waitng4Baby#1

So listening to all of your comments we tried last week spending lots of time doing other things, trying to take the pressure off and had agreed wouldnt

He got so carried away we did end up

and he managed to come inside me... hooray!!

Have been doing the ovulation tests which I did the next day and I got the big smiley face! Problem was I was about to catch a flight to go away with work and wouldnt be back for 3 days

What could I do - couldnt get back into bed and jump on him as he would have known today was the day and may have put him off.

So did nothing, which I think was the right thing. Resigned myself to waiting for AF on 27th and trying again next month.....

In the meantime have purchased a vibrator which arrived yesterday - kind of surprised him as never done anything like this before - but he seems up for it so hopefully we can practice

for next month!

Hurrah!!! Well done, so exciting isn't it when this big block starts to shift away....good luck for continued success!

Waitng4Baby#1 · Mar 19th, 2010, 08:44 AM

Thanks hon - you too!

trials · Mar 27th, 2010, 21:23 PM

I used to have delayed ejaculation too, but I cured myself of it.

There's lots of information out there, but none of it really helped me much. The site that really helped me the most was Delayed Ejaculation Resources. The site is by someone who actually had delayed ejaculation himself, so all the advice on there is solid.

You should google delayed ejaculation resources and have a look at it with your OH, see if the exercises on there help, apparently they have a very high success rate.

Crailly · Apr 21st, 2010, 14:14 PM

I had completely forgot about this thread - it's been exactly one year since I wrote something on here (post #7).

It's comforting to find other women with men that has this problem, it's also great to get the male perspective (thanks for speaking up).

Personally I have put the active TTC on hold until after my wedding in September and my honeymoon in October. If something were to actually happen before then, it would be a welcome surprise - but after October I want to have my OH see a doctor (just to make sure there is nothing physiological going on), and then I will be sure to try some of these techniques.

Good luck to all of you TTC right now.

Mar 15th, 2010, 06:29 AM	#41
tryhardmummy Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 7	Heard very good reports about using vibrators. I am going to get the courage to "suprise" my hubby. Fingers crossed. Thanks for your response RaceUk... But I would just like to say. Women naturally are very kind, compassionate and nurturing especially if your relation ticks all the other boxes.. So naturally we try to be understanding.

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Mar 15th, 2010, 11:13 AM	#42
amym Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,152	Hi again all Well, we are definitely starting to have some success...DH told me this morning that it was easier today as he felt I was liking what he was doing so he didn't feel need to change a position that was working for him... before me he was a committed masturbator and had got so used to manual stimulation that vaginal stimulation wasn't really doing it for him... This is not to say I deny my own pleasure but tbh I put his ejaculation first....we have sex plenty of times where I have fun and he doesn't come, so during ovulation week it's all about him!

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Mar 15th, 2010, 11:48 AM	#43
Jem88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Cumbria, UK Posts: 2,475	I don't mean to offend anyone but most posts in this topic mention that there OH's do there thing in a diffrent room, i can understand why and that they find it easier to do so, but would it not help to be in the same room? maybe both masterbate eachother? that's what me & my OH do, he has no problem ejaculating thu sex but i don't come thu actual sex, we do foreplay beforehand, we both pleasure eachother and then have sex so he finish's inside me.. maybe that way it's more intimate instead of being in sep rooms?

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Mar 15th, 2010, 12:14 PM	#44
amym Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 1,152	I agree with Jem88 - I know whn you're oving you do whatever it takes, and quite right too! But I have discovered after 12 whole months of this, that actually it can be 'fixed' with lots of practice. Just a bit worried that if you separate out maybe he'll never get any closer to being able to come inside you, then back to square 1 when ttc the next one?? just wondering, please no one take offence but it has worked for us....

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Mar 19th, 2010, 08:30 AM	#45
Waitng4Baby#1 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK Posts: 517	So listening to all of your comments we tried last week spending lots of time doing other things, trying to take the pressure off and had agreed wouldnt He got so carried away we did end up and he managed to come inside me... hooray!! Have been doing the ovulation tests which I did the next day and I got the big smiley face! Problem was I was about to catch a flight to go away with work and wouldnt be back for 3 days What could I do - couldnt get back into bed and jump on him as he would have known today was the day and may have put him off. So did nothing, which I think was the right thing. Resigned myself to waiting for AF on 27th and trying again next month..... In the meantime have purchased a vibrator which arrived yesterday - kind of surprised him as never done anything like this before - but he seems up for it so hopefully we can practice for next month!

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Mar 19th, 2010, 08:44 AM	#48
Waitng4Baby#1 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK Posts: 517	Thanks hon - you too!

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Mar 27th, 2010, 21:23 PM	#49
trials Press/Research New BnB member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1	I used to have delayed ejaculation too, but I cured myself of it. There's lots of information out there, but none of it really helped me much. The site that really helped me the most was Delayed Ejaculation Resources. The site is by someone who actually had delayed ejaculation himself, so all the advice on there is solid. You should google delayed ejaculation resources and have a look at it with your OH, see if the exercises on there help, apparently they have a very high success rate.

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Apr 21st, 2010, 14:14 PM	#50
Crailly Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Calgary, AB Posts: 5,798	I had completely forgot about this thread - it's been exactly one year since I wrote something on here (post #7). It's comforting to find other women with men that has this problem, it's also great to get the male perspective (thanks for speaking up). Personally I have put the active TTC on hold until after my wedding in September and my honeymoon in October. If something were to actually happen before then, it would be a welcome surprise - but after October I want to have my OH see a doctor (just to make sure there is nothing physiological going on), and then I will be sure to try some of these techniques. Good luck to all of you TTC right now.

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