I am still here!! Mainly over in LTTTC though. We are just starting the process to go for IUI because trying at home isn't working for us.

Good luck to you. Hope you find a way to get your BFP's soon.

A friend of mine did similar to this, although she jumped on top when he was about there and they now have a beautiful baby girl, so it can be done, you just have to find what works for you

We're doing something similar now, and my partner doesn't even have ejaculation problems.
I'm just not up for a boring 20-30 minute daily sex marathon.
We tried that the first month; I was rubbed raw after a week, and we were both becoming irritable. Knowing it could potentially take many months to conceive, we came up with a new plan of action.

Now OH masturbates in another room almost to the point of ejaculation, then comes in and finishes in me.
It still makes for a nice 5 or 10 minute shag (most of the time; sometimes it's quicker than that; last night it was less than a minute, lol) and I get my spermies every night, without the hassle of having to endure full-on sex every night.

I'm not saying this is a good plan for everyone, but I'm just not one of those women who enjoys tons of sex.
We were a once-a-week (at most) couple before ttc, and I'm sure we'll happily revert back to that pattern, after conceiving.

My DH sufferes from delayed ejaculation too. I'd never really heard the term before, but it fits him perfectly. He has no problem ejaculating during oral sex or by hand, but find it difficult during sex.

It is so nice to realise we are not the only ones out there. When reading posts on here i always thought why can't my DH be like that? It is nice we have similar people and situations to compare too.

How are you managing Vesta?
x

It's our first month TTC, and I'm not ovulating yet. So it's a bit difficult to say at the moment! He's stopped watching "adult material", so we're gonna see if that help. Try and get him used to just orgasming through sex.

It's good to know I'm not the only one in this situation!

Me too. Feel free to pm me at any time. x

Keep them coming girls - it's really good to hear from you all!

Hi All

Don't give up hope. My partner has delayed ejaculation, never had an orgasm during sex with me, yet I am sitting here waiting for baby no.2 to arrive (due in next few weeks).

This is my 3rd pregnancy with him (one miscarriage, one toddler, one on the way) in just over 2 years. We did self insemination 6 times with a 50% success rate. The key is - montior your ovulating (take temperature, chart everything etc..), use ovulation sticks and any other method you can think of to work out exactly when to time things.

Then send your husband / partner into the bedroom with a mug / pot that's sterilised (dishwasher will do) and any adult material he may want. Once he's done swap places. Decant sperm into a syringe (go to chemist and ask for baby oral medicine dispenser), the sperm gets more liquid and less jelly like after about 5-10 mins making this a bit easier, but the quicker you can decant it the better). It's a bit tricky trying to stop it leaking out the other end of the syringe etc.. but you'll get the hang of it. Then inseminate yourself whilst lying down, put a pillow under your bum to raise it in the air, try to make yourself have an orgasm (apparently this helps) and lie there for 30 minutes.

The whole business isn't emotionally easy. The practicalities are simple, but getting to the point where you can both address the situation can be tricky.

Good luck ladies.

Happyendings, do you mind if I ask how your partner felt about self insemination? The reason I ask is I mentioned this to my husband and he felt it was some kind of insult to his mandhood. And that he should be able to make a baby the "proper" way. Did your partner have any hang ups about it? Feel free not to answer if it's too personal a queston.