Thankyou for sharing yours stories crailly and redfraggle. It's good to hear there is a success story out there too! At least I know it's possible! I'm not sure my bloke would want to see a councilor about this issue so I would love to hear any tips you were given. I think part of his problem is that he's been that way for so long he no longer see's an orgasm as the ultimate goal of sex. We're trying to re-train him a bit to be a more selfish lover (if that's the right term). He isn't as obsessed as I am about the whole TTC thing and I think he Is under the impression it's fairly easy to get pregnant. Probably all that school sex ed that gets drilled into you! But I know it won't be easy especially when we generally only have one successful session a month. I know if I tell him I'm ovulating it will put the pressure on and ruin my chances. So I keep it secret, seduce him and hope for the best!
I really want this baby to be conceived naturally but have either of you resorted to using a turkey baster or similar? Hope that's not a akward question!

sometimes my partner takes long during sex, think it is cause we are trying for a baby, wasnt like it before.

Well girls after reading these stories I thought I would add mine. My OH also has trouble finishing during intercourse but is fine by hand etc. The weird thing is we do have a child together that we had 19yrs ago when we were kids and he also fathered a daughter 13yrs ago. Now here comes the problem I think it is all in his head and so does he, maybe because I brought our son up and we split up when I was pregnant (but now getting married and very happy 19yrs on) and also his daughter has been brought up by her mother and he has just been a weekend dad if you like. I think he thinks its all going to happen again and its really frustrating for him and for me but believe me it can happen.

We have been back together year and half and when we do have sex and he can finish he is over the moon and the orgasm is fantastic. It does help when he is totally relaxed and I have found that if I say no when he comes out and we try other methods it helps if I tell him he has to put it back in, because it will happen if he wants it to. I know how you feel though girls I also feel like having a good cry because I want it so much and I know he does and he did break his heart when he told me.

Hope this helps it is nice to talk to someone else.

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My husband has the same problem and after a few months of frustration (It was killing our sex life and giving him an anxiety attack) we have started this month to do at home insemination with a syringe medicine dropper (just go to the pharmacy and ask for a 1 or 2 tsp syringe medicine dropper, they often give them for free.) It has completely taken the heat off of him as he doesn't usually have a problem if he's doing it himself. I know how incredibly hard it is to deal with but the worst thing you can do for a baby and a marriage is to create tension in the bedroom. We've only been doing this for a month so I have no idea if it's working but I'll keep you posted if it does. If it doesn't work we'll probably try artificial insemination in a clinic.

Hi I'm new today, google 'delayed ejaculation and ttc' and here I am! my man and I are getting married in 3 weeks and really want to start a family asap but he has delayed ejaculation.... research I have done says only 58% of men who have long term therapy reach a point where they can ejaculate during intercourse which is depressing, though we are on Relate waiting list and NHS waiting list for sex therapy.

So I'm keen to try home insemination with a syringe, but am not sure when is best time to try that? I am on day 3 of my period today but am never sure what that means for when I am ovulating?

Sorry to be so ignorant but am so worried about this - could live forever with 'dry' sex but not without a baby!

Partner is hopeful it will all just magically happen so I want to make it as easy and painless for him as possible so he doesn't freak out or feel bad.

Any updates from the other girls on this thread, or advice from ANYONE?

Sorry for going on

I am not alone!

I also have the same problem. I am still trying, but it has taken its toll on us both to the point where we had a melt down.

Now just trying to take it easy with no pressure and lots and lots of foreplay. It is so hard. I am currently in my third month and the first two were spent with me in tears every night. It is hard to come to terms with it and my DH can manage on his own as well.

I would welcome any advice as well please. The just try to realx bit isn't that helpful as it doesn't change anything.

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so glad I also am not alone with this, but any success stories anyone? what happened to the girls who posted on this threat last year - does anyone know?

good luck nicnac, maybe this year we'll get it sorted!

sorry!

I hope so. It is really stressful and the situation doesn't get any easier as the months go on. In fact it gets worse as we have something we want. x

hi guys i just want to give u a sucess story my husband has this same problem he always has done however we have a 2 yr old daughter and a baby on the way he cant ejaculate at all with my help or during intercourse but on his own he is fine so i know it is not easy but when we were trying ttc our children i just laid on the bed while he knelt between my legs i would lay with my eyes closed for abit less embarrasedment for him he would pleasure himself and just as he was about to ejaculate he would go inside if u get me i would then put my legs up the wall lol give the a helping hand and i have alway sfallen pregnant 1st month of trying hope this helps feel free to pm me if u would like a chat as i know how frustrating it can be especially if u have a man who is embarrassed by good luck and lots of to you all xx