Quite hurt now :/

Kimmer · Apr 18th, 2009, 11:21 AM

Bit off topic.

My mum came over earlier (doesn't know were TTC or even thinking about it) and we were talking about the problems were having with our landlady.

When she came out with "you're not thinking about getting pregnant so you can get a council house are you?"

I of course said no, but now I think when I do get pregnant and we tell her, she's gonna think that's why

Were not planning on even moving out of this flat till I'm about 8 months gone, and even then we won't be getting a council place.

That upset me

BizyBee · Apr 18th, 2009, 11:33 AM

lissaloo · Apr 18th, 2009, 11:43 AM

chin up hun ,you know what mothers are like they don't like their little girls to grow up.... they loose control when we become mothers ourselves...

Just remember you are a big girl now and are ready for your own family don't let anyone take away that excitment of planning to have a baby and working out what your gonna do ! and so what if you get a council place you deserve it as much as anyone else x

mrskx0x0 · Apr 18th, 2009, 14:12 PM

lol typical middle class mum. sounds like mine, just ignore her I am sure she doesn't mean to be nasty. When I told my Mum we were tc she made some comment about me not knowing how to change nappies, which a) I do because I used to change my sister's and b) wtf does that have to do with being a good Mum? Everyone has to learn.

I agree with lissaloo, don't let her suck the fun out of this. I told my Mum we were ttc so when I announce my BFP she doesn't say something insensitive and ruin it! xxx

susan_1981 · Apr 18th, 2009, 14:43 PM

I'm sure your mum will be fine when you are actually pregnant. My mum was a bit funny when we were TTC, then when I fell pregnant she got all excited. She's often like that. I remember when me and my husband got engaged, we planned to have a 19 month engagement and my mum kept saying "why are you thinking about it now, 19 months is ages away". But as soon as she came dress hunting with me, she changed her tune. I think the other girls are right, they don't like to think of losing their little girls. I'm pretty sure that's how my mum felt, although she'd never admit it xxx

mikababy · Apr 18th, 2009, 15:19 PM

Try not to take it too personally. Sometimes mothers don't always think before they come out with things and they seem to have this real knack of being insensitive*.

Anyways, it isn't always possible to keep parents/in laws happy and to get their approval of everything (weddings are a prime example of this!). This just takes some getting used to.

*I was talking to mine earlier and asking her how much childminders are these days (she used to be one many many moons ago) and she came out with "Have you thought about what you are going to do if you can't have children, 1 in 8 couples have trouble you know"

Yes, well, thanks! We haven't even started trying yet and she's already thinking the worst!

Apr 18th, 2009, 11:21 AM	#1
Kimmer Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,825	Quite hurt now :/ Bit off topic. My mum came over earlier (doesn't know were TTC or even thinking about it) and we were talking about the problems were having with our landlady. When she came out with "you're not thinking about getting pregnant so you can get a council house are you?" I of course said no, but now I think when I do get pregnant and we tell her, she's gonna think that's why Were not planning on even moving out of this flat till I'm about 8 months gone, and even then we won't be getting a council place. That upset me

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lissaloo Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,162	chin up hun ,you know what mothers are like they don't like their little girls to grow up.... they loose control when we become mothers ourselves... Just remember you are a big girl now and are ready for your own family don't let anyone take away that excitment of planning to have a baby and working out what your gonna do ! and so what if you get a council place you deserve it as much as anyone else x

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mrskx0x0 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 1,311	lol typical middle class mum. sounds like mine, just ignore her I am sure she doesn't mean to be nasty. When I told my Mum we were tc she made some comment about me not knowing how to change nappies, which a) I do because I used to change my sister's and b) wtf does that have to do with being a good Mum? Everyone has to learn. I agree with lissaloo, don't let her suck the fun out of this. I told my Mum we were ttc so when I announce my BFP she doesn't say something insensitive and ruin it! xxx

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susan_1981 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Kent Posts: 2,139	I'm sure your mum will be fine when you are actually pregnant. My mum was a bit funny when we were TTC, then when I fell pregnant she got all excited. She's often like that. I remember when me and my husband got engaged, we planned to have a 19 month engagement and my mum kept saying "why are you thinking about it now, 19 months is ages away". But as soon as she came dress hunting with me, she changed her tune. I think the other girls are right, they don't like to think of losing their little girls. I'm pretty sure that's how my mum felt, although she'd never admit it xxx

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Apr 18th, 2009, 15:19 PM	#6
mikababy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Ingatestone, Essex Posts: 730	Try not to take it too personally. Sometimes mothers don't always think before they come out with things and they seem to have this real knack of being insensitive. Anyways, it isn't always possible to keep parents/in laws happy and to get their approval of everything (weddings are a prime example of this!). This just takes some getting used to. I was talking to mine earlier and asking her how much childminders are these days (she used to be one many many moons ago) and she came out with "Have you thought about what you are going to do if you can't have children, 1 in 8 couples have trouble you know" Yes, well, thanks! We haven't even started trying yet and she's already thinking the worst!

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