I'm done!!!! And he obvisouly isn't ready:(

munchkinlove · Jan 31st, 2012, 03:33 AM

So im currently 8 DPO and feeling like this isn't worth it anymore this is our first month of trying for the last 3 we NTNP and it's all finally starting to get to us the hubby keeps saying that I'm hinting it's his fault but cannot give me any examples of what I've said to make him think that and I barely even saw him tonight and he blew up on me the moment we got back from hanging out with our friends .....saying I need to relax and stop hinting that it's his fault......I didn't even mention one thing about him the whole time!!! I'm so frustrated that we waited this long and he keeps saying we have years I dont want to wait years, I've already waited 2....yes I am only 28(29 in one month) but every year makes it more difficult....I'm just going to give up, no more OPKS no more period/ ovulation trackers, no more talking to him anout it .A part of me feels he is still not ready and never will be

I guess it's in his hands now.....I'm done trying for something he dosent see as important.

jessandaj · Jan 31st, 2012, 04:27 AM

im sorry that he is acting like that he is probally just being feeling like it is his fault thats why he is blaming you and saying your making him feel like that he probally thinks it easier then it is i would try and talk to him about how difficult it is to concieve maybe try and get him to watch the great sperm race it really opend my eyes to why im not pregnant yet either way dont give up on it your absolutly right about it getting harder the older you are after 30 chances decrease alot and im sure you already know that i would try and work it out or atleast keep doing your trackers and dont let him know about so that he doesint have any pressure about it being fertile time and things like that

TTC our first · Jan 31st, 2012, 10:36 AM

Im sorry

I can relate this is cycle 9 for me... Feel like ive tried and done everything and my husband doesnt feel he needs to change his diet etc so I put him on a fertility vitamin from and try to stay relaxed while I continue my opk etc. We dont talk about it anymore. Thats why I have B&B with you wonderful ladies!!!

Perhaps you will have more success if you dont "try" as hard anymore. Maybe plan a romantic night for valentines day around when you'd usually have your +opk... Call around and price a nice relaxing couples massage even if its just for 30minutes it may relax you both and help you in ttc. Also have you tried candle light and cuddling up with a nice movie to relax before ttc? Stress can cause ovulation to delay or even at times not happen from what my OB told me. Have you tried preseed? It takes little work and he doesnt even have to know you are going to use it.

I hope you dont give up on your dream of having a

. I WILL happen when you least expect it.

to you

jewelsbaby81 · Jan 31st, 2012, 15:10 PM

I think the whole TTC journey can put a lot of stress on a couple. I noticed that every month around ovulation time my DH and I were arguing about stupid stuff. I just realized that I need to relax and let things happen. When it becomes a chore it isn't fun for anyone. Just dont give up and talk things out with your DH.

Clarabell543 · Jan 31st, 2012, 15:17 PM

Hun it's a pride thing, he obviously feels that he is the problem and even if you haven't said anything he is self conscious. If he really wasn't ready he probably wouldn't even take much notice... the fact he is getting worked up over it shows he must care. (If he is anything like my fella anyway)

Hope it all works out.

munchkinlove · Jan 31st, 2012, 18:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jessandaj

im sorry that he is acting like that he is probally just being feeling like it is his fault thats why he is blaming you and saying your making him feel like that he probally thinks it easier then it is i would try and talk to him about how difficult it is to concieve maybe try and get him to watch the great sperm race it really opend my eyes to why im not pregnant yet either way dont give up on it your absolutly right about it getting harder the older you are after 30 chances decrease alot and im sure you already know that i would try and work it out or atleast keep doing your trackers and dont let him know about so that he doesint have any pressure about it being fertile time and things like that

its so hard to keep it to myself, i feel sometimes im in this on my own....one day hes happy the next he is annoyed.......ill just talk to you girls about it...and prob have a heart to heart with him tmw...and maybe have him watch the great sperm race......

munchkinlove · Jan 31st, 2012, 18:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TTC our first

Im sorry

I can relate this is cycle 9 for me... Feel like ive tried and done everything and my husband doesnt feel he needs to change his diet etc so I put him on a fertility vitamin from and try to stay relaxed while I continue my opk etc. We dont talk about it anymore. Thats why I have B&B with you wonderful ladies!!!

Perhaps you will have more success if you dont "try" as hard anymore. Maybe plan a romantic night for valentines day around when you'd usually have your +opk... Call around and price a nice relaxing couples massage even if its just for 30minutes it may relax you both and help you in ttc. Also have you tried candle light and cuddling up with a nice movie to relax before ttc? Stress can cause ovulation to delay or even at times not happen from what my OB told me. Have you tried preseed? It takes little work and he doesnt even have to know you are going to use it.

I hope you dont give up on your dream of having a

. I WILL happen when you least expect it.

to you

those are some great suggestions......i think ill try to be more relaxed, i tend to only concentrate on the end result, and get a little caught up in what we need to do and when and forget its supposed to be special and relaxing....not stressful and should not turn me into this crazy person!!!!!!!! thanks for the advice, i wont give up and ill try to relax a bit more......we havent used preseed but might try it next month.....who knows maybe this month was our month and i have nothing to worry about...i guess ill know on sunday. thanks again...and good luck....im glad to know im not the only one going through this.

munchkinlove · Jan 31st, 2012, 18:39 PM

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Originally Posted by jewelsbaby81

I think the whole TTC journey can put a lot of stress on a couple. I noticed that every month around ovulation time my DH and I were arguing about stupid stuff. I just realized that I need to relax and let things happen. When it becomes a chore it isn't fun for anyone. Just dont give up and talk things out with your DH.

thanks for the support i never thought it would be this hard!!!!!!!!!!!! i know i need to relax.....and im trying too good thing is i have sometime to practice relaxing as our next ttc time dosent start until the 10th........so until then we will have to talk it out and ill try to relax and stress less.

munchkinlove · Jan 31st, 2012, 18:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clarabell543

Hun it's a pride thing, he obviously feels that he is the problem and even if you haven't said anything he is self conscious. If he really wasn't ready he probably wouldn't even take much notice... the fact he is getting worked up over it shows he must care. (If he is anything like my fella anyway)

Hope it all works out.

thats prob all true......i know deep down inside he is ready but he only talks about it when he brings it up.....if i bring it up too much he gets annoyed......so after last night, i just went upstairs and went to bed there was no need to argue about what he thought i said......and today he didnt say much, he was nice to me but didnt mention last night he got up for work, got dressed and left, so i guess ill feel out how he is tonight when he gets home and maybe we can talk about it tomorrow over a nice dinner......and i thought we were complicated

TTC our first · Feb 1st, 2012, 00:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by munchkinlove

those are some great suggestions......i think ill try to be more relaxed, i tend to only concentrate on the end result, and get a little caught up in what we need to do and when and forget its supposed to be special and relaxing....not stressful and should not turn me into this crazy person!!!!!!!! thanks for the advice, i wont give up and ill try to relax a bit more......we havent used preseed but might try it next month.....who knows maybe this month was our month and i have nothing to worry about...i guess ill know on sunday. thanks again...and good luck....im glad to know im not the only one going through this.

Your welcome!! Hopefully you will not need them and you will get your

. Wishing you the best! Fingers crossed!

Jan 31st, 2012, 03:33 AM	#1
munchkinlove Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Central New York Posts: 279	I'm done!!!! And he obvisouly isn't ready:( So im currently 8 DPO and feeling like this isn't worth it anymore this is our first month of trying for the last 3 we NTNP and it's all finally starting to get to us the hubby keeps saying that I'm hinting it's his fault but cannot give me any examples of what I've said to make him think that and I barely even saw him tonight and he blew up on me the moment we got back from hanging out with our friends .....saying I need to relax and stop hinting that it's his fault......I didn't even mention one thing about him the whole time!!! I'm so frustrated that we waited this long and he keeps saying we have years I dont want to wait years, I've already waited 2....yes I am only 28(29 in one month) but every year makes it more difficult....I'm just going to give up, no more OPKS no more period/ ovulation trackers, no more talking to him anout it .A part of me feels he is still not ready and never will be I guess it's in his hands now.....I'm done trying for something he dosent see as important.

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Jan 31st, 2012, 04:27 AM	#2
jessandaj Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: missouri Posts: 178	im sorry that he is acting like that he is probally just being feeling like it is his fault thats why he is blaming you and saying your making him feel like that he probally thinks it easier then it is i would try and talk to him about how difficult it is to concieve maybe try and get him to watch the great sperm race it really opend my eyes to why im not pregnant yet either way dont give up on it your absolutly right about it getting harder the older you are after 30 chances decrease alot and im sure you already know that i would try and work it out or atleast keep doing your trackers and dont let him know about so that he doesint have any pressure about it being fertile time and things like that

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Jan 31st, 2012, 10:36 AM	#3
TTC our first Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: PA Posts: 116	Im sorry I can relate this is cycle 9 for me... Feel like ive tried and done everything and my husband doesnt feel he needs to change his diet etc so I put him on a fertility vitamin from and try to stay relaxed while I continue my opk etc. We dont talk about it anymore. Thats why I have B&B with you wonderful ladies!!! Perhaps you will have more success if you dont "try" as hard anymore. Maybe plan a romantic night for valentines day around when you'd usually have your +opk... Call around and price a nice relaxing couples massage even if its just for 30minutes it may relax you both and help you in ttc. Also have you tried candle light and cuddling up with a nice movie to relax before ttc? Stress can cause ovulation to delay or even at times not happen from what my OB told me. Have you tried preseed? It takes little work and he doesnt even have to know you are going to use it. I hope you dont give up on your dream of having a . I WILL happen when you least expect it. to you

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Jan 31st, 2012, 15:10 PM	#4
jewelsbaby81 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Arizona Posts: 62	I think the whole TTC journey can put a lot of stress on a couple. I noticed that every month around ovulation time my DH and I were arguing about stupid stuff. I just realized that I need to relax and let things happen. When it becomes a chore it isn't fun for anyone. Just dont give up and talk things out with your DH.

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Jan 31st, 2012, 15:17 PM	#5
Clarabell543 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 42	Hun it's a pride thing, he obviously feels that he is the problem and even if you haven't said anything he is self conscious. If he really wasn't ready he probably wouldn't even take much notice... the fact he is getting worked up over it shows he must care. (If he is anything like my fella anyway) Hope it all works out.

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