does this make me a bad mum?

CharlyRocket · Jan 28th, 2012, 07:32 AM

My son will be 3 in 2 months and he is still in nappies. i mean i have brought a potty and brought him some pants. i tried at first taking his nappie off and every 30 min or less asking him if he needed to go peepee or poopy. lol. But he would say no and then he would wet himself a few minutes later so i tried sitting him occasionaly on the potty till he did something but he wouldnt. I have no idea what im doing and is it normal for him to still be in nappies as he is nearly 3?????????

polaris · Jan 28th, 2012, 08:22 AM

I really wouldn't worry about it at all, and no it doesn't make you a bad mum! Boys often train later than girls and anything up to three and a half or four is totally normal. It will happen in its own time, he's not going to be in nappies forever! If I was you, I would leave it for a couple of months and then when the weather starts getting a bit warmer let him run around naked for a few days and see if that helps him to get the hang of it.

CharlyRocket · Jan 28th, 2012, 08:35 AM

Thanks, thats a good idea letting him run around naked when its warmer. Thanks

mumtosam · Jan 28th, 2012, 08:54 AM

I haven't started potty training yet either and Sam will be 3 in May. We too have a potty and pants but he still doesn't seem ready yet!

CharlyRocket · Jan 28th, 2012, 08:59 AM

Yeah he knows what its for but he just wont use it. I suppose if he's not ready i cant force him. But when will i know he's ready? i read somewhere that he should come to you saying that he wanted to be changed like he shows discomfort . But he's quite happy in it at the mo. lol . I suppose baby steps are the answer

Lulu · Jan 28th, 2012, 09:51 AM

If it makes you a bad mum, then so am I

Euan will be 3 in May and we've tried a few times over the last few months and it seemed to send him backwards, he started freaking out every time he saw the potty so I backed off. DH wants to try again but I think we should wait. Euan still won't tell us if he's done a poo, in fact if you ask him (especially when it's obvious he has) he says 'no, I'm fine' so I don't think he's ready yet.

At times I feel like I'm being too soft and really should try again but at the same time I don't want to cause a toilet phobia issue that isn't there just now IYKWIM!

lepaskilf · Jan 28th, 2012, 11:19 AM

We just started by introducing the potty, not asking him to use it but just put it in the living room. He ignored it and we ignored it and then one day he sat on it with his clothes on.

We then started taking his bottoms off when in the house and again ignored the potty, didn't even mention it. Most of the time we'd get a wet floor, when this happened we asked him if he would like to sit on the potty to associate it with weeing, eventually he started sitting and peeing on the potty but would only ever do it when he had no bottoms on. This went on for a good 3-4 months until yesterday when we decided to go for it and go out without a nappy on! x Hope this help x

hellohefalump · Jan 28th, 2012, 12:12 PM

Madeleine was still in nappies at that age. She just wasn't ready yet. We potty trained her a few months after she was three, it only took a week because she was ready then.

CharlyRocket · Jan 30th, 2012, 04:34 AM

Thanks everyone you've made me feel loads better, lol. Lulu Rayan's the same you ask hims if he's done a poo and he'll say no even though he has.

vaniilla · Jan 30th, 2012, 04:47 AM

no ofcourse it doesn't make you a bad mum ! you can't force a child to learn to crawl, walk or talk, potty training is no different, he'll do it when he's ready hun don't worry about it, the pp's have given some really good suggestions, we're nowhere near it yet so I've not thought about it

Jan 28th, 2012, 07:32 AM	#1
CharlyRocket Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 13	does this make me a bad mum? My son will be 3 in 2 months and he is still in nappies. i mean i have brought a potty and brought him some pants. i tried at first taking his nappie off and every 30 min or less asking him if he needed to go peepee or poopy. lol. But he would say no and then he would wet himself a few minutes later so i tried sitting him occasionaly on the potty till he did something but he wouldnt. I have no idea what im doing and is it normal for him to still be in nappies as he is nearly 3?????????

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Jan 28th, 2012, 08:22 AM	#2
polaris Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 5,803	I really wouldn't worry about it at all, and no it doesn't make you a bad mum! Boys often train later than girls and anything up to three and a half or four is totally normal. It will happen in its own time, he's not going to be in nappies forever! If I was you, I would leave it for a couple of months and then when the weather starts getting a bit warmer let him run around naked for a few days and see if that helps him to get the hang of it.

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CharlyRocket Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 13	Thanks, thats a good idea letting him run around naked when its warmer. Thanks

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mumtosam Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: clacton on sea Posts: 284	I haven't started potty training yet either and Sam will be 3 in May. We too have a potty and pants but he still doesn't seem ready yet!

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CharlyRocket Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 13	Yeah he knows what its for but he just wont use it. I suppose if he's not ready i cant force him. But when will i know he's ready? i read somewhere that he should come to you saying that he wanted to be changed like he shows discomfort . But he's quite happy in it at the mo. lol . I suppose baby steps are the answer

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Jan 28th, 2012, 09:51 AM	#6
Lulu Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Central Scotland Posts: 926	If it makes you a bad mum, then so am I Euan will be 3 in May and we've tried a few times over the last few months and it seemed to send him backwards, he started freaking out every time he saw the potty so I backed off. DH wants to try again but I think we should wait. Euan still won't tell us if he's done a poo, in fact if you ask him (especially when it's obvious he has) he says 'no, I'm fine' so I don't think he's ready yet. At times I feel like I'm being too soft and really should try again but at the same time I don't want to cause a toilet phobia issue that isn't there just now IYKWIM!

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Jan 28th, 2012, 11:19 AM	#7
lepaskilf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: I live in North Wales Posts: 2,725	We just started by introducing the potty, not asking him to use it but just put it in the living room. He ignored it and we ignored it and then one day he sat on it with his clothes on. We then started taking his bottoms off when in the house and again ignored the potty, didn't even mention it. Most of the time we'd get a wet floor, when this happened we asked him if he would like to sit on the potty to associate it with weeing, eventually he started sitting and peeing on the potty but would only ever do it when he had no bottoms on. This went on for a good 3-4 months until yesterday when we decided to go for it and go out without a nappy on! x Hope this help x

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Jan 28th, 2012, 12:12 PM	#8
hellohefalump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 1,853	Madeleine was still in nappies at that age. She just wasn't ready yet. We potty trained her a few months after she was three, it only took a week because she was ready then.

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Jan 30th, 2012, 04:34 AM	#9
CharlyRocket Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 13	Thanks everyone you've made me feel loads better, lol. Lulu Rayan's the same you ask hims if he's done a poo and he'll say no even though he has.

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vaniilla Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 8,384	no ofcourse it doesn't make you a bad mum ! you can't force a child to learn to crawl, walk or talk, potty training is no different, he'll do it when he's ready hun don't worry about it, the pp's have given some really good suggestions, we're nowhere near it yet so I've not thought about it

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