This morning, Paige woke up at 4.45am... eek! And usually when she wakes at this time, I bring her into our bed and she will nap for an extra hour or so, although it takes her a while to fall back asleep. Well I brought her in and OH told me to go back to sleep and he would get her to sleep.

30 minutes passed and she was still awake and tryng to climb about, and OH was getting pissed off (he seems to be very impatient when it comes to LO) so he said "thats it your going into your own bed"

Cue the screams. I mean she screamed her head off for a total of 50 minutes, and it sounded like she was absolutely terrified. I know she was crying for me, but I wanted to wait a bit to see if she would sleep for OH. I could hear her getting very very upset, so I went in and asked if OH wanted me to get her... resulting in him being nasty and saying "no she needs to learn that I have to get her to sleep too..." and just being a dick (excuse me!) Anyway, I stood there and he walked out and said "dont ask me to get her ever again"...

Was I right to go in and get her? I honestly couldnt lie and listen anymore, I felt terrible, and just wanted to hug her straight away, but I knew OH would be pissed off. Or should I have left OH to it? I know that she would have continued to scream until she conked out with exhaustion.

Bless you hun I'd have done EXACTLY the same thing. men have such little patience when their sleep is being compromised don't they (my OH does for sure)
Anyways yes I'd have done the same thing xxxx

I can see both sides Hun. I know it's horrible to hear your lo scream but it was just because she wanted her own way, it is a good idea to let your oh try just so you can have a break every now and again.

I've had this too and did what you did and got pretty much the same reaction as you. When my oh and I discussed it later we both realised that our daughter was crying to get her own way and I'd made my oh feel like he couldn't deal with his own daughter so that's why he wasn't happy.

Now that we both go to her she seems to want whoever she's been with mostly during the day so I've been on the receiving end of those screams when she just wants daddy. I must admit I do feel a bit put out if my oh comes in. That said it's HORRIBLE listening to the screams so I understand why you'd both be stressed

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I would have done the same thing and probably wouldn't have lasted as long as you did. I don't think that a baby's cries has the same effect on the men! My OH can be like this too. It is like he feels he has to prove that he can do it. The thing is that at 5am, assuming your LO has slept all night, she probably wasn't even tired. I find that, hard as it is, when they wake at that time, it is usually easier to just get up.

It's quite similar for me, OH is very impatient when it comes to the LOs, and when he deals with them I find it hard to 'leave them to scream'. I know I probably should, as my son in particular, can't settle with anyone but me, and it means I can't really leave him, but I just can't do it. Now, my OH just leaves me to do things 'my way' instead of getting involved. It's a bit irritating I'm doing it all on my own, but at least it's being done a way I feel comfortable.

In response to your question, I would have got her.

That sounds like how it would play out if DH tried to help. I have always been in charge of bedtime/wake up time because DH has no patience. Its exhausting but its worth avoiding the fights and at least I get my way with Nolan.

I would have gone in sooner. Learning to go to sleep with someone else shouldn't be something that's done at a time of stress if it's possible to do it at a relaxed happy time imo.

Can see it from his point of view but I think when anyone is tired with a crying lo it's not the best time to be making decisions.

yep I would of done the same. I would of given him probs 15mins max to try and settle her, but if he was being a dick and she was getting worse i'd go in and take over. Luckily my hubby is better at settling Millicent but it takes me ages to wake him up!
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I'd have done the same Hun DH doesn't have the patience to put Omar in bed but he doesn't leave him to cry, he gives up & calls me. I wouldn't leave Omar to cry for any reason. I still cuddle him to sleep & we co-sleep. we're sleep deprived almost all the time, but we don't really mind. He will sleep on his own when he's ready.

My DH would have gave up after 5min or less and came to me I would have done the same as you