Its typical that lots of us feel like this but none of us actually live near each other though eh!!

yeah i know, life hey lol, i live in gloucester so move to where i live lol

nah, you move here i like the north too much

ok lol i could use a change and a new job

I know just how you feel. My best girlfriend doesn't have kids and may never have any due to health issues, and while she absolutely adores Darwin she's frequently bored because I always want to talk about baby-related stuff. It doesn't help matters that two of her other girlfriends have had babies in the last year either!

I don't really have any mom friends, and like you I'm a bit shy - I can't just go up to people and start chatting, and if I do end up in a conversation with another mom I never know how to make it something lasting. Usually it's just a little chat in a store and then we go our separate ways - if you think about it, asking another mom you've just met if she would like to get together is a lot like asking a complete stranger for a date; no wonder we find it tough to do!

I did join one moms & babies group in my town, I found the meetup group online and thought it would be great to get emails about events and then go out to meet other mommies. Unfortunately, it turns out that it's a religion-based group and since we're a family of atheists, I doubt we'd be accepted for who we are and welcomed at their events.

I find myself wanting more and more to meet other moms, and the times I do run into someone with a baby or toddler I just want to stop everything I'm doing and sit for hours and chat with them! There is so much stuff that only other moms (and dads) understand, and all our friends without kids are politely interested but (understandably) don't really care to spend hours talking about vaccinations, temper tantrums, the most stimulating toys & videos, or which stores have the best prices on diapers.

I guess we're all pretty lucky B & B exists - it's not the same as getting together in person, but at least we all have a place to come together and chat about our kids to people who get it!

I had no friends who were about to have children/already had children when I had Ally. Now, I do see those friends still but probably not as often or in the same circumstances as I would if I didn't have a child. We go for coffee or sometimes they come with me to a play cafe so I can relax a bit more whilst Ally plays. The few friends I do have and see regularly love him to bits and adore seeing him but I sometimes feel left out of other stuff. I do get invited to go out but I never have a babysitter, and plus why would I want to go out when I'd have to get up at the crack of dawn with Ally anyway?! I get tired and usually fall asleep on the sofa at 8.30pm lol!

Where we used to live I was lucky enough to kind of fall in with a group of mums who'd all been in antenatal class together. I was also very lucky than a non-mummy friend introduced me to her friend who had a little boy when Ally was just 5 weeks and her little boy was just 2 weeks old! She was my rock for going to groups!


We've moved though. And it's difficult now. I go to groups and although people are friendly, I can't see us ever being as close as I was to my old Mummy friends. I have managed to meet 2 lovely Mums tho. Who I suspect have always felt a bit left out, one of them has 3 kids. Her middle one is 2 months older than Ally and she came to a toddler group for the first time, the day that I tried that group for the first time!

I guess all we can do is keep taking them and one day someone new and friendly will come!

I have to say, I don't think it's even an age thing. My sister is 34 and feels v.left out and isolated having had her first last year. I'm 24 and feel like I don't fit in anywhere. There are lots of teen Mums and lots of older Mums but very few around my age...that's how it feels to me anyway.

I dont really hang out with my childless friends now, all they do really is go out boozing etc and i dont want to get babysitters all the time, plus i haven't the cash to AND i wouldn't want to.

I really only see two friends now and they both have little girls the same age as my LO and we do mumsy stuff like, play gyms, going to park and farms etc, would much rather do that anyway and spend nice time with my LO and friends at same time.

yeah thats true alot of my friend like going out drinking, i mean i have my oh 2 babysit if i want him to but i want to spend time as a family not going out drinking.

See girls im the oppisit. All my friends have children and i am more than happy to go round there's so they dont need a babysitter but they are all off seeing there other mummy friends.

u cud be my friend laura! i have SOD all to do allll the time LOL