Wobbles

My Caitlin to be fair has always been a good baby and easy to handle her 'naughty' to us has always been said "thats naughty?" haha I guess we know she's been easy but end of the day it was naughty to us!

Now? This last few weeks she has slowly been getting really hard to handle and this last 2 weeks have just been a high pitched constant battle.
She screams day in day out
Whines
Never happy
Took a bite at me last week really bad and held down on the end of my finger so hard I had to shout at her to let go!
This morning OMG she took a bite at me twice 5 minutes later was biting her soft platic toy tub!
Snatching
Angry I guess in a way
Wants her own way simple as that but sometimes don't even know what that is
Throwing toys unplayfully
Rough with others - adults or children
Not letting go of things she shouldn't have
Kicking out with her feet (usually at me)

Its just awful!

Is this the real terrible 2's?

How have you girls handled this with your children? What did or didn't work? Did it last for long?

I've honestly lost all my patience and just don't want to get up in the mornings

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Shes been going to nursery for the last 2 weeks! First week went in FINE second week screamed from the front door up to her play room and clung to me screaming. Doesn't usually get clingy loves other people loves playing with other kids etc but now? Serious brat alert. Apparantly after a few minutes shes perfectly fine but like I say shes like this at home now too only not clingy at home and was starting to show signs of it before nursery I just dunno now!

Wheres my loving baby gone

Vickie

Wish I had some ideas for you but we haven't reached that stage yet

sabby52

Your loving baby is turning into a little girl Dec has been like this for months, he is a terror, sometimes he will have me in tears because I just dont know what to do, he doesnt listen and no means nothing to him Everything you have just said about Caitlin is what Dec does and has been doing for a long, long time, he bites (not to often now, seems to be growing out of that one) and when he does he aims to hurt, he is so rough with children and adults, kicks, screams, never happy unless things go his way and tries to hurt people in a sneaky way, he will walk past another child and push them in a sneaky way then look at me and say "oh fall down". Dont get me wrong he has his moments (as I am sure Caitlin does to ) where you could just eat them and they are so adorable , then at the click of a finger back to being the height of all evil

The only advise I have hun is ignore, ignore, ignore. That works with Dec, if he is having a temper and I acknowledge it he is 100 times worse, if I leave him be (in a safe area ) it is over in a matter of minutes.

I think they have just got to that stage where they know what they want but just dont have the abilty to express it properly yet. With Dec it is his speech to, he has the understanding but just doesnt have the speech to express what he wants.

Fingers crossed it will be over soon but I have heard a few girls on her say 3 is worse than 2 Hope not, dont think Dec can get any worse

polo_princess

mumexpctinno3

Hey hunni, i really feel for you, my son started his terrible twos just before he turned 2! Its hard but i promise you it will get better, just take each day as it comes. I still have to tell him off everyday but it is getting better, slowly! x

oOKayOo

It will pass at around age 4

But Yes terrible twos , but tbh hun terrible twos have nothing on threes. Nothing!
So worse to come

Anway being serious you just have to be persistant , I have an awful memory so i really cant tell you how i handled things. I did get so so stressed with it though , to the point id just be sat there in tears, that was my biggest regret though as she saw this and knew she could get to me.

Every situation will be different , whatever you feel at the time go ahead with it , make sure you always do what you say , like one last time and you go striaght to your room.

Im guilty for that i tend to keep repeating it and it never happens until she does it 100 times more

Im sure you will be just fine


* also i supose its like teenages with there hormones , they have so many different feelings , and emotions that they get frustrated i guess and are learning to register that into themselves if you know what i mean. This is where they turn into a little girl

oOKayOo

Oh yes and what sabby said ignore! Just walk away and carry on if they have a full out tantrum! Dont let her think everytime she has a paddy that your attention will straight on her , i just say stop being silly and turn my back! Doesnt last long .. sometimes anyway lol

Danilou1910

Charlie is a little terror, has been since he could crawl. But since 18 months he has been in the terrible 2's. As kay said I was too soft and gave him too many chances, so I guess he started to think I didn't mean what I said so he started to push me more. Like you I was at the point of tears and I just couldn't bare to be in the same room when the tempers start, as it can be so draining,and he comes in my room every morning 6-7, bright as a daisy and just start demanding from me, i'm still tackling this as i feel it sets the day of to a bad start. I am leaving hi, with great success as he has great speech to say "can I have......please?" opposed to "I WANT..... NOW?"

I suffered PND up until charlie was about 16 months, so I feel that had an affect on charlie and on my patience. So it's been a learning curve for us both. I tried timeout a few times but never perservered. But over the last month or so I have stuck at it. He has a naughty mat, once he has been warned once or twice if it's not to naughty, he goes straight there, 2 mins. I then take him back to where he was being naughty, tell him why it was naughty and ask him to apologise. And I have seen approvement day by day. As for the screaming tantrums, I give him a couple of mins to settle by ignoring him, and give him a chance by asking him to calm down or warn him that he will go on naughty mat, and if he doesn't. Again naughty mat, but I leave him to cry it out while he can't see me, every couple of mins I asked if he has finished, if he says no, I walk away again, if he says yes then I let him back in the room. Again it has got better day by day and he only tends to have 1-3 big tantrums a day lasting no more than 5-10 mins (used to pretty much be a constant). So I guess the best advice I can give is to stick to your guns, if you say it, then do it or she will think she can push you more and try to stay calm (which I know is really hard most times) but I think they react better, if they see you stressed they think they have won.

But I still have a long way to go, haven't yet got a clue how to work on public tantrums

Good luck, hope things start to settle soon, and sorry for the essay

bibswy

No advice but . Bites can really hurt... Billie bit my finger this morning so hard I actually cried! I remember my sister's kids having major strops aged around 2.. She made sure she never gave in just to shut them up (however tempting it was) and like others have said, she just walked into a different room and let them 'tantrum it out'.

sam19

My little brother was an angel at 2 but he's started doing it now at 4 and half!!! he's much stronger so harder to control!!! I tend to just ignore him but its awful when we are out if I have the buggy with me I force him into it then ignore him and carry on with what im doing he will put his feet on the floor to stop me so I just tip the buggy up and push it on 2 wheels he eventually stops once hes worn out, I have also noticed they tend to happen when he's hungry (which he dont tell me) so i try to make sure I have stuff like humzingers and raisins in my bag just in case! I work at the school he goes to and have noticed other kids have tantrums at school so its not just him which makes it a bit easier knowing hes not the only one.