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This is something I have always said I would do however with that I also said I wouldn't do it before an age I think she'd be able to understand that she has been sat down for being naughty ...BUT I think I've left it longer than I could have! Caitlin is 2 on Tuesday and I want to start introducing this (which Im explaining why in another question thread).
How did you introduce it?
Where was the 'spot' you sat them?
How long for?
How did you make them understand how long they needed to be there?
Anything else?
Other tips?
How did you introduce it? we are soon going to introduce this to Hannah. if she ignores us after we tell her no we'll go place her in the chair
Where was the 'spot' you sat them? this we haven't determined yet, somewhere a bit off from us though still in the same room
How long for? I have read that it's supposed to be their age plus 1 minute. I wouldn't leave Hannah for more than a minute though
How did you make them understand how long they needed to be there? with Hannah we'd tell her to sit back down when she tries to get up, she's pretty good at sitting when we tell her to and tends to just whine when she's told to sit and is in trouble
Anything else? I've read that after they get out it's good to tell them why they were there in the first place, tell them you love them etc. With Hannah we'll do a very simple version of this--just what we think she can understand
Other tips?
Your supposed to give them 1 warning that if they carry on the behaviour she will go on the naughty step, then they stay there for a minite of their lives so in your case 2 mins.
then you go to them and tell them what they did wrong and then ask them to appoligise then give them a hug x
I was told not to do this until Dec was 3 because 2 is to young for them to fully understand Buttttttttt I did use it for a while and this is how we went about it
1 warning that what he was doing was naughty, dangerous or just plain silly, told to stop or he would go in the naughty baby seat.
if he continued he would be took away (usually kicking and screaming )
Placed in his booster seat at the other side of the room and left for 30 seconds. (I was told any child under 3 should never have a full minute because they dont have the concentration for it )
I would then sit in front of him and explain that what he was doing was naughty, dangerous and that was why he was in the naughty baby seat. He was told to say sorry and we would have a cuddle before he was taken out of the seat.
It never worked for me so we stopped using it, we now just get to his level hold him close to us make sure he has eye contact and explain what he was doing was not good and he would have hurt himself or someone else and that he was not to do it again, if another person was involved he would say sorry and give a hug or kiss ( only gives hug or kiss if he wants to we never enforce this) I have realise that talking to him a calm adult way seems to calm him more, so we try to do this as often as possible, dont get me wrong sometimes I lose my rag and shout and this just seems to agitate him more.
Same as Paula85.
The next time she is 'naughty' explain to her what she's done wrong and that in future if she does such and such she'll have to have a time out and then go from there in whichever method you find best suits you and your family.
With Eloise, we'll give a warning (except for hitting or biting, she knows she will get no warning for those and is old enough to know it's wrong and hurts and it's so so rare she hits any more). Something along the lines of "If you continue to XXXX you'll have to sit on the mat, you know that you're not supposed to XXXX".
Then if she continues (in most cases she doesn't as she's learnt what we mean and what sitting on the mat entails) we take her over to the mat and get down to her level and explain very calmly why she is there and that she will stay there for 2 minutes. (We do a minute per year of her life)
We then walk away and leave her, to begin with she would whine and beg to come away, or just walk off (is she did this we'd put her back and start the timing again). It's really important not to respond to them asking for you as they don't take it seriously.
After she'd sat/stood there for the full 2 minutes we'd go back over, offer her a kiss and a cuddle and explain what she did wrong and ask for an apology - after which we'd return to normal!
(Bit of an essay, lol!)
We introduced it 2 months ago and tbh we rarely have to use it any more. It is so effective and really changed her behaviour.
My niece was in time-out from in April when we were visiting and she was just over 2 and I think my sister had been doing it for a while. She definitely knew what it was.
She was funny though - if she was mad and about to throw a temper tantrum - she put herself in time-out - stating, "I'm mad, mad, mad". She also put Nannie in time-out if she's bad
My own daughter is just over 1 and we put her in her 'box' (wooden playpen) when she deliberately ignores us. It's usually when she's messing with the buttons on the audio/TV system as she only does it when she's tired and being bad on purpose. She's at the age where she doesn't play in the pen anymore and we haven't gotten around to taking it down and daddy just used it one day to get her away from the system and make sure she couldn't go right back. After a few times, she doesn't go straight back to the buttons after being in the playpen.
I think you just have to do trial and error and good luck!!
lilly has a naughty step.... and there is a naughty step were every we go!
i told her about the naughty step before i started to do it....
then i just started to sit her on it when ever i thought she was been naughty!
i take her to the step and dont speak to her and i leave her there for 1min and a half (1min for each year ) after the time is up i go back and tell her why she is on the step and that it is very naughty to do wat she has done..... i then ask her to say sorry and give me a kiss and a cuddle.... or if she has smacked another child she is made to go say sorry and kiss and cuddle them...... i have also started to tell her that i am not her friend when she is naughty and she doesnt like not having friends so that works a treat. xxxx
I have not exactly got a naughty chair, but will put Rayan in a corner of the room or just away from me when he is being naughty. After one or two warnings. He doesn't like being put away, he is not 2 yet though, so doesn't fully understand. All though he does realise he is not being a sweet boy and when I call him back he comes and kiss me saying no mummy. Which means as much as I won't do it again mummy!
So far it works brillantly.
My sister uses a naughty chair, has done since my niece was over 2 years. Until they got a chair, it was the bottom step of the stairs, now her chair goes there. She knows and learnt very well, they hardly use it now but it's still needed on occasion!
Gabbi is way too young, but I do take her away from things now, when she's "playing" with something she shouldn't. She hates being taken away, she wont know what's hit her once there's a naughty chair involved! TOUGH!
Buttttttttt I did use it for a while and this is how we went about it
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