Is she in her own room? I'd try lying down with her on your bed, that way at least you getting her used to not been cuddled but she knows your there.

We've always co-slept up until 12months, and the only way she would sleep is if she could lie next to me and play with my hair

I've gradually got her into her own cot bed, she screams if i put her into mine now! so thats an achievement, we made a massive deal out of it being her nice big bed and she loves it now. Only problem is, i have to hang my head over the side of her cot so she can twiddle my hair I need to find something like my hair that she likes to stroke lol

I am so glad I popped in to this part of the forum, as I too am in this sittuation... Harry will not go down on his own!! He's a year old in 2 weeks and not only does he end up falling asleep on my husband every night, but he's waking during the night (anything from wanting his dummy back to standing in his cot shouting because he wants to play) and it's not always a case of him just drifting back off to sleep. Sometimes (like last night) he will be awake for 2 or more hours just because he thinks it's time to get up at 3/4am!!!!!

We tried putting him down on his own for a while and it worked well, but then he had suspected swine flu and was REALLY poorly. He slept nearly all day every day, but only on other people, never in his cot, play pen or on his change mat (which he's always been a fan of sleeping on!). Since then putting him down when he's sleepy has NOT been an option. He will stand in his cot and scream the house down, sometimes for hours at a time and because he won't sit/lay back down on his own, he never ends up crying himself to sleep. My 12 year old step-son also lives with us and my husband just feels it's unfair to him if Harry's in his cot screaming...

He's never been one to go to bed early (even when he was really tiny), so we're up with him until about 11-11:30pm with him most nights.

Now that I'm pregnant again (19 weeks today) I simply can't keep going on like this. I need to get to bed earlier, I need to get him to sleep without all the hassle and I need a full night sleep once in a while

Any advice?

It's horrible to hear that other people are suffering the same sort of sittuation, but also reasuring that I'm not the only one...

Kim x

i stopped cuddling joshua to sleep when he was about 6 months old. (only for bedtime)

he was about 11 months old when i stopped cuddling him to sleep for his naps, now i put him up stairs for nap and he falls asleep on his own.

for the night time cuddles,i would cuddle him and give him a bottle then put him down in his cot.then i would pat his belly until he dosed off,i think the first night it took 25 mins but the second night i went cold turkey and put him down after his bottle and he was asleep in 10 mins.
it may not be as easy for you as she is older.

Joshua still has a bottle before a nap and i think that helps as hes not playing one minute then i put him up to bed.he has time to wind down.

when i put him to bed for the night i dont have a light on at all.

the hallway light is off and the bedroom light is too.

Having issues with that here too. Charlotte used to go to sleep at 9pm, just put her in her bed and she'd go out. Then...she got pneumonia and I let her sleep in bed with me ONCE cause DH was working for the night and Austin was at the sitters so I could bring her to the ER. Since then she's had to sleep in bed with us. I've tried putting her into her own room and she screams like someone is killing her. If I'm in the room with her she's fine and will stay in bed. Take one step out of the doorway and she's screaming again. Will NOT go to sleep on her own. I can hold her until she falls asleep and then put her in her own bed and she's fine...until she wakes up around 1 or 2am and comes screaming into our room and into our bed. Can't even put her back into her room after she falls asleep cause she'll wake up. UGH, so frustrating!

I'm still doing the same hun
and he;s over 13kg now, I don't rock him though, i just hold him and sit on the sofa or bed or sometimes i lie down with him and then when he sleeps i put him in the cot

This is the kick up the backside I need! I think I'll have to stop rocking/feeding MOlly to sleep before she gets older and it gets tougher. Tomorrow night she is going to sleep on her own!

I tried putting her in the cot while she was awake yday.... and I thought I was onto a winner as I came down & watched her on the monitor and she looked as if she was going to sleep on her own BUT then after 3/4 mins she was standing up in the cot screaming at the top of her voice.
I went into her room... gave her a kiss and put her down again and then she was fighting me to stand up again & I tried putting her back down but she started crying louder, and doing the 'Im going to be sick' routine!!!!!

By this time it was 8.30 and I still had to have dinner!!! Arrrggghhhhh
So ended up rocking again for 15mins!!!!!!

I dont know what to do ladies..... But glad to know we have each other for support!!!

These hugs are for all the moms rocking your kids to sleep...It must be sooo exhausting and I take my hat off to you for that! Just carrying my little one exhausts me! Good luck everyone!