What do you do when a 1 year old tantrums? - Page 2

Sparky0207 · Oct 23rd, 2009, 06:19 AM

Lucy does this! She is usually so placid but shes now realised she doesnt have to listen to when I say no, so when I pick her up and move her away from whatever shes doing that she shouldnt be, she throws herself on the floor, kicks her arms and legs and screams! Ive been ignoring her and its slowly getting better

JennTheMomma · Oct 23rd, 2009, 10:36 AM

I would not ignore it or say no in a loud voice. A tantrum is when a child gets frusterated and doesn't know how to channel that frusteration, so they kick, scream, cry, etc. Everyone gets overwhelmed. When Hunter has a tantrum I get down next to him and tell him its ok, if he's overwhelmed at something he can't get right, I help him with it. Ignoring him is showing him that his feelings don't matter, and telling him no is telling him that its not ok to get frusterated. Instead you need to show her how to let her frusterations out without getting that upset.

taperjeangirl · Oct 23rd, 2009, 15:15 PM

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Originally Posted by JennTheMomma

I would not ignore it or say no in a loud voice. A tantrum is when a child gets frusterated and doesn't know how to channel that frusteration, so they kick, scream, cry, etc. Everyone gets overwhelmed. When Hunter has a tantrum I get down next to him and tell him its ok, if he's overwhelmed at something he can't get right, I help him with it. Ignoring him is showing him that his feelings don't matter, and telling him no is telling him that its not ok to get frusterated. Instead you need to show her how to let her frusterations out without getting that upset.

Did that work with him when he was 1?

chrisymills08 · Oct 23rd, 2009, 17:34 PM

im glad im not the only one my little lad is 14 months and throws the biggest tantrums ever so any advice would be great, i just ignore him at the moment.

Just Visiting · Oct 25th, 2009, 12:01 PM

My 14 month daughter has been throwing tantrums before she was 1. lol

We usually ignore her until she calms down. There have been times when she REALLY gets upset. My husband then takes her to the bedroom and lets her vent for a couple of minutes. He goes and checks in to see if she is done. If not, then wait for another minute or two. He is better at it then I am..lol.

**polo_princess** · Oct 29th, 2009, 19:32 PM

Right back to the OP now thats been tidied up

tiggertea · Oct 29th, 2009, 19:56 PM

just as i came for a nosey... lol

to the OP - I plan to ignore

tho I'll be able to answer better in a few months when missy masters the art of a tantrum!

taperjeangirl · Oct 29th, 2009, 20:03 PM

LOL I am finding ignoring to be the way forward! If I go to her she carrys it on alot longer, if I ignore her she just stops!

mygirl · Oct 30th, 2009, 04:32 AM

generally i will first work out if it is frustration or anger. if its frustraation, due to a toy not working or suclike i help her, show her how to sort out the problem and she will calm down, i just make sure i stay laughy smiley and encourage her.
if the tantrum is anger i generally try to distract her with sometihing, make her laugh or just carry on with what i am doing, dressing, nappy, or whatever all the while smiling and being cheerful and telling her what i am doing and why and what a noisy monkey she is. it doesnt tend to last long and i am mastered in the art of catching it before it actually becomes a tantruum now!!

taperjeangirl · Oct 30th, 2009, 08:50 AM

Daisys is mostly frustration, I received a book at her 1 year check all about it and it says they know what they want to happen but cant always figure out how to do it, hence the tantrum! !

I help her but most of the time she will just get more stroppy so I tend to just leave her to it!

Oct 23rd, 2009, 06:19 AM	#11
Sparky0207 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 5,106	Lucy does this! She is usually so placid but shes now realised she doesnt have to listen to when I say no, so when I pick her up and move her away from whatever shes doing that she shouldnt be, she throws herself on the floor, kicks her arms and legs and screams! Ive been ignoring her and its slowly getting better

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Oct 23rd, 2009, 10:36 AM	#12
JennTheMomma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,333	I would not ignore it or say no in a loud voice. A tantrum is when a child gets frusterated and doesn't know how to channel that frusteration, so they kick, scream, cry, etc. Everyone gets overwhelmed. When Hunter has a tantrum I get down next to him and tell him its ok, if he's overwhelmed at something he can't get right, I help him with it. Ignoring him is showing him that his feelings don't matter, and telling him no is telling him that its not ok to get frusterated. Instead you need to show her how to let her frusterations out without getting that upset.

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Oct 23rd, 2009, 17:34 PM	#14
chrisymills08 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: leeds Posts: 53	im glad im not the only one my little lad is 14 months and throws the biggest tantrums ever so any advice would be great, i just ignore him at the moment.

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Oct 25th, 2009, 12:01 PM	#15
Just Visiting Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Winnipeg, Canada Posts: 80	My 14 month daughter has been throwing tantrums before she was 1. lol We usually ignore her until she calms down. There have been times when she REALLY gets upset. My husband then takes her to the bedroom and lets her vent for a couple of minutes. He goes and checks in to see if she is done. If not, then wait for another minute or two. He is better at it then I am..lol.

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polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Right back to the OP now thats been tidied up

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tiggertea Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 11,154	just as i came for a nosey... lol to the OP - I plan to ignore tho I'll be able to answer better in a few months when missy masters the art of a tantrum!

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Oct 29th, 2009, 20:03 PM	#18
taperjeangirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9,828	LOL I am finding ignoring to be the way forward! If I go to her she carrys it on alot longer, if I ignore her she just stops!

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Oct 30th, 2009, 04:32 AM	#19
mygirl Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Normandy, France Posts: 386	generally i will first work out if it is frustration or anger. if its frustraation, due to a toy not working or suclike i help her, show her how to sort out the problem and she will calm down, i just make sure i stay laughy smiley and encourage her. if the tantrum is anger i generally try to distract her with sometihing, make her laugh or just carry on with what i am doing, dressing, nappy, or whatever all the while smiling and being cheerful and telling her what i am doing and why and what a noisy monkey she is. it doesnt tend to last long and i am mastered in the art of catching it before it actually becomes a tantruum now!!

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Oct 30th, 2009, 08:50 AM	#20
taperjeangirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9,828	Daisys is mostly frustration, I received a book at her 1 year check all about it and it says they know what they want to happen but cant always figure out how to do it, hence the tantrum! ! I help her but most of the time she will just get more stroppy so I tend to just leave her to it!

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