Made an official complaint against my hv - Page 2

Tezzy · Aug 13th, 2009, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by cupcake

how annoying, i have always thought ure a great mom, very organised and put together.
next she is going to blame you for war and poverty..

i am very organised! my kids have set playtimes,meal times,they go to nursery and have a great bedtime routine! i would say i spend more 'quality' time with my kids than most my friends do!

my HV has put me in the 'Teen Mum' category and i havent been able to convince her im not a smackhead alcaholic

ok exageration but you get what i mean!

Serene123 · Aug 13th, 2009, 10:37 AM

See, I had Caitlyn just before I turned 19 and for some reason even though we don't live together the fact Rich is 25 got me shit loads of respect and I was never considered a teen mum. I didn't even get a teen midwife! So weird!

I think some HVs think they have some sort of super power over everyone. They don't realise that their job is to help mums if they need it, not to poke their nose in where it isn't.

lady3 · Aug 13th, 2009, 13:21 PM

She is such a condescending woman, I'm surprised you put up with her for that long!

Also, I'm a SENCo for my school (Special Educational Needs Co-ordinatoor) and I know that without consent from you, the nursery is not able to share any information with any medical personnel. Will Collin give them consent though?

Hopefully though it gets sorted and she's not your hv anymore anyways so she wouldn't be able to call.

sam's mum · Aug 13th, 2009, 13:27 PM

I hadn't seen your speech therapy thread but just read it now and I'm shocked

...how could she be so rude?!! And not be clearly aware that not all kids have perfectly clear speech at Rhys's age, and even if he did have issues (and from what you've said before from when he was much younger and the amount he could communicate through signing it doesn't sound like he does?!) how dare she suggest that it has anything tio do with you as a mother???!!

I was fuming for you having read that thread, and now having heard what she said on the phone to your MIL?! Completely speechless!!

x

Nemo and bump · Aug 13th, 2009, 14:13 PM

i was disgusted by what she said in your speech post. i hope you do get it sorted.
why is it they target ood parents who love their children and would do anything for them yet cruel parents go unnoticed etc.
from the posts i've read of yours you sound a fantastic mum. don't let a stupid hv make you think otherwise
xoxo

babe2ooo · Aug 13th, 2009, 15:19 PM

omg thats horriable

princess_bump · Aug 13th, 2009, 15:40 PM

i'm so glad you've made a complaint honey, she sounds utterly vile! and you don't deserve to be treated like this xxx

dali · Aug 13th, 2009, 15:42 PM

who does she think she is ???????? honestly , glad you mad the complaint sounds like she is on a massive power trip to me

amazed · Aug 13th, 2009, 15:55 PM

she souunds terrible.

DragonMummy · Aug 13th, 2009, 16:24 PM

God she sounds HIDEOUS! Mine was so lovely we bought her gifts at christmas for the next 2 years! Surprised you didn't clock her one actually (pmsl - although she probably would expect that, given the opinion of you that she has formed!) horrible old harridan. I hope she gets bloody disciplined!

Aug 13th, 2009, 10:37 AM	#12
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	See, I had Caitlyn just before I turned 19 and for some reason even though we don't live together the fact Rich is 25 got me shit loads of respect and I was never considered a teen mum. I didn't even get a teen midwife! So weird! I think some HVs think they have some sort of super power over everyone. They don't realise that their job is to help mums if they need it, not to poke their nose in where it isn't.

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lady3 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: London, UK Posts: 870	She is such a condescending woman, I'm surprised you put up with her for that long! Also, I'm a SENCo for my school (Special Educational Needs Co-ordinatoor) and I know that without consent from you, the nursery is not able to share any information with any medical personnel. Will Collin give them consent though? Hopefully though it gets sorted and she's not your hv anymore anyways so she wouldn't be able to call.

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Aug 13th, 2009, 13:27 PM	#14
sam's mum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 11,404	I hadn't seen your speech therapy thread but just read it now and I'm shocked ...how could she be so rude?!! And not be clearly aware that not all kids have perfectly clear speech at Rhys's age, and even if he did have issues (and from what you've said before from when he was much younger and the amount he could communicate through signing it doesn't sound like he does?!) how dare she suggest that it has anything tio do with you as a mother???!! I was fuming for you having read that thread, and now having heard what she said on the phone to your MIL?! Completely speechless!! x

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Nemo and bump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: hertfordshire, uk Posts: 754	i was disgusted by what she said in your speech post. i hope you do get it sorted. why is it they target ood parents who love their children and would do anything for them yet cruel parents go unnoticed etc. from the posts i've read of yours you sound a fantastic mum. don't let a stupid hv make you think otherwise xoxo

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babe2ooo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Gloucester Posts: 5,627	omg thats horriable

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princess_bump Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 31,453	i'm so glad you've made a complaint honey, she sounds utterly vile! and you don't deserve to be treated like this xxx

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dali Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: east sussex Posts: 1,575	who does she think she is ???????? honestly , glad you mad the complaint sounds like she is on a massive power trip to me

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amazed Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Warwickshire,uk Posts: 5,378	she souunds terrible.

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DragonMummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2009 Location: Surrey/Hampshire border Posts: 19,232	God she sounds HIDEOUS! Mine was so lovely we bought her gifts at christmas for the next 2 years! Surprised you didn't clock her one actually (pmsl - although she probably would expect that, given the opinion of you that she has formed!) horrible old harridan. I hope she gets bloody disciplined!

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