Pregnant with no2 - Need advice for no.1

LuckySalem · Aug 6th, 2009, 10:32 AM

Hi, I'm about 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and I need some advice on how to deal with/prepare my (19 month old) daughter.

1 - We only have 1 cot in the house and ideally I'd like to not have to buy another so was thinking of moving her over to a bed. She's fully mobile so its not a huge problem other than I dont think she'd stay in the bed.
I want to start on it sooner rather than later as I dont want to be fat while dealing with it or have a newborn to deal with at the same time.

2 - potty training. I know its early but is it worth starting with her now? She has a potty and has done for a while and she likes sitting on it but has never used it, if you know what I mean.

Thanks all

Jkelmum · Aug 6th, 2009, 10:48 AM

Girls are earlier then boys my katie was fully done by 18 months ...the cot all mine have been in beds on there 1st birthday ...have a bedsafety rail on so she doesnt fall out and stairgate on bedroom door xx

LuckySalem · Aug 6th, 2009, 10:53 AM

How do you deal with making them stay in bed though?

My problem is that I think if I give her a bed she'll get out of it and play with her toys.

mommyof3co · Aug 6th, 2009, 11:37 AM

I would move her to the bed now too, to get her to stay in maybe make a routine where she cleans up all her toys before bed, so that way they are all put away, not as tempting. But if she does get up, and I'm sure she will, just keep putting her back in bed, she will get the idea.

For potty training it really depends on her, does she seem ready? If she doesn't I really wouldn't push it and I would give her time and maybe a couple months after the baby is born then start. Because if you do it and she finishes say a few weeks before the baby is born, she very well could regress and stop, and that would be even more frustrating. If she seems ready now and does it pretty quickly I'm sure she'd be fine. Casen potty trained at 25mo, that was about 4mo before my youngest was born and he was fine

LuckySalem · Aug 6th, 2009, 11:41 AM

Well I'm not sure.

She doesn't give us any idea that she needs a wee and if you ask her she says no then 2 mins later is weeing on the carpet. lol.

So I spose she's not ready but yet she hates having a nappy on and gets really naggy when its dirty.

Jkelmum · Aug 6th, 2009, 12:02 PM

I didnt make my lo stay in bed made there room boring until they get used to it ...just a bed

LuckySalem · Aug 6th, 2009, 16:44 PM

Thanks for all these.

What kind of bed is best for a first bed then? I'm assuming I'm going to need to get those barriers for the side but is there a specific type of (budget

) bed that I should be looking.

Jkelmum · Aug 6th, 2009, 16:54 PM

Any single bed will be fine hun ...tbh i am on my 4th baby and havent thought of the kind of bed just put them in whichever i bought on offer at time of lo needing the bed x

LuckySalem · Aug 6th, 2009, 16:56 PM

I feel so dumb!! hahaha

JennTheMomma · Aug 6th, 2009, 17:20 PM

1. You could co-sleep with the baby, that way your toddler can stay in the cot that she's in now. Or you can move her to a bed, at her age she should adjust well.

2. If she's not ready to be potty trained, then she's not ready. I would wait until she starts showing signs that she is ready to start learning. The whole, girls are easier, is really a myth. Each child is different. It depends on their personality, their taking to the process, and how prepared they are for it. Kids won't be come fully learned until 3 or 4 years of age when they are biologically ready for it.

Aug 6th, 2009, 10:32 AM	#1
LuckySalem Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 1,221	Pregnant with no2 - Need advice for no.1 Hi, I'm about 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 and I need some advice on how to deal with/prepare my (19 month old) daughter. 1 - We only have 1 cot in the house and ideally I'd like to not have to buy another so was thinking of moving her over to a bed. She's fully mobile so its not a huge problem other than I dont think she'd stay in the bed. I want to start on it sooner rather than later as I dont want to be fat while dealing with it or have a newborn to deal with at the same time. 2 - potty training. I know its early but is it worth starting with her now? She has a potty and has done for a while and she likes sitting on it but has never used it, if you know what I mean. Thanks all

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Aug 6th, 2009, 10:48 AM	#2
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	Girls are earlier then boys my katie was fully done by 18 months ...the cot all mine have been in beds on there 1st birthday ...have a bedsafety rail on so she doesnt fall out and stairgate on bedroom door xx

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Aug 6th, 2009, 10:53 AM	#3
LuckySalem Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 1,221	How do you deal with making them stay in bed though? My problem is that I think if I give her a bed she'll get out of it and play with her toys.

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Aug 6th, 2009, 11:37 AM	#4
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	I would move her to the bed now too, to get her to stay in maybe make a routine where she cleans up all her toys before bed, so that way they are all put away, not as tempting. But if she does get up, and I'm sure she will, just keep putting her back in bed, she will get the idea. For potty training it really depends on her, does she seem ready? If she doesn't I really wouldn't push it and I would give her time and maybe a couple months after the baby is born then start. Because if you do it and she finishes say a few weeks before the baby is born, she very well could regress and stop, and that would be even more frustrating. If she seems ready now and does it pretty quickly I'm sure she'd be fine. Casen potty trained at 25mo, that was about 4mo before my youngest was born and he was fine

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Aug 6th, 2009, 11:41 AM	#5
LuckySalem Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 1,221	Well I'm not sure. She doesn't give us any idea that she needs a wee and if you ask her she says no then 2 mins later is weeing on the carpet. lol. So I spose she's not ready but yet she hates having a nappy on and gets really naggy when its dirty.

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Aug 6th, 2009, 12:02 PM	#6
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	I didnt make my lo stay in bed made there room boring until they get used to it ...just a bed

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Aug 6th, 2009, 16:44 PM	#7
LuckySalem Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 1,221	Thanks for all these. What kind of bed is best for a first bed then? I'm assuming I'm going to need to get those barriers for the side but is there a specific type of (budget ) bed that I should be looking.

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Aug 6th, 2009, 16:54 PM	#8
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	Any single bed will be fine hun ...tbh i am on my 4th baby and havent thought of the kind of bed just put them in whichever i bought on offer at time of lo needing the bed x

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Aug 6th, 2009, 16:56 PM	#9
LuckySalem Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wrexham, North Wales Posts: 1,221	I feel so dumb!! hahaha

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Aug 6th, 2009, 17:20 PM	#10
JennTheMomma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,333	1. You could co-sleep with the baby, that way your toddler can stay in the cot that she's in now. Or you can move her to a bed, at her age she should adjust well. 2. If she's not ready to be potty trained, then she's not ready. I would wait until she starts showing signs that she is ready to start learning. The whole, girls are easier, is really a myth. Each child is different. It depends on their personality, their taking to the process, and how prepared they are for it. Kids won't be come fully learned until 3 or 4 years of age when they are biologically ready for it.

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