I thought these didn't happen until the 'terrible two's'?!

I'm finding it quite difficult to deal with Oscar's tantrums. Just today he was sitting in his high chair with his breakfast (toast), he starts to tear pieces off and then throw it on the floor, I told Oscar 'No'. So then he starts to smear it on the wall!

Ok so I guess he's had enough so I take him out of the high chair and he's throwing his arms and legs everywhere, arching his back & screaming. Problem is that when he does this it's difficult for me to put him down anywhere because he's all over the place and I'm worried he'll knock his head etc. I'm not really strong enough to hold Oscar either while he's like this, he's a heavy boy and quite big now! I've not got much strength at the moment so I'm beginning to struggle.

I even fell down the stairs a couple of weeks ago as he started to strop while I was carrying him and I just fell

Oscar started this a couple of months ago and it's getting worse. Please tell me I'm not the only one!

What do I do? Where am I going wrong?

Your not the only one babe, Me too! Lily is a little terror sometimes, she's a big girl too and I'm worried about her catching my bump as well.

Your not doing anything wrong, I see it as testing us- seeing what they can get away with. When Lily starts now I just ignore her lol, she does it when I'm out too and when she has to hold my hand when walking and she decides she wants to run into the road. She starts screaming, rolling all over the floor so I just sweep her up and strap her into the pram and tell her no more and she soon gets over it and realizes.

Problem with me and Lily is we're both pretty strong willed and stubborn! haha- she's definitely her mothers daughter!

What about a travel cot or something, like a time out place you can put him where he can't hurt himself and he can calm himself down? x

Oooo I never thought of putting him into his travel cot!!! Excellent idea!

See a couple of times I have put him into his cot because he's less likely to hurt himself, but I don't want to keep doing it as I don't want Oscar to think he's being punished for bad behaviour when I'm putting him to bed!

Sometimes with Oscar I think it's frustration when he wants to do things himself etc.

yeah i think it is just a phase they go through testing boundries and getting used to not being able to do what they want all the time.
my son dosnt have bad tantrums ( yet - im sure they will come ) but when he stars with the arching his back and screaming, i just put him down on the floor as gently as i can and he usually just burys his face in the flor and crys for a min or 2 then looks up all tearful , if he has stopped screaming i talk to him .. eg : do you want a drink or something else to change the subject , and he gets up like it never happened and starts playing again or comes for a cuddle. im hoping that ignoring the tantrums will stop them escalating and becomeing a real problem. i would just try to put himdown as gently as you can on the floor or in his travel cot like suggested above , although i dont know if that might make him not like the travel cot so be prepared to not be able to use it for sleep anymore if you decide to use it as a time out type area
good luck

same as above really. You are not alone! Hannah tests her limits all the time. When she starts throwing her food she generally gets one warning, and if she ignores me than the food gets taken away. Usually she stays in her high chair whining while I finish up whatever I'm doing. I find ignoring her works best, she's not getting the attention she wants and usually quiets down fairly quickly

It's such a relief to hear that I'm not the only one!

I'm going to give all your suggestions a try and see what works best!

So far I have managed to avoid the tantrums while I've been out, not sure how much longer I can keep that up!