So I was talking with some friends who I thought I could vent to because I have been overwhelmed and upset.. I am 18, getting married in 23 days and my OH and I have been trying for a few months now to try and get pregnant, found out last month that I have ovulation problems.. problem being I just don't ovulate.. I was venting about how it upsetted me and how I really wanted to be a mom and how my family and my OH really want me to get pregnant, we already have names picked out and name plates made for the nursery and a unisex outfit.. (We went a little ahead of ourselves but it helps me to not lose hope), I get that yes I am young, but my one friend turned around and said im just ignoring the whole mom thing because your gonna be just another teen mom.. then said a few other mean things basically saying I shouldn't even ttc... He doesn't get how much he has made me cry, I wanna wake up my OH and cry to him but he works in 5 hrs and needs sleep so I came here to cry to all of you.. I am so ready to give up and I know that is not the thing to do.. It's like everyone judges me around here for being upset about not being able to concieve right now, yeah hopefully one day I will be able to and I get that there are people who can NEVER have children, but why do I ALWAYS have to put everyone ahead of my self.. this hurts me and even my own mother doesn't get why it hurts so much..

...sorry just needed to vent and cry...

well it can take healthy couples up to 6 months to conceive, don't let her get you down

Thanks! Just hurts alot. and now I just got called a stupid bitch who can't have kids cuzz I was defending a good friend.

You poor thing
That was definitely out of order on your friend's part! People who don't have fertility problems sometimes don't get just how bad it affects those of us who do when they say things like that.
I had/have unexplained fertility problems due to anorexia and medication. I managed to carry my daughter to term, but I had a miscarriage before and after her, along with a chemical. My body doesn't take to pregnancy very well, so I can understand the frustration.

Have you seen a fertility specialist yet? Maybe they can put you on clomid to help ovulation! Also, are you tracking your BBT? Tracking your basal body temperature can really help you pinpoint when you're ovulating

Best of luck TTC! Sending loads of baby dust your way!

I have been tracking everything, I don't know why my body is the way it is, I have had a chemical and a miscarriage. I have an amazing man who does everything to try and help me concieve, he wants to be a dad as much as I want to be a mom.

Hi Hun. I know it can be very difficult. I am not a teenager anymore but I also tried for months to get pregnant. I had no problem with ovulation at all, but still nothing happened. Actually, anything up to 12 months of TTC, is still deemed as normal. I only got pregnant on our 8th cycle of trying, in the month that I was diagnosed for the first time with having fertility issues.

Another thing to remember, is that there are so many fertility options out there to try. If ovulation is the only problem, that can easily be fixed by clomid or femara which has really high success rates. You could visit a fertility doctor to get a prescription for Clomid. If they tell you that you have not been trying for a year or longer, so they can't help you, demand them to test whether you are ovulating or not. Usually doctors will not help with infertility if you haven't tried for a year, but that is only if everything is normal. If there is a clear indication that you are not ovulating, they might be able to fast track and give you clomid.

Either way, I am sure you will fall pregnant in no time and it will have been worth the wait!! Good luck.

aww im sorry he's obviously not a true friend if he can say things like that. he should respect your feelings. and being 18 doesnt mean you're going to be any less of a good parent than a 25 or 30 year old mum!

i hate people that instantly judge teen mums and just assume they're going to be bad parents dont worry hun, when the time comes nothing anyone else thinks will matter anymore

it can take a fair few months to conceive. if you try for months and still nothing maybe take a break from ttc? ive heard soo many stories where people were trying for so long and then gave up and because they weren't thinking about babies they fell pregnant! i think sometimes when people ttc they put their bodies under soo much pressure that they just dont conceive.

i hope you get your baby soon

Hey, I'm sorry your 'friend' said that to you. To me that isn't how a proper friend should act, especially when he knows this hurts you a lot. Remember though that it doesn't matter what he or anyone says, if you really want a baby you'll have one. It can take up to a year for some people to conceive.

Sending you lots of

Thanks everyone means alot. Just kinda hurts but my fiance made me feel better and so did all of you