so i'm 17 i had a baby on the 3rd oct 08, for anyone else this is great but because im a teenager its wrong it makes me laugh how people judge us but no matter what age you are it doesnt effect your ability being a mum...im no worse off than anyone 5-10years older than me having a baby i work and i pay my way, im still with my babies dad and he works to..just because we are young people think we are having children for councell houses and benefits wen not all of us are it really gets to me.

what do you all think about people judging young mums is it fair or not?
should we all be sterotyped? is it the problem of too many ''young mums'' having babies and wanting houses or is it the councell giving the houses to asylum seekers and using us teen mum's as an excuse?

Hey hun,

Unfortunately thats just the way it is nowadays cos there are so many young people doin it for the free ride so we all get tarred with the same brush.....im 22 and ppl look at me like im to young!
But what they dnt no is cos i work for a livin i get nothing from the government or the council and u have to be a bum to get something so us lot who work our asses off and dnt sponge still get judged cos we look young!
These people are narrow minded and always judge a book by its cover...let em get on with it cos garanteed none of them have the balls to say anythin to your face! xx

is it the problem of too many ''young mums'' having babies and wanting houses or is it the councell giving the houses to asylum seekers and using us teen mum's as an excuse?

my mum got kicked out of a 3bedroom council house because we "did not need it" gave it to asylum seekers and moved her in to a 3bedroom council house the other side of town lol but enoth about that lol

teenage mums still have to go into hostels (where i live p'boro) for up to 3months the same as a 30,40 or 50 year old single, married or with a family.

im 17 on thursday i dont work and i live with my mum i was on an E2E ( entry to employment ) course witch started before i got pregnant im leaving that next month to go to young mums... but my partner works and pays over £200 a month in tax for the past 3 years so over ** £7,200 in that 3years** , owns his own car but no doubt we will still get classed as a "young couple living off the goverment"

so why while baby is young from birth to 6months/1year should i not be aloud to not have a job and claim a little bit i intend on having a part time collage course once baby is here then getting a job when baby is between 6months to 1year old....

but its ok for 30 year olds ( no offence to any one of that age i am talking about someone i know just here ) who have 2 children both in there teens who have not worked for years to be aloud to claim and claim yet no one thinks that is wrong? but us teen mums/parents get slanderd for claiming for even a little while or just being teen mums/parents??


anyway sorry for the huge essay just wanted to share my opion and things i have seen for myself

Yeah peopple will always judge. I'm 19 and have a house of my own, a car a job and a soon-to-be husband. Yet people still have to have their 2 cents. Ignore them

Hya hun,

I'm 18 and have a 7month old son, me and my partner have a house and share a car. this really pisses me off to. like the other day i was on the met with my son and partner and this woman opposite me wouldn't stop staring at me an my son, like we were dirt. It makes me feel like they think coz im young i dont know how to bring up a child propely, or i don't care. When i know thats not the case, i love my son to pieces.

I understand in a way why older peole do look at us like this, to be honest sometimes if i'm popping to the shop later on at nite bwt 8-9, my son in bed and partner at home. I see teen mums outside the pubs, dancing and drinkin with their babies in the prams. so i'm kind of assuming that when older people see this they expect all teen mums to be like this. When this ain't the case for me, my son is in bed everynite by 8 o clock.

Sometimes i really feel like saying something to them ,but then again what's the point, let them think what they want. Because you know your a good mum to your baby and thats all that matters. Thats how i see it anyway.

x

One thing I will say, is that its easy to judge people. Asylum Seekers have already been mentioned a couple of times in this thread, despite there being very few Asylum Seekers in Council Accomodation. People tend to jump to conclusions about any group that is percieved to get benefits - single parents, teenage mothers, asylum seekers, legal immigrants etc.

just wanted to say that no matter how old you are, or what you do, there is always going to be someone out there judging you for some reason. It sucks, but hay, as long as you are taking care of yourself and your baby, then that is all that matters.

i see where your coming from Asacia my part on that was just stating what happend to my mum i dont know if this happens alot or not but my mum got moved from a 3bedroom to a 3bedroom even though she aparently did not need it in the first house to all but 2weeks later see people like that going in and out of our old house constantly......

I am a stay at home mother who is on benefits, I am not a teenager, but I don't think I am a "bum" or "sponge" of the Goverment. It is hard to even exsist on benefits so for people to think it is easy and we do it because we sponge are just as judgemental as people who judge teenage mothers, which I have never done! I take my hat off to you if you can find work, but here it is so hard to find jobs, there are 200 + people going for the same jobs, and to be honset I choose to stay with my kid at the moment, as hard as it is to cope on benefits. If people "sponge" as you put it maybe it is because it is really hard to get a job!

Sorry if my post seems harsh, but I am sick of people looking down at people on benefits, if we can't find a job what are we supposed to do, starve and freeze to death? We just take the help that is on offer.

I know I may get told off for my view, but it just feels like people have a go too much at us, too.

im 22 and am pg with my 3rd baby and i get looked down for being young but people dont relise that i have worked and payed taxs since i was 15 iwas made redundant after i had my 2nd child and tryed 2 claim job seekers and was told i cudnt has i hadnt paid enough tax for that year
when people look down at me i dont care cuz i know im a a good mum 2 my kids have my own home and run my husdands business for him as long as my children are happy i dont care what people say or think my kids are importent not small minded people who make comments and looks when they dont know anything about me