Lets do this

I'm 16 years old & just about 6 weeks pregnant. I really need some advice. When I told the father all he did was yell. He told me to get an abortion & when I refused he told me that he wouldn't take any part in this. About 2 weeks ago I called & told him that I got an abortion just so he wouldn't stress over it. The way I see it, he has the opportunity to finish out high school normally; he isn't forced to face this in the same way I am. Only my best friend knows & I plan on telling my dad next week. Everything is so rough right now but I'm so excited about this baby. I already picked out names. I'm just so afraid of miscarrying because this baby is all I have, & I know having this baby is the right path for me. I just need to hear from someone who's been through this before.

Abbys_Mummy

hi hun i know this is a hard time but you really need to be honest with everyone about this you are going to need all the help you can get as for the father it takes 2 to tango there is no reason he shouldn`t have to deal with this the same way you do fair is fair. Please feel free to PM me if you want to chat

Aidan's Mummy

hi hun

i know its hard but you really do need to tell him you are keeping the baby cos he is gunna have a bit of a shock when he sees you with a bump. he cant force you to have an abortion hunni and i admire you for going through with it, im 16 and nearly 21 weeks pregnant with a lil boy and im calling him aidan at first i was thinking about an abortion but i didnt and now i love this lil man inside me more than anything. try not to worry about misscarraige hun quite alot happen at 2-3 weeks and as you get further on the risk of misscarriage reduces more and more. chin up hun and if you ever need to talk just let me know
xx

xarlenex

Hey, congrats on your pregnancy I do think you'd be better telling the father the truth. He might, as time passes, realise all those things he said are wrong, it was just a shock at first. Theres also the fact that this kid will have a whole other family, maybe wanting to love and spoil him/her. Let him know the truth, just tell him you couldnt go through with it, it wasnt right for you, and then its up to him if he wants to step up xx

Jayden'sMummy

First of congratulations on your pregnancy [an being happy about it, not every 16year old would be!]
I'm 16 an I've got a 12 day old little boy who i absolutely adore he is the best thing thats ever happened to me.
I know how you feel about not wanting the babies dad to know because same thing happened with me, but to them its just the shock, don't forget it is a really big thing an takes a while to come around to the idea. He will find out one way or another and it will be ten times worse because he thinks you got an abortion. My babies dad ignored me right through my pregnancy but now he couldn't be happier that he is a daddy an is very proud of his little man now that hes over the shock.
Good luck with telling your family, an with the rest of your pregnancy [an don't worry, its normal to be scared about the 'whats ifs' while your pregnant so just take it one day at a time an enjoy it]
Here if ya ever need a talk or summit xxxx

ls27

hey hun i really do think its best that you tell the father that you are keeping the baby. he needs to take responsibility as well as you. congratulations on your pregnancy i really do hope everything works out for you

polo_princess

I agree i really think you need to tell the father. You cannot bring his child into the world and lie about it i think thats very wrong.

Just because he does not want the baby or any involvement doesnt mean that he doesnt have a right to know.

Good luck with your pregnancy!!

nikky0907

I have to agree with telling the father.

You see...he doesn't have a chance to finish high school normally.Because he is responsible for this baby too.This is his consequence too.
So he shouldn't just go on living his life like nothing happened.

He at least needs to have some financial responsibility...and that something you can force him to do.There is absolutly no reason for you to go through it alone finance wise.

Good luck and have a happy and healthy 9 months.

leeanne

Congratulations on your pregnancy and as well on deciding to keep your baby.

Like others, I would have to say that I agree that you should tell the father.

rae05

Yep, tell him!! Its the best thing to do. You shouldn't be the only one being responsible for this baby