Hey, like I said in a previous post, dont bloody take any notice of the looks you get, I know its hard because you keep having to ask yourself 'have I done something wrong', but like I have said before, the majority of the people who look at you in 'strange' ways, are the older generation- it makes me laugh, it really does, because I can bet you anything, that if you went up to one of them and asked how old they were when they first had a baby, they will more than likely say they were around 16 years old, married at 17 etc:. My grandma had 3 kids by 19 and nobody batted an eyelid with her.
I get the funny looks ALLLLL the darn time, it annoys me yes, but theres nothing I can do about it. Theres nothing none of us can really do- just smile at them, or slightly shake your head, thats what I do.

Aww thanks thats very nice of you to say, and yes thats me in the photo with her.

Sorry didn't reply before, i've been away from here for a bit, but I understand completely. I used to get the same looks when I walked around, I still get looks when im out with Bethanie but you learn to ignore it. I know im doing the best job I can with her, she is so loved and spoilt.. so who cares what anyone else thinks?

Im sure you'll feel the same sure enough, those hormones can make you feel over emotional at times!

I completly agree, i just found out that im pregnant, and im 21yrs, 22yrs in october, and i look about 16yrs, im happily married, and i, in general get looks from people, and get treated like im 16yrs. so it worries me about how im going to be treated when i start to show, and i've only got about a month before that starts to happen.

my problem is telling my family because i worry about their reaction, because i've also always been, 'the baby of the family', and they still treat me that way, its hard to grow up, when your family holds you back.

it seems like its gotten harder and harder to start a family if your younger than 25, you often get treated like your to young and dont know better. back in the day it was normal to get married and have babys at 14-15yrs. and now its frowned upon.

ive had plenty of friends that had babys when they were teenagers and i was always amazed at how well they handled themselves.

congrats to all who are expecting, and that your not aloan, your not the only one going through this, so stay strong.

I agree with everything everyone has said here, you all should be really proud of yourselves!

Im 21 so not exactly a teenager, but all my friends are still at uni and I get some funny remarks and comments from them. But at the end of the day, they're probably just jelous because they're no where near as happy as I am

My great auntie is one of these people but its not just teen mums. Me and my cousin both have children out of wedlock, oh the shame, my cousin is 29, has 3 kids, they all have different dads but she is still with the father of her youngest and has been for the past 6-7 years, i have been with my kid's dad for 6-7 years also but she is disgusted with us. Yet her daughter can have a kid out of wedlock and it is the greatest thing ever, mind she's married now so that makes all the difference.

These people make me sick, why in this day and age do you have to be a certain age and married to have kids and be socially accepted? Aslong as you've got a good head on your shoulders what does it matter.

Exactly.

My grandparents were a bit upset because we arent married, but weve been engaged for a year now, and thats just their generation really. I dont blame them or hold it against them.

If they said I was too young, I wouldnt understand. 50 years ago it was expected of people in their teens and early 20s to be pregnant from what I understand. That shouldnt change, it should just be when its right for each individual

xxx

I can't tell my nan or my grandad and all I've been getting from people is "what are you gonna do just turn up with a kid in a few months?" Well, I really don't know but I just can't tell them. I really want to! I just can't

I know its hard hun, my grandparents reacted exactly the way I thought they would but I thought 'well, at least its out in the open and theyll be able to handle it byt he time the baby is born'.

Its just like ripping off a plaster They might even suprise you, you never know.

xxx

Im only 18 (19 when my baby is born), it's not to bad with my family as my mum was 18 when I was born and my mum and dad are still together but not married.
Me and me OH have only been together for a few months but he lives with us and the fmaily know him and get on well with him so it's really good. As I'm just looking fat and not pregnant at the moment I don't get that many looks but from people at work they say stuff like 'are you mad', 'are you sure you will cope'. To those people I just think, YES I can! I have the support of my whole family and I am experianced with kids. It's not as if I am going to be a bad mum just because of my age, I work hard at my job and I'm at college fulltime. It's very frustrating as when people insult me because of my age I think of the people who live off benefits because they can't be bothered to get a job and I know I won't be doing that....sorry to ramble XD

im 18 and walking round at 36 weeks pregnant people stare in disgrace it annoys me as im very short at only 5 foot nothing lol but have an older looking face people must think im only aboyt 13!!

especially when i go out alone i get stared at asif to say ha look at that little teenager single parent to be when that is certainly not the case and what would it matter anyway aslong as i care for my child! when me and my partner are out its a little different!