brewanneanan

I really want a baby, i know i'm not finacially ready and don't have the stability but i know for a fact me and my other half would make great parents, and to be honest theres nothing more i want in the world than to have child and start a family, it really upsets me, i'd be so happy to have one now, but i know my boyfriend would hit the roof and ofcourse its partly his decision as he would be the father!! does anyone know what i should do, or anyone been in the situation, i know my boyfriend wants a baby, he just knows were not finacialy ready and stable and is scared of what his mum would think.....even though she had his brother at the same age :S i dunno, i just need someone to talk about it really, so reply asap lol

bexy_22

How old are you hun? I know having a baby seems like a lovely idea but if you aren't financially stable I think you should wait until you are. Babies are expensive and not just for a few weeks. I don't doubt that you would make great parents and money isn't everything, a baby needs love and care but I would personally wait x

brewanneanan

i'm 17, my income is only £250 a month, i know for a fact me and my partner would give it so much love ad affection it's just what were like, it wouldnt take us long to get on our feet after having one as we have very supportive family with money...me and my partner have been together 2 years now.

bexy_22

Although I'm only 19, I personally think that 17 is still young. You haven't had enough experience yourself. At 17 I wanted a baby but then I sat and thought about it and realised I wanted my freedom more. Maybe that sounds selfish but you should enjoy your freedom while you can, a baby is a huge responsibility. If you do decide to have one though, good luck x

armychicmkm

Hi

There have been lots of girls on here your age talking about TTC. It's generally discouraged partly for the reasons you mentioned (finances and stability) but also because you will lose the ability to do many of the things your friends do.

I think it's pretty common for girls to start wanting babies about 16-17 or so. Your body is done or mostly done developing so your body thinks it's ready and starts speaking up. My "biological clock" started speaking up not much later and it can be really really hard to ignore.

Some things to think about.... Are you and your boyfriend done with high school yet? Do you either or both of you have steady jobs? Do either of you want to go through college? start a career? A baby will make all of those things much much harder.

brewanneanan

i see what you mean, but i honestly cant see it amking much of a difference to my life, me and m boyfriend dont drink smoke and rarley go out, if we do its just to go to the shop, were very settled and are usually compared to an old married couple, thanks for the hep though, the only thing i ever worry about, is my future and ofcourse the babys i wouldnt want to have a baby young and the jepardise the kids life by not giving it the best future i can, tbh i wanna go finish college this year and go to uni, to study fine arts, but then photography is my carrer path and thats something i can study from home.

brewanneanan

yeah were both done with high school, were both at college and hes planning on getting a job soon, so am i, but trying to start my career in photography atm.

polo_princess

Personally i think you should concentrate on college and going to uni then look at having a baby. Once youve done that and are all qualified you'll have something you can always fall back on.

Being able to give a baby all the love in the world is one thing but if you cant afford to look after it financially then your going to end up in trouble.

Good luck whatever you decide to do

missjacey44

I went through a stage for about 2years when i was 15 and there was nothing more i wanted in the world but to have my own little baby and i did have unprotected sex with my bf at the time but luckily enough i never actually fell pregnant and im glad i didnt because looking back now it probably would have been the stupidest thing id ever done! Then when i was about 17 i changed my mind and the last thing i wanted was a baby! Personally i would wait because like me.. u could change your mind and decide waiting is the better option! If u really dont want to wait till your much older.. id still suggest u get some kind of fulltime job that u can go back to once uv had your baby when ur abit older and it will make all the difference knowing u can support yourself and your baby without having to ask for help from parents/benefits ect.

armychicmkm

When my husband and I decided to start trying stupid me didn't think being pregnant would interfere with college at all. I was completely unprepared for how completely tired I got. It made keeping up a nightmare.

Personally, I'd make sure both of you are bringing in enough money to support a baby first, save up a little for a few months, then look at TTC.