Just when I thought he was coming to terms with it...

ella170 · Jun 17th, 2008, 12:29 PM

he's talk about putting the baby into foster care until he has a job and i've finished uni and got a job (which would be in like 5 years)..!! so i told him hell no i'm not letting my baby get attatched to some carer and then thinking i'm a complete stranger- it doesn't work like that!
then he started playing the sympathy card and saying he isn't ready to be a dad and that it's always me making the decisions, like when i said i wasn't having an abortion. so i told him it's my body and baby, i'll do what the f*** i like with it. what a complete knob- if you're old enough to get someone pregnant then take responsbility (he's 18 not bloody 10 years old). how could anyone possibly think it's so easy to give your baby into foster care, it's not like i would give it a crap life anyway.
now i just feel completly alone with this, it's like he's not even part of it!

youngmomma100 · Jun 17th, 2008, 12:48 PM

Men dont understand do they! Dont worry your not alone were all here for you!

Im sorry you have to go through this tho! Its very hard to go through it when the dad doesnt seem to want to be involved but he will come around soon dont you worry. my fiancee has his moments with this pregnancy to! so dont worry!

AppleBlossom · Jun 17th, 2008, 12:49 PM

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

sam's mum · Jun 17th, 2008, 15:37 PM

I can't believe he would even suggest it! It's one thing to say before you're pregnant that he's not ready yet but in 5 years he will be, but it's a bit late to be deciding that now! Tell him he needs to grow up and take some responsibility! It might not be the best timing for either of you, but I'm sure you'll be a great mum

Pyrrhic · Jun 17th, 2008, 15:39 PM

I would tell him that unfortunately you cannot just offload your child onto social services and then pick them back up when you want to. It just doesn't work like that. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. If he's man enough to get it up and make a baby, then he should be man enough to look after one.

leeanne · Jun 17th, 2008, 18:58 PM

Shocking that someone would suggest putting their own baby into foster care. My god!

Hope he comes to his senses!

trickysgurl · Jun 17th, 2008, 19:23 PM

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Originally Posted by bexy_22

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

THANK YOU! And good for u luv it is ur body and ur baby! Maybe he will come around just make sure u are ready if he doesnt BUT no matter what DONT let him take away ur joy this sould be a happy time AND for the record the very second u became pregnant was the same second that u would never be lonely again.. U have ur baby!

nikky0907 · Jun 18th, 2008, 04:54 AM

Thats the most immature behavior I have seen so far...

Ship off the baby and then just take it in when he feels like it?!
What the hell?

Idiot.Seriously honey,he needs a reality check.

Make sure you show him your 20 weeks scan pics so maybe he realizes that it's a child not a puppy.

Rachiebaby24 · Jun 18th, 2008, 05:34 AM

for f*cks sake - why do men think they dont have a choice when it comes to pregnancy....IF YOU DONT WANT A BABY THEN WEAR A BLOODY CONDOM!!!

he is probably scared and trying everything in the book to shy away from his responsibility rather than have to deal with it...

He may come round....in the meantime try and enjoy your pregnancy! x

**polo_princess** · Jun 18th, 2008, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by bexy_22

Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

I agree with bexy hun

Jun 17th, 2008, 12:29 PM	#1
ella170 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: North East London/ Essex Posts: 332	Just when I thought he was coming to terms with it... he's talk about putting the baby into foster care until he has a job and i've finished uni and got a job (which would be in like 5 years)..!! so i told him hell no i'm not letting my baby get attatched to some carer and then thinking i'm a complete stranger- it doesn't work like that! then he started playing the sympathy card and saying he isn't ready to be a dad and that it's always me making the decisions, like when i said i wasn't having an abortion. so i told him it's my body and baby, i'll do what the f*** i like with it. what a complete knob- if you're old enough to get someone pregnant then take responsbility (he's 18 not bloody 10 years old). how could anyone possibly think it's so easy to give your baby into foster care, it's not like i would give it a crap life anyway. now i just feel completly alone with this, it's like he's not even part of it!

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Jun 17th, 2008, 12:48 PM	#2
youngmomma100 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 93	Men dont understand do they! Dont worry your not alone were all here for you! Im sorry you have to go through this tho! Its very hard to go through it when the dad doesnt seem to want to be involved but he will come around soon dont you worry. my fiancee has his moments with this pregnancy to! so dont worry!

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Jun 17th, 2008, 12:49 PM	#3
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Too late for him to decide he isn't ready to be a dad. He has to take responsibility x

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Jun 17th, 2008, 15:37 PM	#4
sam's mum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 11,404	I can't believe he would even suggest it! It's one thing to say before you're pregnant that he's not ready yet but in 5 years he will be, but it's a bit late to be deciding that now! Tell him he needs to grow up and take some responsibility! It might not be the best timing for either of you, but I'm sure you'll be a great mum

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Jun 17th, 2008, 15:39 PM	#5
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	I would tell him that unfortunately you cannot just offload your child onto social services and then pick them back up when you want to. It just doesn't work like that. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. If he's man enough to get it up and make a baby, then he should be man enough to look after one.

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Jun 17th, 2008, 18:58 PM	#6
leeanne Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 26,691	Shocking that someone would suggest putting their own baby into foster care. My god! Hope he comes to his senses!

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Jun 18th, 2008, 04:54 AM	#8
nikky0907 Mum (Mom) Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: New England, USA Posts: 11,326	Thats the most immature behavior I have seen so far... Ship off the baby and then just take it in when he feels like it?! What the hell? Idiot.Seriously honey,he needs a reality check. Make sure you show him your 20 weeks scan pics so maybe he realizes that it's a child not a puppy.

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Jun 18th, 2008, 05:34 AM	#9
Rachiebaby24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: SW London - Lovely place called Streatham!!! Posts: 4,117	for f*cks sake - why do men think they dont have a choice when it comes to pregnancy....IF YOU DONT WANT A BABY THEN WEAR A BLOODY CONDOM!!! he is probably scared and trying everything in the book to shy away from his responsibility rather than have to deal with it... He may come round....in the meantime try and enjoy your pregnancy! x

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