My OH is drving me mad. He really doesn't understand that mood swings come along with pregnancy.
He doesn't treat me like I'm pregnant! Ive talked to other girls and they've said how their bf's tell them to chill out and relax and give them massages. Mine doesn't!
I'm 14 weeks pregnant and I've put loads of effort in for my baby. I've quit smoking, I'm putting Uni off for a year (if i can still go next year), I didn't have an 18th birthday party which had already been booked because my mum cancelled it when she found out i was pregnant. I've been spending my EMA on baby things and he just hasnt done anything!!
I asked him to do two things when we found out I was pregnant, to quit smoking, and to find a better job.
We found out 9 weeks ago that i'm pregnant and he hasnt made any effort to do either of those two things!!
Whenever I bring this up it ends up in an argument and I cant afford to be getting angry for my baby's sake.

Someone please help!! I need advice.
Thank you

xxx

aaw hun im sorry!! my oh was exactly the same - i think they just have to come to terms wth it!! for us iits easier cos we know there's a baby in there, but for the men there's nothing really til the first scan! my oh's so excited now, but i still think its more real for me! he'll come round soon xxxx

thanks. yeah weve been for our first scan but its like he still doesnt believe it.
It makes me quite upset. Some people have said it might not hit him untill the baby is born but i cant go on like this throughout my whole pregnancy. Thanks for replying xxxx

Its probley gunna take him a while before it truely registers ..
But trust me it can be just as annoying being rapped up in cotton wool by ur OH .. You cant sneeze without him worrying wether that has disturbed the baby or summin lool !!!!!!!

I get told I'm dramatic by my OH when I have an ache or pain.

Men just don't understand pregnancy I don't think!

I hope he comes around soon!! Have you tried explaining to him how you feel?

mine is absolutly useless! when i told him the baby kicked he just said "oh". i don't think it's real to him either, especially as only i've heard the heartbeat- i'm hoping it all sinks in when he sees baby at the scan next week. we normally argue whenever the baby is brought up in conversation! maybe when your OH can feel the baby kick he might start to change

aww thanks girls yeah well tonight has been dramatic lol we had a massive row and we've managed to discuss things tonight so im gonna go have another chat to him and *try* and make him understand a bit more.
Thank you for all your help girls
Mucchhhh appreciated

xxx

I had the same type of issue with my bf when we first found out I was pregnant and now that I'm huge and he sees the baby moving and he knows that hes about to be here soon, things have changed. Its hard during the first trimester because thats when it feels like you need the most support and when you don't get it, its annoying!!! But try not to stress. We women always seem like we have to be the stronger ones that sacrifice so much when it comes to these things. Things will get easier and until then, we'll be here to listen when you need to vent. Take care of yourself

Thanks a lot that really helped. Yeah hopefully things should get better and he'll start to believe it more as we go on lol.
Thank you very much I love it on here its the only way i can have someone/people to talk to who understand thanks xxxx