sweet lady

am 16 and I am about to be 4 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I are still together and plan on keeping the baby. We have no job but we are looking. I am excited about the baby but I'm still nervous. I told my mom that I was pregnant but she do not believe me her boyfriend do. Her boyfriend is planning on moving out and that will leave me and my baby and a bad place because I have two little sisters that is 6 and 3 and my mom do not take care of them only me and her boyfriend. If he leave them I will have to deal with my two lil sisters and my baby and make sure everybody and the house is ok which is alot. I can take care of me and my baby by our self well a course with help from the state but me living here is not good mentallynor physically. My boyfriend stays with his aunt and it is room for me there and the baby plus she would love the baby around its just not the cleanest place for a baby. My boyfriend also have acousinthat have her own place and and have room there for me and the baby. Me and her is cool but i'm not sure if she will want to deal with a crying baby at night. I want to move out because it will be better for me and the baby, its just my mom wont let me in till i am 18 and that is to long. I NEED ADVICE!!!!!!

kate1

You need to put u and ur baby first taking on your younger siblings is too much, move in with his aunt clean the place up and you will be fine your mom will have to just deal with the fact you are going to be a mom your self and if you can deal with your responsiblities then your mom can deal with hers, am happy your boyfriend is staying by you good luck.

Ann-Marie

What she said ^^^

mommytashaX2

Wow, you have a lot of responsibilities to handle right now plus this baby on the way. If your bf is living with his aunt and there is room for you there, you should probably go there if it seems like the best option right now. Plus you will have the father of your baby under the same roof to help you out. I hope everything works out for you, but now you need to focus on your baby and take care of yourself.... Good luck. I had my little girl at 15 and I know what its like to have to deal with so much at a young age. And if you ever need to talk, send a PM

WaitingForYou

At 16 I dont see how you can take on the responsibilities of 3 children all under the age of 10, getting them ready for school everyday whilst looking after a baby. No-one can put the responsibilities of your 2 siblings onto you. Your mother needs to take care of her children, she must understand you are having your own child and cant take on such an extreme role of mother with the added siblings. Talk to someone you know or family about it, your child comes first now!

armychicmkm

Hi sweet lady - where are you from? Depending on where you live you may be able to get assistance finding housing, food stamps, medical care, help finishing school, and a bunch of other things. I think between everybody here we know most of the options available to you where ever you're at.

You're first priority needs to be your baby, then you. If the two of you are taken care of then any extra time you want to give your sisters is completely understandable.

mBLACK

Hello and welcome to BnB! My name is Mary, I'm 15 years old and pregnant with my first baby, my son Joseph(don't laugh). Aren't there any places you could go to get set up on independant living? Deciding to live with your boyfriend right after finding out your pregnant is going to be a huge adjustment; especially if you're living at his aunt's place. There will be fights, arguements, and you need to be SURE that you won't feel inferior if that's where you're staying. Plus, a baby brings ALOT of newfound stress to a relashionship and sometimes things change drastically once a baby enters the picture. Maybe try finding out if there's some sort of program that you could get set up with that provides childcare + education along with a place to live for awhile? Good luck for the future.

Freya

Hey chick, at 16 you and you boyfriend could register at your local mother and baby supported living accommodation. There is one in most towns and they are usually newly built, small flats with support staff on hand to help with questions you have about being a new mum or they can help apply for benefits and courses. Your local council can help and make a referral so you can get on a waiting list. You usually cant move in until you're at least 7 months pregnant.

You looking after your younger sister worries me. It sounds like your mum could do with some support of her own there. Don't run a mile if I suggest social services...... but they aren't a bad lot. In this situation they would want to help your mum get on her feet so she can look after the little ones again. If she's feeling low or depressed they can help with that too. Get in touch if you need any advice how to go about this.

It's great that you have your boyfriend on board!!!

alexx144

if you're "about to be" 4 weeks... that means you havent even missed your period yet, dear. You hit 4 weeks pregnant on the day your AF was due.