I'm 15 and under the age of consent too, and there's nothing anybody can do to make me give up my baby. I'm pretty sure there is absoloutely NOTHING she can do. If you want to keep it, you can keep it, nobody can make you have an abortion or give him/her up for adoption. I know here in Canada Child + Family Services gets involved if you're under the age of 18, and they keep a close eye on you.. But here they would never take your baby away from YOU, they'd bring you with the baby, and the age of consent HERE means that if you're under that age then you can't have sex with anybody over the age of consent. (Ex: I am 14. The age of consent is 16, and the boy I had sex with is 15. There's nothing they can do about it, whereas if I were 14 and he was 16 he could get charged for statutory rape)
That's just an example. Hope everything gets worked out with you and your mom.
Hunny you really need to talk to someone objective who can support you and give you all the facts - I'm sorry to say it but your mother is feeding you lies; She cannot force you to do anything you do not want to with YOUR baby. Also, you will be entitled to financial help regardless of your parents income.
Please make an appointment to discuss all of this with your doctor, or go and talk to a teacher who you trust.
I really wish you all the best in your future - please keep us updated with everything x
[edit: Also, hun, your mother will most likely come to terms with your pregnancy and start to be more supportive once she knows that you are keeping it and there's nothign she can do to stop you...]
Last edited by TashaAndBump : 07-05-2008 at 20:28 PM.
What is she gonna do? Grab your hair,take you to the abortion clinic and then chainn you to the bed while some nurse holds you down and the doctor is terminating your pregnancy?
Please,nobody can do that.
The age of consent means that it's the age from which you're allowed to have sex with a person that is above that age.
For example,over here is 18 and If I was 17,my baby's dad who is 20 could be charged for statutory rape(although I'm 18 and I'm legal)...It's not the age where parents treat you like a puppet and you do what they say or you go to jail....
It's time for your mom to realises that her daughter is not a baby,she's having a baby and will have to grow up very fast and very soon...
And you made your decision,it's the decision that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life and if you're aware of that than your growing up process has began...
Are you UK? Wasn't sure? Citizens Advice or the Job Centre could tell you what help you might be able to get, if your 15 like i think i read there are a some things you can't get until your 16 but if your partner is over 16 then anything you can't claim- like tax credits for instance, he would be able to claim. Hope this helps and hopefully your mum will come round to the idea x x
If you are worried about financial things and housing then you would be best going job centre or CAB(citizen advice burea) I don't know what you're entitled to but you will get help.
im just so confused cause she is saying alot of stuff and like i still live there but im not considered her child anymore...and yet i wont qualify for any means of financial help apparently cuz my dad makes too much money(even if im not living with them) if i keep it me and my boyfriend get kicked out but if i dont...i will never forgive myself.
i live with my mum and i still get financial help even though my mum earns to much, cause its about u supporting ur child nt ur parents, try and speak 2 a adviser n see what help u can get.. xx no1 can force you to do anything u dont want to, wen i was 1st pregnant my mum wanted me 2 have an abortion but now shes excited she just needs time to get to terms with the situation, hun jus do wat u want its ur body & ur baby xx
no one can tell you to do anything, your the one carrying the baby and your the mom, you can do what you want, maybe give your mom time, my mom sed she was going to send me to get an abortion but shes come round and is really excited now, im sure your mom will come round to!
What is she gonna do? Grab your hair,take you to the abortion clinic and then chainn you to the bed while some nurse holds you down and the doctor is terminating your pregnancy?
Please,nobody can do that.
The age of consent means that it's the age from which you're allowed to have sex with a person that is above that age.
For example,over here is 18 and If I was 17,my baby's dad who is 20 could be charged for statutory rape(although I'm 18 and I'm legal)...It's not the age where parents treat you like a puppet and you do what they say or you go to jail....
It's time for your mom to realises that her daughter is not a baby,she's having a baby and will have to grow up very fast and very soon...
And you made your decision,it's the decision that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life and if you're aware of that than your growing up process has began...
you stole the words out of my mouth.
in the UK if your under 16 your boyfriend/partner can be arrested charged and sometimes imprisioned if your parent decides to press charges.
and sorry but what she is saying about her having the choice about your baby is utter bollocks!!!! omg thats made me soooo angry!!
We live in the 21st centuary now!! its all about freedom of speech and expression. to be able to live your life as you wish not to be dictated by our elders who think they know what is best for us when they know diddly squit!!
(kinda makes me sound a bit hippyish there talking about freedom of speech and such ha ha)
xx
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Hope everything gets worked out with you and your mom.
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