this is a long story.
i found out i was 5 and a half weeks pregnant on march the 31st. my gran died that day so it couldnt of happened at a worse time. i held back from telling my mum for a while coz of the situation. i told my boyfriend and his first reaction was "no get rid!" but i felt as if i couldnt. i told his mam and she said it was my decision but they would support 110% whatever i chose to do. i told my mum last week and her first reaction was "oh my god..!" we havnt told my dad yet because we dont live with him..but we do need to tell him asap before he finds out of somebody else. i could tell my mum was pushing abortion on me because she was making sly comments. she got my aunty down who agreed to take me to BPAS to discuss abortion. it wasnt what i wanted. and i told the nurse this when i go there and decided on keeping the baby. i had a scan and discovered i was only 8 weeks. so not to far along. i went home and told my mum that i was keeping the baby and shes accepted it. although she is not happy at all about the idea. my boyfriend now is over the moon and says he wouldnt change it for the world. he cant wait to be a daddy. his whole family are over the moon with the idea!! my boyfriends life is sorted..he's 18. has a full time job of a wagon machanic..gets £600+ a month. goes to college one day a week to improve his skills, lives at home with his mam and dad, his mam spoils him, he drives and we've been together over a year and a half. weve never cheated on each other, or even fell out! so we are in a really strong relationship. but he now wants to do boxing, kickboxing and all these extra activities. he goes through phases. im worried that him wanting to be a dad is just a phase. he wont have time to do any of these new hobbies after decemeber. his life is sorted. i cant even go to college next year to get my level 3 beauty therapy (i finish level 2 in june)! one minute im so excited to have the baby and the next im dreadin it because of my education stops in june. is this normal to feel this way??
as for your boyfriend when he sees his child it will all change u may hav alot of ups and downs trust me my boyfriend goes threw phases aswell hes had 13 jobs while i been pregnant he keeps quittin but as its gt closer 2 baby being born hes realised hes gta do whats best for his son, if u have doubts jus sit him down n hav a little talk let him know how ur feeling hun,
also why not try doin beauty therapy level 3 part time like and evenin course or 1 day a week and ask some1 2 babysit on that 1 day im sure they will... my babys due in june im jus abt 2 finish beauty level 2 aswell but gonna do level 3 part time in january, look at colleges that hav courses starting in jan u never no.
its really common to feel lke this hun..its all ur hormones youll have days where u feel really inseccure and then u will have days ur on top of the world....many colleges offer cresh fercalities and pay the cost for them...so u might be able to do ya level 3's if not u could always take a year out and star the following sep when everything sorts itself out bit.....jus try n remember having a baby does change ur life but it doesnt stop your life...hope you feel abit better soon hun x x x
you 2 have made me feel better within myself already iv been intouch with newcastle college (via email last week) and they have replied back today saying for me to go to my interview on the 16th of may and a student advisor will guide me to a part time course and child care so its all good!! boys and phases eh? lol..absaloute nitemare. one minute he wants to be tony hawk (skater) and now he wants to be bloody mike tyson! lol!! i know that our relationship will change when the baby gets here but i think its guna be for the best even though it cant really get much better hehe. suppose im lucky thanks girlies xxx CONGRATS to u's aswell xxxx
Congratulations. I'm glad you're going to continue with your education. It'll be a nice break for you when your LO is driving you mad too! As for the dad, you can only hope that he still wants the baby when he/she is here. I'm sure once he sees the scans, feels the kicks, knows that there really is a little dependant person in your belly, his whole outlook will change. I hope so anyway. Good luck!
thanx toria im sure leigh will be fine once baby gets here. i dont even know why i was worrying. stupid hormones!! grr lol! im getting him involved from eveything. iv got evening appointments so he can come with me and hear everything the midwife has gotta say. iv got my first appointment on thursday..is that for blood tests and to dicuss antenatal care? xxx good luck and congrats to u 2 xx
Yeah. There'll be alot of forms to fill out about yours and his families history and stuff too. So it's probably good he'll be there. I had to guess my way through it as far as my OH's family history was concerned!
They'll probably ask you if you want to be involved in pregnant teen groups etc too.
oh great..i have a right unhealthy family! lol
my mam and grandad both have heart disease, my mam has pre-eclampsia when she had me (the reason im an only child! hehe) my granny molly had twins..but they died at birth. my mam also has high blood pressure. my dads sister had spina bifida! luckily though..my OH's family are healthy!
i think i will be involved in teen pregnancy groups. would like as much emotional support as i can get i think. i know i'll manage finacially..but emotionally..hmm..i hope i can. xxx
Spina Bifida isn't genetic so I wouldn't worry too much about that. They might focus on the birth-related ones though. If she doesn't ask, make sure you mention them. They should keep a closer eye on you if you do.
Of course you'll cope emotionally! You just wait untill he/she is kicking you every time you get a little angry/upset. Nothing quite cheers me up like that does.
okay i will do. i cant wait to feel my baby kicking..although its guna be a while yet. december is soooo far away. u'll be nearly ready to pop now! and im barely beginning lol. does the baby know when you are upset do u think? xx
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iv been intouch with newcastle college (via email last week) and they have replied back today saying for me to go to my interview on the 16th of may and a student advisor will guide me to a part time course and child care 
luckily though..my OH's family are healthy! 
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