Sorry for this being such a rant.. but I need to just let it out and don't know who else to tell, I haven't even told my OH what is wrong.

Earlier this evening my Mum was asking me to just tidy up the house a bit and pick up a few of my things (I have been a little bit lazy lately) and so I said ok and that was it, then she started on how I don't do ANYTHING around the house but if she asks I always do it and I do do the washing up and all my own things etc, I'm hardly here anyway and me and OH are looking for own place he owns a 1 bed flat and I spend ALOT of time there, I live there weekends. Anyway then my Dad joins in and starts saying how I'll never cope with a baby because I can't even look after myself, which just made me burst into tears completely. What makes it worse was since last week he's barely spoken to me, infact I don't think he has spoken to me at all, he's just ignored me because I couldn't babysit on saturday for my twin brothers . I know he's not too happy about me having to have the baby at home for a little while sometimes until we get a place of our own because he keeps saying things that hints towards that which makes me feel bad for still living here, in my own home and just makes the atmosphere here so bad, he treats my older sister so differently to me, he acts like he really respects her and really proud but just lately can't even talk to me
I'm now doubting myself so much thinking what if I can't look after a baby and that I'll be a rubbish Mum and girlfriend to live with etc, made me cry for ages and now I keep randomly bursting into tears because it's really upset me I feel like a complete wreck and my chest hurts and my head.

I could just move out and live in my boyfriends flat but it's not that near to where I live and I can't drive and all my friends and family are here and I felt I needed to lean on them at a time like this so that's why I decided I'd split the time I was here and there but now I'm regreting it but know I'll be unhappy stuck at boyfriends flat 24/7 on my own with no one to talk to (he doesn't even have the internet so I can have a rant on here lol)

I just want a house so badly of our own why is it so hard to find one round here

Should I tell my Dad how upset he's making me? Do you think he'll change when the baby is here or what Am I being a bitch and I am really in the wrong, I dunno!!

I'm pretty messy, it's far easier than being a neat freak with kids, trust me

Just remember its only temporary


where in the west mids are you??

*sighs* i had all this jargon too..
I was living with my mum with FOB until i was about 17 weeks gone and she was always giving me shit for not doing enough around the house, or not getting changed out of my pjs when i was like throwing up every 2 seconds i didn't really fancy getting changed and running around doing everything but i still did as much as possible and she still found something that i hadn't done.... I also had the lecture on "not being able to look after myself, let alone a baby" and that "i needed to get my head sorted out"

Now bubs is here and my mums totally retracted everything she said because she's seen how fantastically i am coping with him and my own house and doing it single handedly!

So i wouldn't fret too much, you will cope when bubs is here hun, it all comes naturally. I'd never even held a baby before, but the minute he was here i just knew what to do and what was wrong with him when he cried. Its just common sense and instinct
You'll do just fine, take their comments with a pinch of salt. Its stressful living with parents, i'm sure you'll have a much better relationship with them when you've moved out. x

Thanks, it's such a shame because I really have been feeling exited about being a Mummy and he puts a complete downer on it. I guess all parents can be the same.

Haha I can be pretty messy but not too bad and I am willing to pull my weight.
I live near wolverhampton hun.

Your heavily pregnant hun, looking after bubs is pulling your weight!!

They will be all overly excited when bubs is here and won't even think to give you shit more than likely, you'll be fine

Thankyou It's just been one of those days and I've really let it get to me. I'm not usually such a wreck... lol honest

didnt wanna read and run

why is she making you do all this house work when the baby is so close to coming?? you are father along than me and I can barely do anything!

Aww try not to worry hun, you will be okay when baba is here my dad is also a moody sodd since ive gotten pregnant, seems to think i will leave baby on them all time - complete opposite
Dont worry about not doing much aswell, its horrible feeling like crap all the time everything can seem ten times worse xxxx