I want FOB out of my life

LovingYou · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:03 PM

Girls i need some serious help. FOB is threatening me that if i don't name HIS daughter with his last name he's going to take me to court. He wants it to be his last name or he's signing all the right over to me. (is that even possible for him to do that?)
plus now he's saying that when she's older, he's going to take her away from me because i'm a horrible mom for not wanting to be with him. I told him he's done NOTHING for us, and i've paid for everything.

Is that even possible for him to take her away from me? Please tell me no, because i've done everything for Karinna and he hasn't done a single thing.

~RedLily~ · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:06 PM

i would go see a solicitor and they will tell you where you stand and what sort of rights he has. him threatening like that wont work in his favour though. if he texts you or anything save them as proof as well.

AyaChan · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:09 PM

he cant take her, your her mum. hes just trying to frighten you.

don't listen to him hun

xx

supriseBump_x · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:15 PM

I think he's speaking a load of shit. But if i was u i'd go get legal advice just to be on the safe side

I'd contact the citizens advice bureau ( not sure if u have 1 of these in the US)
FOB has to have a good reason to take u to court to get custody, all he has rights to is joint custody, meaning he would have your lil girl every weekend/every other weekend. But also you have a right to demand maintenance money from him. xxx

BrEeZeY · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:26 PM

DON'T give her his last name, ur not married. he cant take her from u. how old r u hun? if he takes it to court then get a good lawyer. r ur parents standin behind u or a support group? my ex said same thing nd he only gets him 2 days a week, i cant get him completely out my life but i wish i woulda told him that it wasnt his when i got pregnant

agreeksmom · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:30 PM

keep all email texts he sends and show it to a lawyer you are not married so you dont have to use his last name and let him sign over the rights to the baby then its all yours

aob1013 · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:31 PM

First of all - every pathetic thing this little boy is saying is 100% BULLSHIT. I can assure you. IMO these are all scare tactics to make you do what he wants. It's called manipulation.

a) You can name this child whatever you like - he CANNOT take you to court for not naming the child after his surname. Categorically cannot do that. FACT.

b) No parent has the 'right' to abduct their child. If he ever did such a thing, the police would get hold of him in no time, and he'd loose any right to see him/her. FACT.

Threatening/Harassing behaviour is against the law, please contact the police ASAP. I also suggest you get in touch with a solictor to find out what your options are.

DON'T be manipulated sweet xxx

Mummy2Asher · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:33 PM

he can take u to court to be on her birth certificate but he cannot make you put her surname.
also he cannot take her, he would have to prove your a bad mum which im sure your a great mum. he could get joint custody but if hes been treatening etc then you can make a claim that way saying hes unsafe? and then hed only get supervised visits.
they wont take a baby away from there mum for no reason.
i would get some legal advice so they can explain things properly, i did this so i didnt worry. xxx

Jadelm · Mar 18th, 2010, 14:45 PM

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Originally Posted by thedailymail

First of all - every pathetic thing this little boy is saying is 100% BULLSHIT. I can assure you. IMO these are all scare tactics to make you do what he wants. It's called manipulation.

a) You can name this child whatever you like - he CANNOT take you to court for not naming the child after his surname. Categorically cannot do that. FACT.

b) No parent has the 'right' to abduct their child. If he ever did such a thing, the police would get hold of him in no time, and he'd loose any right to see him/her. FACT.

Threatening/Harassing behaviour is against the law, please contact the police ASAP. I also suggest you get in touch with a solictor to find out what your options are.

DON'T be manipulated sweet xxx

Agree totally with that hun

xxxx

LovingYou · Mar 18th, 2010, 15:09 PM

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Originally Posted by BrEeZeY

DON'T give her his last name, ur not married. he cant take her from u. how old r u hun? if he takes it to court then get a good lawyer. r ur parents standin behind u or a support group? my ex said same thing nd he only gets him 2 days a week, i cant get him completely out my life but i wish i woulda told him that it wasnt his when i got pregnant

I'm turning 18 a week before she is born. I do NOT want my daughter taken from me. I have done nothing wrong to deserve to go to court for stupid reasons like the last name issue. My parents don't know about this issue yet. I've given Dylan so many chances to better himself so I never told my mom we had issues, but this is starting to go overboard. I wish this baby was not his!! He is such an asshole.

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LovingYou Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 1,593	I want FOB out of my life Girls i need some serious help. FOB is threatening me that if i don't name HIS daughter with his last name he's going to take me to court. He wants it to be his last name or he's signing all the right over to me. (is that even possible for him to do that?) plus now he's saying that when she's older, he's going to take her away from me because i'm a horrible mom for not wanting to be with him. I told him he's done NOTHING for us, and i've paid for everything. Is that even possible for him to take her away from me? Please tell me no, because i've done everything for Karinna and he hasn't done a single thing.

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~RedLily~ Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Midlands, UK Posts: 10,266	i would go see a solicitor and they will tell you where you stand and what sort of rights he has. him threatening like that wont work in his favour though. if he texts you or anything save them as proof as well.

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AyaChan Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: South Wales Posts: 2,461	he cant take her, your her mum. hes just trying to frighten you. don't listen to him hun xx

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Mar 18th, 2010, 14:15 PM	#4
supriseBump_x Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,452	I think he's speaking a load of shit. But if i was u i'd go get legal advice just to be on the safe side I'd contact the citizens advice bureau ( not sure if u have 1 of these in the US) FOB has to have a good reason to take u to court to get custody, all he has rights to is joint custody, meaning he would have your lil girl every weekend/every other weekend. But also you have a right to demand maintenance money from him. xxx

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Mar 18th, 2010, 14:26 PM	#5
BrEeZeY Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: kansas Posts: 2,969	DON'T give her his last name, ur not married. he cant take her from u. how old r u hun? if he takes it to court then get a good lawyer. r ur parents standin behind u or a support group? my ex said same thing nd he only gets him 2 days a week, i cant get him completely out my life but i wish i woulda told him that it wasnt his when i got pregnant

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agreeksmom Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: canada Posts: 1,186	keep all email texts he sends and show it to a lawyer you are not married so you dont have to use his last name and let him sign over the rights to the baby then its all yours

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Mar 18th, 2010, 14:31 PM	#7
aob1013 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 10,675	First of all - every pathetic thing this little boy is saying is 100% BULLSHIT. I can assure you. IMO these are all scare tactics to make you do what he wants. It's called manipulation. a) You can name this child whatever you like - he CANNOT take you to court for not naming the child after his surname. Categorically cannot do that. FACT. b) No parent has the 'right' to abduct their child. If he ever did such a thing, the police would get hold of him in no time, and he'd loose any right to see him/her. FACT. Threatening/Harassing behaviour is against the law, please contact the police ASAP. I also suggest you get in touch with a solictor to find out what your options are. DON'T be manipulated sweet xxx

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Mar 18th, 2010, 14:33 PM	#8
Mummy2Asher Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Somerset Posts: 2,074	he can take u to court to be on her birth certificate but he cannot make you put her surname. also he cannot take her, he would have to prove your a bad mum which im sure your a great mum. he could get joint custody but if hes been treatening etc then you can make a claim that way saying hes unsafe? and then hed only get supervised visits. they wont take a baby away from there mum for no reason. i would get some legal advice so they can explain things properly, i did this so i didnt worry. xxx

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