Tempted to talk to FOB I'm gonna cry! - Page 3

trashit · Mar 16th, 2010, 15:39 PM

i haven't readded him, just unblocked him so he can now see me if he searches for me, but cant see any of my profile other than my profile picture and name cos ive privatised it all. He could have already seen Jude for all i know. But i dont want him in Jude's life and i made that perfectly clear, he has no right

But i cant help but be dying to let him know Jude's here lol. I'm just petrified of the outcome... x

shelx · Mar 16th, 2010, 15:52 PM

i dont know of all the things hes done but if youre comfortable with it i dont see why you shouldnt get in touch with him? just do what you think is best for baby jude

xx

Mummy2Asher · Mar 16th, 2010, 15:59 PM

i understand how u feel, i actually fought for a year for ash to see FOB becuase i also felt bad and didnt want ash to blame me for not having a dad, it was a year of hell! i got so much abuse! he wanted nothing to do with him and now i look back and thought i was an idiot! he does not want a son and does not DESERVE a son.
ive not connected myself in anyway to him now, no maintenance money or anything. but everyones situation is different, at the end of the day he should want to be in his sons life and by not contacting you i think thats saying alot.
dont feel sorry for your son, my son and me are even more close and have such a great bond, i dont feel like hes missed out....he now has my OH who he loves to play footy with etc but at the end of the day he always wants to come and cuddle me and talk.
xxx

QuintinsMommy · Mar 16th, 2010, 16:12 PM

I alway so understand how you feel, FOB doesn't have fb but I msged his sister and mom, his sister answered saying Quintin doesn't look like FOB and that He probs isn't his!
but Quintin looks alot like FOB so whatever, his mom never answered
sometimes I email FOB updated pictures, I know he never goes on his email, but maybe one day he will ...

trashit · Mar 16th, 2010, 16:22 PM

thanks girlies

i just look at him and think "what a dick" i cant help it, hes such a tithead. I'll give Jude all the love i can, it just seems to me that he'll always think theres something missing not having a father figure...
I dont think ill tell him.. cos ill probably wake up tomorrow and think OH NO!

lol

futuremommy91 · Mar 16th, 2010, 16:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by trashit

i dont want it to lead to anything else heh. It definitely is just curiousity! but you know what they say about that...

Thanks everyone

my mum would KILL me if she knew i'd just unblocked him lol.
He still has the baby photo album with the scan photo.....

my little brothers (eleven years old) commented on it-
"you got my sister pregnant then ran off and left her you dick"
LMAO.

LOL!
Your brother sounds like a fine little man

I'd just email him saying that his son is here, along with a pic. And if he doesn't answer when he sees his son, then you can know for sure. I agree with the others- be prepared for the worst hun.

And Jude has a WONDERFUL mother. The fact that you carried him and brought him into this world despite how difficult it may be speaks truckloads of how much you love him. And that is more than enough. And it does sound like Jude has a lovely grandma and uncle

One day you'll meet a guy who will love you and Jude like he is the FOB, but for now Jude has many people in his life who love him no matter what and will do anything for him. And that's pretty great.

trashit · Mar 16th, 2010, 17:06 PM

aww thats really lovely

thankyou!
well i sent him a pic and just put 7.3.10

Mellie1988 · Mar 16th, 2010, 17:15 PM

Awww hun, sounds like similar situation to my sister....my nephew was born and my sister felt like you, sorry for my nephew for not having a daddy, so she messaged him and he just ignored it....she even invited him to his 1st birthday party (he still hadn't seen him or anything or even asked about him) over facebook on an event invitation thing and straight away he came up in the "not attending" box...hes a complete knob and my nephew is better off without him!!

Anyway, just thought i'd share that story, my nephew is 2 now and my sister is doin a fab job, shes a mummy and daddy in one and thats all the lil man wants...all that love for mummy!!
I know that you are gonna be a fab mummy, you can tell already from your piccies, Jude looks adorable, and just think, u will get all the cuddles and kisses and you wont have to share him with anyone!!

I hope you get the outcome you want from the message hun
x

trashit · Mar 16th, 2010, 17:21 PM

im sorry your sister had to go through it

its horrible, i dont wish it on anyone, i just wish men had to be as responsible as us women! its so unjustified. well he did me the BIGGEST favour in leaving, hes such a gimp

he's one of them exes you look at and think "why didnt someone punch me?!"

(soo glad Jude takes after me, i'd DIE if he looked anything like FOB

thats mean isnt it?! lol)
i've let him know now anyway, so we'll see if i get ignored or i get some kind of respsonse. wouldn't surprise me if i either get blanked or i get "fuck off" again.. im not really sure what sort of response i want, or if i even want a response. I just wanted him to know, im curious as to whether he ever thinks of him.. he must do, surely?! x

princess_vix · Mar 16th, 2010, 18:35 PM

I think you should just let him know,see what happens hun x

Mar 16th, 2010, 15:39 PM	#21
trashit Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: May 2009 Location: YORKSHIREEE :) Posts: 4,745	i haven't readded him, just unblocked him so he can now see me if he searches for me, but cant see any of my profile other than my profile picture and name cos ive privatised it all. He could have already seen Jude for all i know. But i dont want him in Jude's life and i made that perfectly clear, he has no right But i cant help but be dying to let him know Jude's here lol. I'm just petrified of the outcome... x

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Mar 16th, 2010, 15:52 PM	#22
shelx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 790	i dont know of all the things hes done but if youre comfortable with it i dont see why you shouldnt get in touch with him? just do what you think is best for baby jude xx

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Mar 16th, 2010, 15:59 PM	#23
Mummy2Asher Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Somerset Posts: 2,074	i understand how u feel, i actually fought for a year for ash to see FOB becuase i also felt bad and didnt want ash to blame me for not having a dad, it was a year of hell! i got so much abuse! he wanted nothing to do with him and now i look back and thought i was an idiot! he does not want a son and does not DESERVE a son. ive not connected myself in anyway to him now, no maintenance money or anything. but everyones situation is different, at the end of the day he should want to be in his sons life and by not contacting you i think thats saying alot. dont feel sorry for your son, my son and me are even more close and have such a great bond, i dont feel like hes missed out....he now has my OH who he loves to play footy with etc but at the end of the day he always wants to come and cuddle me and talk. xxx

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Mar 16th, 2010, 16:12 PM	#24
QuintinsMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 10,672	I alway so understand how you feel, FOB doesn't have fb but I msged his sister and mom, his sister answered saying Quintin doesn't look like FOB and that He probs isn't his! but Quintin looks alot like FOB so whatever, his mom never answered sometimes I email FOB updated pictures, I know he never goes on his email, but maybe one day he will ...

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Mar 16th, 2010, 16:22 PM	#25
trashit Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: May 2009 Location: YORKSHIREEE :) Posts: 4,745	thanks girlies i just look at him and think "what a dick" i cant help it, hes such a tithead. I'll give Jude all the love i can, it just seems to me that he'll always think theres something missing not having a father figure... I dont think ill tell him.. cos ill probably wake up tomorrow and think OH NO! lol

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Mar 16th, 2010, 17:06 PM	#27
trashit Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: May 2009 Location: YORKSHIREEE :) Posts: 4,745	aww thats really lovely thankyou! well i sent him a pic and just put 7.3.10

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Mar 16th, 2010, 17:15 PM	#28
Mellie1988 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 3,190	Awww hun, sounds like similar situation to my sister....my nephew was born and my sister felt like you, sorry for my nephew for not having a daddy, so she messaged him and he just ignored it....she even invited him to his 1st birthday party (he still hadn't seen him or anything or even asked about him) over facebook on an event invitation thing and straight away he came up in the "not attending" box...hes a complete knob and my nephew is better off without him!! Anyway, just thought i'd share that story, my nephew is 2 now and my sister is doin a fab job, shes a mummy and daddy in one and thats all the lil man wants...all that love for mummy!! I know that you are gonna be a fab mummy, you can tell already from your piccies, Jude looks adorable, and just think, u will get all the cuddles and kisses and you wont have to share him with anyone!! I hope you get the outcome you want from the message hun x

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Mar 16th, 2010, 17:21 PM	#29
trashit Pregnant (Expecting) Join Date: May 2009 Location: YORKSHIREEE :) Posts: 4,745	im sorry your sister had to go through it its horrible, i dont wish it on anyone, i just wish men had to be as responsible as us women! its so unjustified. well he did me the BIGGEST favour in leaving, hes such a gimp he's one of them exes you look at and think "why didnt someone punch me?!" (soo glad Jude takes after me, i'd DIE if he looked anything like FOB thats mean isnt it?! lol) i've let him know now anyway, so we'll see if i get ignored or i get some kind of respsonse. wouldn't surprise me if i either get blanked or i get "fuck off" again.. im not really sure what sort of response i want, or if i even want a response. I just wanted him to know, im curious as to whether he ever thinks of him.. he must do, surely?! x

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Mar 16th, 2010, 18:35 PM	#30
princess_vix Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Bournemouth,UK Posts: 3,922	I think you should just let him know,see what happens hun x

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