Yes im a flipping young mum - Page 4

katzone · Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:18 AM

I hate all the preconceived ideas about teen mums, the looks you get off people!

I am 22 now but was 18 when I had DS and some of the stares I got, I felt like turning round and saying "WHAT? I am 18, I am married, my husband works and we rent our own house, now F-off and mind your own!"
Never did say it of course, I was so shy and quiet!

Also hated the way the midwives treated me as though I knew NOTHING, literally NOTHING and spoke to me like a child. Believe me this time round things will be different!! Mind you I bet now I am in my twenties and on my second child I'll be treated different anyway. Not fair and not right to be discriminated on because of age.

Laura12355 · Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:21 AM

Oh hun you know your a good mum & thats all that matters

I agree with people looking down their noses and makin rude comments
I've just turned 20 but i'm quite petite and look about 16/17 and I always get stared at and people saying things.

Me and my partner both have full time jobs and are going to do our very best to give this baby the best life possible. We cant afford the best of the best like some mums who wiat until they're in their late 30's to have kids but NO ONE is going to love this boy as much as we will

I think its mainly jealousy why people make these comments

They dont want us to be able to cope and they wait for us to mess up just because we're "young"

x

sleepinbeauty · Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by bbyno1

thats like lastnight i went to my fobs dads house.his dads wife was thier (fobs step mum)
and she was like oh how old r u agen i go 21 she goes wow..thats soo young..i go not really and yeah depends how u look at it she was like r u ready for a baby honestly are you finacially stable i said well obv im gunna have to stop work for a while soon but iv got savings and fob will get a job then after il work again she was like oh..but are you mature enough even?(obv she dont think i am!) i said yes i am.
she said im only 29 when i had my son and im telling you its hard work,makes you tired,you need to know what your doing exactly.i said i do! and if i have any questions il be going to my mum she just shut up then but basically trying to say im too young and wont be able to provide my baby with what it needs!!x

Seriously? WTF?!??!

annawrigley · Mar 3rd, 2010, 13:07 PM

well said kris!

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Originally Posted by mummy2b17

however out of the peple that I went to school with who are pregnant or mummys, very few of them seem to take responsibility where they should. This one girl I know for instance is always out getting drunk and giving her daughter to her mum or dad to take care of, she goes out drinking practicaly every night. It makes me sad to think about that.

same actually, i know a lot of girls like this unfortunately so i can definitely see where we get our bad name from

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Originally Posted by KrisKitten

or may it should only be people between the age of 26 and 26 and a half, they should shop at Tescos and buy clothes from Topshop and their favourite food should be pears.
Hey, why not

All of this means nothing. Iv noticed that alot of these women who are properly chavvy and neglectful mothers seem to have blonde hair...maybe blondes shouldnt have kids?
Yeh, lets all tut whenever we see a blonde with a child coz they are surely going to be bad mum.

haha a good point

Luke's_mummy · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:06 PM

Lol Kris! Blondes shouldn't have babies!

It's so sad to think it, isn't it Anna? But the fact is even if we can see where our bad name comes from, we shouldn't all be lumped into one boat, because at the end of the day, I know people in their 30's who are just as bad for going out and drinking till all hours instead of taking care of their children!

Its a sad but true reality that some people really shouldn't have children! But thats not to say that YOUNG people specificaly should not have children, just some people in general, you CAN'T just lump a group of people into the same category because our ages are similar. Thats just stupid and naive to think that all people of 13-19 are exsactly the same.

Grrr

shelx · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:26 PM

i hate this! some people can be so patronising!
'so who does the night feeds then? You or your mum?'
^^ the health visitor asked me this. THE HEALTH VISITOR! i felt like slapping her

xx

KrisKitten · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:36 PM

seriosuly shel lol its one of the questions that winds me up the most.
Esp that people tend to ask after theyv seen I AM BREASTFEEDING

idiots xxxx

amandakelley · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:47 PM

Ugh! I hate when people do that. Older people always look down on teen parents and call them names and expect them to be bad parents when really half the teen parents are better parents then most older parents are. It's so annoying. You see it every day places and it's just stupid. They call teen parents immature for having a child so young when they are the ones being immature for even thinking that. Just because you're young doesn't mean that you're incompetent at being a great parent.
I know I don't know you in person, but I do know that you care extremely for Thomas and that you'd die for him. You're a damn great mom and no one can change that. Don't worry about them hun. I know they are extremely annoying, but they aren't worth your time or energy. Next time just make a big show of playing with Tommy and when they are looking just smile big and wave. That's all you can really do. Because even if you did argue with them it won't change a thing because they'll keep doing the same thing. Just prove them wrong by continuing doing what you're doing and always remember that you are a wonderful mother.

sleepinbeauty · Mar 3rd, 2010, 20:15 PM

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Originally Posted by shelx

i hate this! some people can be so patronising!
'so who does the night feeds then? You or your mum?'
^^ the health visitor asked me this. THE HEALTH VISITOR! i felt like slapping her

xx

you should have.

xMissxZoiex · Mar 3rd, 2010, 20:44 PM

Just wanted to say i read it all

And you are a really great mum! No matter what those small minded people think or say xxxxx

Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:18 AM	#31
katzone Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Devon, UK Posts: 1,187	I hate all the preconceived ideas about teen mums, the looks you get off people! I am 22 now but was 18 when I had DS and some of the stares I got, I felt like turning round and saying "WHAT? I am 18, I am married, my husband works and we rent our own house, now F-off and mind your own!" Never did say it of course, I was so shy and quiet! Also hated the way the midwives treated me as though I knew NOTHING, literally NOTHING and spoke to me like a child. Believe me this time round things will be different!! Mind you I bet now I am in my twenties and on my second child I'll be treated different anyway. Not fair and not right to be discriminated on because of age.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 09:21 AM	#32
Laura12355 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Staffordshire Posts: 645	Oh hun you know your a good mum & thats all that matters I agree with people looking down their noses and makin rude comments I've just turned 20 but i'm quite petite and look about 16/17 and I always get stared at and people saying things. Me and my partner both have full time jobs and are going to do our very best to give this baby the best life possible. We cant afford the best of the best like some mums who wiat until they're in their late 30's to have kids but NO ONE is going to love this boy as much as we will I think its mainly jealousy why people make these comments They dont want us to be able to cope and they wait for us to mess up just because we're "young" x

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:06 PM	#35
Luke's_mummy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: London Posts: 2,571	Lol Kris! Blondes shouldn't have babies! It's so sad to think it, isn't it Anna? But the fact is even if we can see where our bad name comes from, we shouldn't all be lumped into one boat, because at the end of the day, I know people in their 30's who are just as bad for going out and drinking till all hours instead of taking care of their children! Its a sad but true reality that some people really shouldn't have children! But thats not to say that YOUNG people specificaly should not have children, just some people in general, you CAN'T just lump a group of people into the same category because our ages are similar. Thats just stupid and naive to think that all people of 13-19 are exsactly the same. Grrr

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:26 PM	#36
shelx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 789	i hate this! some people can be so patronising! 'so who does the night feeds then? You or your mum?' ^^ the health visitor asked me this. THE HEALTH VISITOR! i felt like slapping her xx

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:36 PM	#37
KrisKitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: London Posts: 4,380	seriosuly shel lol its one of the questions that winds me up the most. Esp that people tend to ask after theyv seen I AM BREASTFEEDING idiots xxxx

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:47 PM	#38
amandakelley Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Baldwin, FL, USA Posts: 542	Ugh! I hate when people do that. Older people always look down on teen parents and call them names and expect them to be bad parents when really half the teen parents are better parents then most older parents are. It's so annoying. You see it every day places and it's just stupid. They call teen parents immature for having a child so young when they are the ones being immature for even thinking that. Just because you're young doesn't mean that you're incompetent at being a great parent. I know I don't know you in person, but I do know that you care extremely for Thomas and that you'd die for him. You're a damn great mom and no one can change that. Don't worry about them hun. I know they are extremely annoying, but they aren't worth your time or energy. Next time just make a big show of playing with Tommy and when they are looking just smile big and wave. That's all you can really do. Because even if you did argue with them it won't change a thing because they'll keep doing the same thing. Just prove them wrong by continuing doing what you're doing and always remember that you are a wonderful mother.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 20:44 PM	#40
xMissxZoiex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nottingham, UK Posts: 5,152	Just wanted to say i read it all And you are a really great mum! No matter what those small minded people think or say xxxxx

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