Thing is, while i agree with this, there ARE some teen/young mums about who are flipping useless. They go out drinking, dump their kids etc etc
BUT
Well every sex offender i see on the news seems to be between 25 and 40 so women that age shouldnt have kids then? Oh and theres a woman down my road who looks in her 30s whos kids is always with a babysitter coz shes forever working, these days women of 30 something are normally working a lot so clearly they shouldnt have kids and are destined to be bad mothers.
And in fact people all over the country of all ages are suffering finacialy because of the recession so maybe veryone should stop having kids....
or may it should only be people between the age of 26 and 26 and a half, they should shop at Tescos and buy clothes from Topshop and their favourite food should be pears.
Hey, why not
All of this means nothing. Iv noticed that alot of these women who are properly chavvy and neglectful mothers seem to have blonde hair...maybe blondes shouldnt have kids?
Yeh, lets all tut whenever we see a blonde with a child coz they are surely going to be bad mum.

It all means the same thing, it just annoys me how every1 thinks its ok to assume that ur gonna be crap because statistics say you will....idiotic, closed minded and judgemental.
Thanks 4 all ur replies lol, and well done 4 readng xxxxxxx

I get the same and I am nearly 23! It winds me up. Because my son has autism, I have done alot of research and I have my own personal experience, I feel like when people ask for advise that my advise doesnt matter because obviously I am to young to know what O am talking about. That really bugs me!

^^thats the thing i find most annoying.
Why exactly my opinion or experiences mean less or are less note-worthy than someone who is older....im still a mum
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you worded that perfectly Kris! seriously i hate people like that. When like you said our babies are with us 24/7 so why do people feel the need to ask questions like ''so i guess you get help from your parents alot?' erm no actually i dont. My daughter spends 24 effing hours a day with me and everything shes learned it because of ME i taught her, i brought her up and im the one thats fed, cleaned and play with her for the last 9 months and i plan on doing the exact same thing with my little boy too!

arghh people anger me and i cannt believe people treat you like that at you BF group (actually i can believe it because some people are just ignorant cow's) just ignore it. We all know how much work and effort we put in to raising our kids

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I read it all!--Gimme a medal!
Couldn't agree more I dont get it so much anymore because I'm on my 2nd I think I've proved I am more than capable of being a mama but it drove me mad people thinking I didn't know how to look after Ophelia when she was smaller and not listening to my advice and opinions
Rise above it hon,YOU know your a great mum,just ignore other people's ignorance.
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There are bad examples of parents no matter the age, but yes you're right the ones on the news are always older..... I guess because its more "normal" now for women to get their career, get married and then think about children so that when women do it the other way around and have children first its frowned upon...xxx

exactly ellie, thats my point, i obviously dont rlly mean older people shouldnt have kids coz of that - its just using the same logic.
And everyone would agree that logic is insulting and stupid so y is it ok to spout the same but about teens?
Lol btw i do realise im preaching to the choir xxx

its not like you are 14, I really dont understand why people give you a hard time.
Its unfortunate for those people at the breastfeeding group not to take your seriously their loss really. I personally believe that you should be married, and financially stable to have kids but that doesnt mean that I think anyone who is not in that category is a bad mother, that is just narrow minded and ignorant. There are lots of great things about being a young mother, and you know what not so long ago everyone got married and had kids very young and that was the norm. No one said anything then.
Try not to let it get to you too much.
I am 26 and this is my second baby, I got married when I was 23, and some people consider that really young, who knows, you cant please them all.

i read it all

Where ever we go someone is always going to have the bad opinion on teen mums, i'm also 18 and get the most horrible looks a person could give everytime im walking through my local town centre, if i'm with my mum i hear sly comments from the older generation of people and also from some teens aswell, if i'm with FOB then i dont get as many weird looks lol .
The worst is when im with my friends who also have children, their pushing their buggies and i'm walkin along side with my bump.

Kris.. very well said by the way all of it and i think its very unfair you should get treated like that, maybe you should speak up and say something, your opinion matters too and it doesnt have to come out rude. I want to say i hope i dont get the same treatment when i start going to similar classes, but i can almost garentee i will.

Teen mums that live of the social and arn't currently studying shouldnt be slated either, my college told me i couldn't continue with my course because i was a health and safety risk, i was doing child care!! work that one out ?

i do live in a house funded by my local counsil, im currently on maternity leave from my WORK! lol so i have been payin part rent.. not alot but still enough, i pay all my own bill's my mum doesnt pay them for me, i independently look after myself and FOB altough he works too.

When my little boy comes out i'm going to be the best mum i can be, yes my mum will proberly WANT to baby sit and i will let her, when i feel he is ready, i am breast feeding which alot of people in my town don't do, not even 30 year olds.

My mum proberly got slated when i was young because my sister and me have a 2 year gap between us and me and my younger brother have an 11 month gap, so 3 children with a 3 year gap between the oldest and youngest!! lol.. but she is and always has been the best mum she can be. and i love her for it.

i have me and FOB and my little boy on the way, any
"adult" who has something to say, will get the debate of their life if they want to make sly childish comments about any teen mums.

Why is it that when i'm at work picking up special needs children from their schools, i'm adored and praised by all the teachers and other parents.but when i'm seen with my bump or holding a friends child i become socialy hated by the older generation!


i love to rant! but im gonna shut u now! lol .. ohh yehh one more thing.. that stupid under aged and pregnant programme really didnt help!!

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Don't worry what people think, as long as you have a happy little baby that loves his/her Mummy, you are doing a great job. I'm not a teen Mummy myself, I am 27 however my husband is 32 and his Mum had him when she was 17. My husband is now a sucessful, kind, loving father, he wouldn't of been the man he is today without the help of his then 17 year old mother.

Keep smiling