rise above it hun. as long as you know you're a good mother, then none of these narrow minded fools are even worth talking about. I love how we're all stereotyped to be Vicky Pollard's living in a council flat, smoking and drinking and having ten kids by the time we're 25 to a million different dads....
I also love how everyone thinks we fob our babies off on our parents. Not everyones parents are push overs! I'm living alone, no fob, no nobody. My mum and nanna are going to come around for the first few weeks to help out with cleaning while i get on my feet and recover (if i have a traumatic birth, which im hoping not!) but after that im completely on my own. Our babies are OUR responsibility and we all accept that, i just wish that other people would see it that way... *sighs* there needs to be something that shows the British public that we aren't all chavvy skanks with STD's living in our own filth and that most of us are actually better parents than half the older mummas, because we get our children. Just think, by the time our bubbas are our age we'll be in our thirties, and probably seem ancient to them but we wont be anywhere near ancient and we'll understand what "wavelength" our babies are on, where as a mumma in her fifties or sixties is pretty much ready for retirement lol. Anyways i'll stop ranting..... it just frustrates me! If even one of them narrow minded idiots could come on here and see how bloody great we all are then i'm sure they'd change their views in an instant. Things need to change, we need more support.
Big sugar, you're way way better than any of them fools. xx

I've been lurking on this forum for a long time and have silently gathered on who alot of the regular girls are. And to be perfectly honest, most of you seem to be just as capable of good parenting as any older woman I know of. I'm going to be 20 in may as well, and I'm married and in college. And trust me when I tell you that I hear the same things except it's more of why I should wait. Your age doesn't matter when it comes to being a good mother, we all have motherly instincts. It's how you act on those instincts that makes you who you are-a good mother. And I don't even know you hun, But I can tell your right now that I'm proud of you, your accomplishments, and your desire to succeed! You're doing just as well as someone without a child, you're not using him as something that's "holding you back" as some people do .. That in itself is amazing. So from now on, keep your head held high.. because like you said all that really matters is that your son grows up well taken care of and loved. And I assure you, just because you were young when you had him doesn't mean he'll think you're any less of an amazing mom.

Good Job. Keep up the good work.
How's that for something that would be nice to hear more often

You are an amazing mummy, you know that, screw everyone else petal! Probably a far better mummy than alot of others out there.

You know where I am if you wanna ask any advice on anything I might know, without being judged

It really is rediculous that people think all the shit, however out of the peple that I went to school with who are pregnant or mummys, very few of them seem to take responsibility where they should. This one girl I know for instance is always out getting drunk and giving her daughter to her mum or dad to take care of, she goes out drinking practicaly every night. It makes me sad to think about that. I don't understand why I should have to enjure dirty looks and people blatantly talking about me in public just because I have a baby bump. I may live with my mum but this doesn't mean anything, at the end of the day I'm in a stable relationship with someone I love very very much, my oh has a full time 6 days a bloody week stable job, and I was at college untill advised to stop and leave college for my unborn son's safety! It makes me so mad. And it's rediculous that I have to always feel weary of posting in other sections on here because of my age, at the end of the day, why should it be that if someone was in worse circumstances than me and they were older then they wouldn't have to face half the prejudice that we do. Okay, rant over

that must be soo annoying, lucky i dont seem to get it although i did ask the plumber the other day who old he thought i was and he said 22/24 so i guess that could be why or maybe in my city its more acceptable to been a teen mummy.

The only time i noticed some type of Teen thing was with 2 midwifes after i had Lo, one basicly making a comment about how slack teens must be because we have "easy" births, and teh other who seemed to think i make up my infection even though a different midwife saw it kind of thing

The best bit is though many many years ago you where expected to have children very young, then it changed to the not before marrage ect and now we are here, and in some places your ment to be married by the time your 16.

I have this view just here though that the whole underage pregnancy stat should be for those under 16, Since 16 your legal to have sex so nothing underage which really bugs me. Now i will never agree with having a baby under 16 really you have not left school ect but once you turn 16 i dont get the reason people "jump" on you... Although soon everyone will be at school till 18 so then i guess 18 will be the "new" 16

Stupid small minded people REALLY irritate me.

I have to agree with that. I think we are all tarred under the same brush which is unfair, but i can see why people do it sometimes Because all they see the teen mothers that are like that, they don't see the good examples. Tbh they make me absolutely puke and i wish they didn't exist because now we are all thought to be that way when we are not...... *sighs* I see some of them (and i have to say i see older mummys doing the same but most teen mums i see are like this...) with their bellys hanging over their jeans, a cigarette in one hand, pushing the pram in the other, the baby's crying and they're either ignoring it or just saying shut up will you you little shit or something along them lines...... I'm not saying i have anything against trackie bottoms (lol) but i feel proud not to be the typical trackie bottom wearing, smoking, drinking, fobbing the baby whose also wearing trackies and nike airs and called something chav-esque (wont give examples incase it offends anyone lol) off on their own mum, young mother! xx

I am 29 now and i had my oldest at 18 and i still get comments its fine when i'm out with just the baby but as soon as people see me with my 10 year old i get nasty comments about young mothers and how i wasted my life, etc. My oldest wasn't planned i was on the pill but even if he was planned so what. I have lived on my own since i was 17 i had next to no help with my baby and i worked part time my bf left me when the baby was born and i coped in fact i more then coped my son is very clever well spoken and polite. Having a baby young can be hard but it was so worth it and i wouldn't have changed anything. It didn't stop me working and studying or getting a new boyfriend who is now my hubby and father of my 2 younger children. I think people slag young mothers off because they are an easy target and the media doesn't help with negative stories about young mums. I think that all the teens on here show maturity and are wonderful mums or mums in waiting you all do a great job and deserve praise and respect.

thats like lastnight i went to my fobs dads house.his dads wife was thier (fobs step mum)
and she was like oh how old r u agen i go 21 she goes wow..thats soo young..i go not really and yeah depends how u look at it she was like r u ready for a baby honestly are you finacially stable i said well obv im gunna have to stop work for a while soon but iv got savings and fob will get a job then after il work again she was like oh..but are you mature enough even?(obv she dont think i am!) i said yes i am.
she said im only 29 when i had my son and im telling you its hard work,makes you tired,you need to know what your doing exactly.i said i do! and if i have any questions il be going to my mum she just shut up then but basically trying to say im too young and wont be able to provide my baby with what it needs!!x

just to make you feel better im 25 married and live in my own house with my husband and when my mum was telling people we were expecting about 10 people said "o is this another one for you to look after" like i was some moron...some people are just ignorant ooo i love a rant! xx