These topics always turn into a bit of a debate dont they..
And im sure nobody wants to offend anybody else
Everybody has an opinion though...
And i think... TRYING to concieve at a young age can be a bit silly..
Before a load of teens get on my back..
Nothing to do with the age completely... but things that come along with the age...
*Not many girls at 16/17 have their own house (or even renting)
* Living with their partner
*Their own money
* Qualifications for a job that will set them up for life (Money wise)
*Been with their partner long enough to think about the strain pregnancy/ having a baby puts onto the even strongest of relationships.
If a young person has all of this an has the right setting to bring a baby into then good luck to you...
For a teen who falls pregnant and it isnt planned...
Does the best job that they can with the situation...
And a lot of them turn out to be really good mums!
So id never judge just the age... its the things associated with the age.. House/job/money.
Of course you can just get pregnant and live of the state for money/ housing..
But wouldnt you want better for yourself/ your child if you could choose..
I found out i was pregnant at 19...
And although i lived with my boyfriend, had good jobs, our own money ect ect...
If i could of waited a few more years, more girly holidays/ going out getting rotten... i would have
Even though i wouldnt change it now
I just want to add to my earlier post(cause it wasn't long enough ) that whatever girls may think,that having a baby means that you'll be loved and entails all thing woderful:
Ok,so I really don't like judging but when a teenage girl,especially below 18(not to mention 17) comes here and says that she wants to start ttc,that is completely not comprehensible to me.
I cannot give this girl advice,I cannot aprove or pretend that I don't see the circumstances of this.
I don't judge teenage moms,they can do such an amazing job with their children,they should be given credit(the good ones of course) but girls who want to be mothers at ages like 16 and create those hard circumstances on their own,I belive that they shouldn't recive approval...
I agree with Alexandra,they're teenagers and we all know that the emotions that we experience at that age are strong and often misleading...
When those girls come on here,do you think their parents know about it?Do you think that their parents know that they have the intention to bring a child into their home,that they will have to help in raising this child?
Not to mention,using the tax payers money as a way to cope.I wouldn't want my money to be used on a girl who decided that she wants this,who created this herself intentionally.
A woman has to be physically,emotionally and financially ready when she decides that she wants this commitment.
And everyone deserves a childhood,I personally belive that a person has a lot of things to see and experience,to find out about a world before deciding that she want to guide another person through theirs.
You haven't lived your life and had your freedom long enough before you gave it up.
Because whatever you say,a child takes your freedom,nothing you do from that point envolves just you.It's not just your life,it's the life of your family now.
and your also a child and u havent had your baby yet so try commenting after you have had your baby no aged person can be guaranteed ready for a baby no matter how old you are
i think the best way is to wait for your period, i waited until i was 1 week late and then did a test and it was pos, because you imagination can run wild when your trying for a baby mine did, but i jus had 2 tell myself just got to wait it was really annoying but its the best way. good luck
I just want to ask if all the pregnant teens who have posted on here saying they don't agree with planned teen pregnancy would actually agree with any form of teen pregnancy if they themselves were not pregnant?
I just want to ask if all the pregnant teens who have posted on here saying they don't agree with planned teen pregnancy would actually agree with any form of teen pregnancy if they themselves were not pregnant?
Just a simple question
I'm not sure if this was directed at me but here's the answer:
I'm a pregnant teen,I don't agree with planned teen pregnancy,as for unplanned teen pregnany,there's nothing here to agree on.It happens to people and thats it.
If a girl wants an abortion,let her,If she wants to keep it,also good.
I thought that before I was pregnant and also now.
I don't judge or disagree with unplanned teen pregnancy.
Although before I was pregnant,pregnancy alone was not something I wanted to go through,especially as a teen and I couldn't understand why people(especially teens) want to got through that.
I'm happy that my little girl will be in my life now though.
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and your also a child and u havent had your baby yet so try commenting after you have had your baby no aged person can be guaranteed ready for a baby no matter how old you are
Just because my baby isn't born yet doesn't mean that she isn't in my life.And I have every right to comment.
I have a brain and my own opinion,it doesn't change...
Last edited by nikky0907 : 12-05-2008 at 12:30 PM.
if i wasnt pregnant now, i think i would wait for at least 10 years before TTC. when u see a teen with a kid, u dont know whether the baby was planned or not which makes it easier for people to judge, especially as they dont know ur circumstances. before getting pregnant, i never actually thought about teenage pregnancy- its very debatable
Looking after a baby is difficult at any age. Different people are ready for children at different times. I had my first at 20, the same time my brother and Sil had theirs in their 30's, and our parenting styles aren't really that different.
I'm not sure if this was directed at me but here's the answer:
I'm a pregnant teen,I don't agree with planned teen pregnancy,as for unplanned teen pregnany,there's nothing here to agree on.It happens to people and thats it.
If a girl wants an abortion,let her,If she wants to keep it,also good.
I thought that before I was pregnant and also now.
I don't judge or disagree with unplanned teen pregnancy.
Although before I was pregnant,pregnancy alone was not something I wanted to go through,especially as a teen and I couldn't understand why people(especially teens) want to got through that.
I'm happy that my little girl will be in my life now though.
Just because my baby isn't born yet doesn't mean that she isn't in my life.And I have every right to comment.
I have a brain and my own opinion,it doesn't change...
yes u have a brain and have a right to reply shame the latter one wasnt used for contraceptive if you didnt want kids as i said every one is totaly different some more mature than others and my kids would still be my kids even with a diff farther i just didnt know at the time he was into hitting and abusing children thats my only mistake i regret
yes u have a brain and have a right to reply shame the latter one wasnt used for contraceptive if you didnt want kids as i said every one is totaly different some more mature than others and my kids would still be my kids even with a diff farther i just didnt know at the time he was into hitting and abusing children thats my only mistake i regret
It's sad I didn't use my brain for contaceptive?!
You know.I don't insult anyone on this forum,not even people I disagree with,but you are downright unpleasant and out of order!
I said I didn't plan kids in my life,that doesn't mean that I don't love my baby...I love her and I want her.
Please,don't comment my personal life and insult my opinions on things.
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