I'm still trying to get through this entire thread, but since no one is listening to me about being respectful the thread has been locked until Admin has a chance to review it.

Maybe a look into the members circumstances before commenting on their contraception methods would have helped. Correct me if I am wrong Nikky but you were actually protected and like a bigger percentage you were caught whist on the pill?

I don't see said member saying anything other than suggest that pregnancy was unplanned, had no intentions of pregnancy, wasn't trying at her age yet found heself in that situation and therefore loves the fact baby is apart of her life now & to come but certainly don't see any suggestion that Nikky was saying other young Mums would be any different.

Put the claws away girls!

> On to reading more! This thread remains locked until I have read it!

This post is wrong on so may levels!

Firstly I'm not taking kindly to how rude that approach was & how in your face with what I can only describe as blatant attitude.

Most definately don't have the financial ability to bring a child as a younger teen into this world! My Caitlins not 6 months yet & I've spent the minimum of £1000 on her and although I had my own flat at 16 half I'd never have done it without 'support' and these days you needs GCSEs to have a cleaning job!

Refer to what is in red! .... do I need to say more about your assumption of members maturity & standards?!

Being hurtful can be done at many levels and circumstances just because its two different circumstances doesn't mean its not as bloody hurtful - right? I think ella had every right to express that she felt the quoted post was 'harsh' after all you seem happy to do the same?

I've been in 2 physical abusive situations once as a child once as an adult and I can honestly say unrelated cruel comments have been more hurtful. verbally nasty people ruin lives too < a general comment ...I'm not calling anyone here verbally nasty although your all being rather catty and bitchy instead of supportive!

OH just pointed out that I have indeed spent way more than the £1000 minimum I said well I did say minimum didn't I?

Anywayyyyyyyy:

Tell you what - Im giving up there because theres 2 more pages after my last nit pick of replies on this thread!

I am unlocking it ...your suppose to be a forum of adults and mature women who are trying to be parents, expecting or already have children so surely I can unlock this and not remove?!

WARNING: Please be very careful ...I am willing to hand out temp cool off bans - I nearly gave out one!

Thanks wobbles for reviewing this thread.
I think it went out of control.Some comments were really upseting...

You're right I did get caught on the pill which is why I'm hurt when people say stuff about contraceptives to me...

I honestly apologize if I hurt anyone.I even went in the chatroom where darkheaven and Sao were and apologized to them if in any of my comments I went out of line.

Thats nice you attempted to cool down the situation Nikky - Your a great member here. I hope you have calmed down & I hope everyone else has.

Just want to say as I have just explained to someone else ...the debate on this thread was not really at question but the 'attitude' was.

A debate like this should maybe have been a seperate post rather than on someones ...dunno how to work that one

FAO wobbles,
you've just thanked nicky and called her a great member but she was one of the instigators of doubting this girl and going way off topic regarding is she isnt she married.
i dont agree with that... 1 person says something and others join in, in my eyes that is bullying.
also where nicky says she went into the chatroom and apologised to darkhaven and sao ....she didnt i was in there.
seems like certain people get to say what they please but others get reprimanded. fair enough the thread got out of hand but you cant pull two people up on their comments and not others thats unfair.

i know this debate is over i just reread bk to the chat earlier and you carried on the conversation with us in the chat room no apologizing was made i will stay off the message boards from now on and just stay in chat

I thanked her for trying to cool a situation (as that was what I was infomed) - is that ok or was something else assumed? She is a great member & that was a nice thing to do - so I was commenting on one situation/one post that I hoped had actually sofened the blow of the atmosphere between the handful of girls which was the main concern here.

As you see I called the whole thread catty & bitchy I also stated I gave up on said page and opened it for discussion. I also take into consideration previous activity from all members concerned which I understand you may not but thats apart of my job to keep this forum catty free - well we will always have catty but at one point it has to be nipped in butt if its going personal and out of hand.

FYI also as said in above post the debate was not at question - every single person has a different opinion/view on various situations - I don't have a right to step in and question the opinion but I do have a right to put the actual topic behind for a moment and butt in on the bitchiness and that is what I did. A debate is fine being aggressive in manner is not.

I hope that makes sense and clears up any questions you have regarding the way BabyandBump is ran.