I'm torn on this subject,
there are very obvious reasons why planning a baby as a teen would be seen as silly or mad. but then if anyone of any age was to decide to ttc without a place to live, a job etc i'd see it as being barking mad age doesnt come into it.
Even now at the age of 22 friends/family pass comment on what ill be missing out on in life... holidays, nights out etc but the way i see it they personally dont think they could cope so they assume i wont (if you get what i mean). whereas Ive already been a parent to my little brother and I still am in some respects. I dont feel like I have missed out ive still been able to enjoy my life even if i did have my little brother to think of.

what makes u think i dont know about the situation of abuse? (assumptions)
i wasnt even thinking about abuse when i posted that comment, because it was JUST AN EXAMPLE.
but fair enough, if someone wants a baby at any age, i doubt people on a forum are going to change their mind, but nikky was still trying to be helpful..

16 year old sometomes don't think things over.
I wouldn't be sure she actually thought about it.

And my first post maybe wasn't a comment but I posted an advice and it was friendly.I don't judge the girl or think less of her.
I don't think less on anyone on this forum and I keep my posts strictly friendly and nice.

I haven't made it through the entire thread yet but from what I have seen we all need to be reminded of what Wobbs said on page 3...back to reading now

lol ella if you knew about how painful abusive families where you wouldnt of even used it to comment on weather dark was being harsh or not. if you were making an informed comment on it you'd of not even mentioned it cuz hello its not the done thing in any situation in ANY context at all

But you are assuming you know this girl thats what i think is unfair you dont know her shes not asking about weather she should TTC or not so why not keep your opinions to yourself shes asking about testing!! hello making un needed comment i think

i had nothing else to make an assumption from. i really dont think u understand and do i need to say this again that it was JUST AN EXAMPLE.

she came on here to ask advice regarding whether she should be testing or not. as she's been ttc for 4 months, as her post says.
so obviously she has made her mind up regarding wether she should ttc or not.
i noticed at the end of her post it didn't say
FEEL FREE TO JUDGE OR MAKE ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT ME MY LIFE AND MY SITUATION.
she asked for advice and got abuse.
how can anyone pass comment on what somebody else thinks... if a couple of no matter what age feel emotionally and financialy ready to bring a child into the world who are we to judge especially when no further details are known, we dont know what situation she's in bloody hell she could be in a better financial position than others on here.

so in answer to ashieb92's question
I think you should wait until you're late for your period and test then, I tested early and got a negative then a week later a positive so save your money till your late hun.

look ffs ella I KNOW IT WAS AN EXAMPLE!!! ok? we get this yes as im not going to post it again.....BUT it was an extremely bad one that should not have been said its like comparing stealing a puppy to murder and thinking its ok so b4 u tell me im in the wrong again READ WHAT I'M SAYING
thank you

*yawn* i didnt compare the two.
like darkheaven said, it wasn't hurtful to her. however, the comment she made to amy WAS hurtful to amy.